Women from a minority or subjugated group, what do you wish more people knew?

It's an appalling thing for people to say and its just an excuse. It's totally illogical, why would trans women be lurking in bathrooms only to assault instead of the other safer options? How likely is it that a male predator would face the abuse they'll get for appearing trans (including risk of murder) just so they can hang out in the bathroom to assault someone? It's all an excuse to attack trans for daring to exist.

just to provide some citations, numbers, and evidence to back up your absolutely accurate statements:

When laws permit transgender people to access sex-segregated spaces in accordance with their gender identities, crime rates do not increase. There is no association between trans-inclusive policies and more crime. As one of us wrote in a recent paper, this is likely because, just like cisgender folks, “transgender people use locker rooms and restrooms to change clothes and go to the bathroom,” not for sexual gratification or predatory reasons.

Conversely, when trans people are forced by law to use sex-segregated spaces that align with the sex assigned to them at birth instead of their gender identity, two important facts should be noted.

First, no studies show that violent crime rates against cisgender women and girls in such spaces decrease. In other words, cisgender women and girls are no safer than they would be in the absence of anti-trans laws. Certainly, the possibility exists that a cisgender man might pose as a woman to go into certain spaces under false pretenses. But that same possibility remains regardless of whether transgender people are lawfully permitted in those spaces.

Second, trans people are significantly more likely to be victimized in sex-segregated spaces than are cisgender people. For instance, while incarcerated in facilities designated for men, trans women are nine to 13 times as likely to be sexually assaulted as the men with whom they are boarded.

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In society at large, between 84% and 90% of all crimes of sexual violence are perpetrated by someone the victim knows, not a stranger lurking in the shadows – or the showers or restroom stalls. But trans and nonbinary people feel very unsafe in bathrooms and locker rooms, though others experience relative safety there. In fact, the largest study of its kind found that upward of 75% of trans men and 64% of trans women reported that they routinely avoid public restrooms to minimize their chances of being harassed or assaulted.

from: https://theconversation.com/baseless-anti-trans-claims-fuel-adoption-of-harmful-laws-two-criminologists-explain-206570

These laws aren't designed to protect women, they are designed to police gender (this impacts cis people too!) and eliminate trans people from public life.

It really sucks that you have to deal with this kind of experience.

I've always tried to "ignore" disabilities in social interactions, but I'm not perfect. Thanks for the reinforcement! 🩷