2y ago

Pfft

After two weeks I visited reddit again. Holy shit the misogyny and lack of critical thinking in the comments is something else.
Eternal summer over there

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Absolutely. This place may be less active, but discussions have definitely been much more civil and constructive. So far, I haven't had any toxic reactions to any of my comments, whereas on reddit no matter what you write or however careful you write it, there would always be someone taking offense at it or being awful in the comments.
I don't mind discussion or disagreement, but on reddit this often means "bringing the other guy down" instead of making your own point.
As this started happening more and more throughout the years, I've often wondered if it was me, if I was so out of touch, but it turned out it was really the children (redditors) who were wrong.
- On Reddit, I gave up on engaging with anything that people even have strong opinions about years ago because I wasn't there looking for a bad time. It's a hard habit to get out of; I'm basically that pink blob in a box meme.
  
  I haven't even questioned my assumptions on a lot of things because you would simply get attacked or banned for voicing any opinion contrary to the echo chamber you found yourself in so you just stopped thinking about it beyond don't interact with these people.
- Lol don't go to lemmygrad.ml is all I can say.
- As this started happening more and more throughout the years, I’ve often wondered if it was me, if I was so out of touch, but it turned out it was really the children (redditors) who were wrong.
  Sometimes Skinner is right.
  
  I'm learnding
- I couldn't agree more, discussion is a lot more civil. Even when we're all disagreeing I've found people are giving each other room to put their point forward and listened (apart from one climate chnage thread but nothings perfect).
  
  if there's global warming why is it so cold right now? heh, gottem.
- I would like to know why, why is it that chill people came here and why most of the awful people stayed there
  
  my personal hypothesis is that the empathic and constructive people are exactly the ones driven away by the money hungry deconstructing antics that reddit leadership currently display.
  
  The first batch of people to make the jump IMO would have been quite open-minded and not afraid to try something new.
  Add in the entry barriers (When I joined, the big instances had either closed or manual signups, prior to lemmyworld and shititjustworks exploding in popularity) and that kind of faff probably weeded out trolls and people looking to cause trouble.
  A lot of the "awful" people don't care about the API or Spez's attitude, they just want to consume, so have no reason really to make the jump to Lemmy/Kbin
  
  because they have a significantly higher tolerance for bullshit
  
  Awful people are, more often than not, lazy people.
- I once made a joke about abandoning abrahamic religions and going back to human sacrifice.
  A neckbeard, a nazi and a heroin addict got offended because of that. Seriously, fuck Reddit.
- You are wrong and a dumb dumb I win gootbye
  
  You misspelled dumdum, dumdum. (/s just in case that wasn't clear)

You mean misANDRY, right? Because white cis het Christian men are truly the most oppressed minority in the history of the world.
Right?
/s
- Bad day? Because there's no way to word myself more neutrally, that came out of left field and it kinda makes you come off like one of those "can't be racist against white people" people...
  
  Your knee jerked you right out of context.
  
  fyi, /s is sarcasm switch
  
  The “/s” is used to indicate that the previous text was sarcasm. It’s a fake HTML formatting tag, meaning the sarcastic part of the text is over.
  “/s” was popular on reddit (though not with everyone), probably because so many users didn’t speak English as their native language, and sarcasm could be hard for them to detect. Even for native speakers, without tone of voice or body language to rely on, sarcasm could go unrecognized.
  Also, some users were willfully ignorant and looking to start a fight, some were oblivious, and others were just morons.

Misogyny is something I saw a lot of on Reddit over the recent years. it was seemingly often "the norm" in the bigger subreddits.
I don't miss it or the constant feeling like I need to argue with a bunch of bad faith people either trolling or genuinely holding horrible views
- Heaven forbid TwoXChromosomes not be a default subreddit. I remember when not every OP was badgered so badly in the comments that she had to go back and ETA "not all men" to the post text. Or how women with scathing and accurate insights about the patriarchy didn't have to always have reddit cares reports filed on their accounts!
  
  This subreddit is the reason I jumped ship before the blackouts. I loved interacting with people there and I don't want to participate in what's it's likely to become. Once the third party mod tools are gone there will be no relatively safe spaces for the ladies on Reddit. I don't want any part of the trolling and misogyny that's being unleashed over there.
  
  really? i was on reddit since forever and i feel like 2x was always brigaded
- the reply of the ill-bred: "equal rights means equal lefts hurr durr"
  
  "I promise I make up fantasies where I get to punch women because I totally just believe in equal rights and not because of misogyny or anything!" - every time. oh and you'd get downvoted to hell if you pointed this stuff out.

Ever since the Reddit shitshow a lot of the decent people left leaving the bigots.

Misogyny was always a problem for me on Reddit and now you’re saying that it’s even worse? I’m so so so glad I left

The content in the last month or so has gone down hill fast.

I was just saying to my spouse this morning how it seems that the smart people have left reddit as there is a discernible drop in the comment quality in some of the communities I frequent. Unfortunately they haven’t even been registered here just yet. I am quitting reddit in a week anyway hopefully by then more of those communities will migrate here. I created two (Signal, Amex), hope others will follow suit.
- i noticed this on the only sub i go to. it seems like most of the good users dipped to here or discord.

I've been saying this to friends, but I'd be careful with even cursory viewing of Reddit for the foreseeable future. It took a long enough time as it was for Reddit to become not overwhelmingly reactionary. The Reddit migration moving into primarily leftist spaces is going to leave behind a website that is quite literally conservative, and bitter. (Note that I am not suggesting people stay behind to re-balance it, merely to be aware that the site is not going to be just the same site with less people on it.)

You’re taking one for the team. I left reddit over two weeks ago, and don’t miss it at all.

I came here for a post about a fart, oh how disappointed I am.
- No, we're all about pooping right now, not farts.
  
  Wait, I thought it was about NOT pooping. I've been hearing about No Poop July.
  
  Hold yours in until you reach a volume of twelve liters!

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