I’ve given Amanda Palmer the slant eye ever since her The Art of Asking TED talk. It seemed to me that she either doesn’t understand or pretends not to understand power dynamics in relationships.
She rushed to reassure him. “It was consensual (and wonderful)!” she wrote.
This is an awful situation to be in and I know people often don’t think clearly after experiencing sexual trauma, but she really didn’t do herself any favors by sending text messages like that.