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  • When starting to cook on my own, I always found it very stressful, because I felt you had to do so many things in parallel and then you look away for too long at the wrong time and something burns.

    What helped me is reading the whole recipe very carefully and then prepare everything before actually starting to cook. Many recipes tell you something like "while x simmers, cut y / prepare z". That's fine, when you have developed a feeling for how long things take, but as a beginner, it's better to do everything sequentially. It takes longer that way, but it makes it much less stressful and overwhelming.

  • In addition to what others have said already: make peace with the fact that you WILL make mistakes, that the first few tries WILL look weird and that you WILL forget an allegedly important step. This is just part of the learning courve and happened to literally everyone who ever learned to make meals in the history of cooking, so do not compare the first ever flattened sushi roll you made with something a master chef with 30+ years of experience is able to do or the heavily photoshopped pictures on food blogs.

    You will learn from those mistakes, and you will gain more experience over time. Small progress is still progress.

    Also, it can help to only make PART of a recipe yourself when you're still a bit unsure how all of it works, like for example buying premade pizza dough and only add the sauce and toppings yourself, or buying premade pie dough and only make the filling. One step at a time.

  • Meal kit delivery services are awesome, in my opinion. They send you the ingredients for like 3 meals every week. For me personally, the worst part about trying to cook was always looking at a cookbook and realizing you don't have all the ingredients. So this takes the shopping out of the equation, which just makes it super simple. I've talked to a few people that don't like them, so they're not for everyone.

  • Buy a cookbook and just start making the things that look good. It comes with practice.

  • of the websites that I used to learn how to cook some fifteen, twenty years ago, serious eats is still pretty reliable. I like their articles - they tell you why food cooks the way it does. I learned to cook on a basic red pasta sauce what's been going around the family for generations so I'd recommend looking at their italian and starting there.

  • Start simple. Like pasta. You boil water, add pasta, set a timer, stir. Drain the water when the timer goes off, but taste it first to make sure. Boom. You cooked pasta.

    Beyond that, I would say that you have to make sure you read the recipe to completion, at least once, before you start cooking. Don’t have the recipe ready, and start cooking without having read the whole thing.

    Then break it down. Get all your prep work done before you turn on the heat. Have stations for different processes, and have any utensils & bowls you’re going to need, during cooking, ready to go.

    Have all the things you’re adding on the side of your weak arm, while your dominant arm stirs, and have all the things lined up in order, so you don’t have to think beyond “grab closest thing & dump.”

    Get as much of the thinking done before you turn on the heat, and have everything ready to go, lined up, and sorted out. Then you’ll be able to fully focus on the cooking, not getting things ready at the last minute.

  • Pick the simplest things you enjoy eating and start with those. I usually just cooked the same thing over and over until I got fed up of them. This is okay as long as your diet remains diverse.

    And not everything needs to be cooked. Make use of cold salads and such. I love olives. Olive oil is awesome for both salad and cooking. Salads are often seen as the main dish but I much prefer them as a side, like rice.

    Follow the recipe as best as you can at first. You'll be fine, the only important thing is food safety, e.g. handling raw chicken.

    Oh and btw even pros screw up their cooking here and there. Don't feel too bad if you get it wrong while millions of kids starve out there.

  • I highly recommend subscribing to a meal delivery kit for a few weeks, I think they’re fantastic for beginners. Reasons:

    • Grocery shopping and ingredient portioning is already done for you, allowing you to focus on the cooking
    • Ability to try new ingredients without committing to buying a full quantity of the ingredient. It sucks when you buy a specific sauce for a new recipe you want to try, only to realize you’re never going to want to use it again.
    • Enough choices in recipes but not an overwhelming amount; there are so many recipes and resources online that that’s all you need to learn, but it can be overwhelming and hard to know where to start
    • Recipes are generally standardized, well-tested, and don’t require special equipment or advanced techniques

    I definitely don’t recommend doing this long term because it starts to get repetitive and is ultimately more expensive than doing your own shopping and planning, but it removes quite a few barriers to entry. Home Chef was the one I enjoyed the most personally but Blue Apron is also reliable and liked by many. Once you are comfortable with the basics you can really just search any recipe you’re interested in and just go for it; follow your interests and the skills will come with experience.

    • I'm going to second this idea having used a couple meal prep services in the past.

    • Similar idea to this is to look at CSA (Community Supported Agriculture) in your area. Each are a bit different but the ideal would be one where you can do a smaller share that will let you get a wide variety of produce in weekly pickups. I'm subscribed to one this summer I'm quite liking. Each week it's a different variety of fruit and veggies with recipe recommendations. They give out pack lists in advance so you can do your shopping to make sure you have what you need for cooking (because it doesn't give you everything like a meal kit).

      The big thing is it forces you to figure things out and just try things to a greater degree than meal kits in my opinion. Like recently summer squash and zucchinis were in season so I ended up cut them up together and throwing them in butter and oil really lazily due to some random recipe suggestion I found. Had too much zucchini left over so tried out zoodles which is surprisingly trivial. I've even now done quick pickling because they gave me so many fucking mini-cucumbers, which also is surpringly easy as long as you have glass jars. I liked that especially as it gives me much more of a sense that I actually made something VS something immediately eaten.

      It's only about a year ago I started making any attempts at cooking, having the CSA has done a lot more for pushing me into the deep end than anything else. I tried meal kits in the past and it never really stuck with me or felt less overwhelming. Starting from an ingredient just seems to click more for me, but it'll definitely depend on what is it about cooking that's a problem for you. For me I knew the basic mechanics and have no problem grocery shopping but how ingredients combine and why was a mystery that following a complex recipe roboticly didn't help with.

      I know not everyone has the same availability for access to local farms and it can be an upfront cost that's difficult for people. But if you look around you might be surprised what's available, some farms will really go out of their way to make things convenient since CSA can be a huge way for them to stay in operation. And you get a lot of the freshest food possible over the course of months.

  • Make a meal, you will get better at it every time and figure out your own method and feel. New things I use recipes for as reference. At first you will just wanna take your time and don't stress yourself out.

  • Genuine question with no intention to talk down on someone: how are there adults that don't know how to cook at least the basics? My mother told me a story about how she went on a trip at school and a teacher that apparently had never cooked before wanted to make spaghetti by putting them in the cold water and then boiling them. Ended up with a huge fused chunk of pasta. How can you not know how to at least make pasta as an adult? Parents and then partner that always cook for you?

  • Rather than searching recipes you could cook, just think about what you’d like to eat today and try to do it yourself

  • You start with something simple and easy to make then gradually start trying to make more complex things once you have some confidence. "How do I get experience in something I've never done before?" You do it, make some mistakes, and do it again.

  • My mother taught me how to cook basic stuff at an early age and every time she would remind it was important I knew how to make my own food in case something happened to her.

    Kindergarten age: make your own chocolate milk

    6 y/o to 8: Learn how to boil rice, learn how to cook pasta. Sandwiches.

    8+ : fried eggs, potato and pumpkin mash. Veal and chicken schnitzel (crumbed) is very easy too, though time consuming. Cooking steak in the oven is very easy, same for chicken drumsticks. You don't need to add anything to it, just salt or lemon, remember to oil the tray though.

    Learn to wash veg thoroughly for salads. Lemon, olive oil and salt make a good dressing 90% of the time. Grate carrots. Learn you can boil legumes too.
    At this point, with this knowledge and a can opener you have enough resources to eat healthily and cook your own very easily. I still eat pretty much this most of the time and I'm in my mid 30s now.

    Next come omelettes, meatballs, patties. Quiche is super easy too. Once you master this level you can easily follow more complex recipes from any book. If you got any questions for the basic recipes just let me know.

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