Lemmy feels really busy to me

Also, on Reddit I felt dread seeing that there was something in my inbox. On Lemmy, I'm excited to see what someone wrote. Just a very different experience overall.

Agreed, and it's kinda neat to start recognizing people's names across different communities. Really feels like old-school internet forums in that way.

You can always be heard on Reddit. Reply to the top level comment with a sex related joke or the popular meme trend and upvotes will roll I'm fast. You could also make a post that allows others to be judgemental, like relationship advice or am I the asshole; and again you'll get lots of attention. Or pretend to be a girl and comment of weed and sexuality. There are lots of ways to get attention.

It's small enough to recognize names. Big enough where running into a furry with an unreasonably flashy emojis in their name, or someone from some place you never herd had the knowledge of its presence forcefully injected into your brain through an unspecified method of perception is common place.

Edit: Typo.

Hipster dive bars have always been cooler than the "hip spots" anyway.

Most popular english communities are already too big though. They're always flooded with comments, and sometimes everyone says exactly the same, such as if they didn't read through the comments before commenting themselves. Discussions on, e.g., c/ich_iel@feddit.org are much more fun.

Agreed. On Reddit, if you weren’t there in the first hour of a rising post, your comment won’t be seen by many.

I love that Lemmy posts have a longer “shelf life,” so to speak. I can see something posted days ago and still find fresh comments, which in turn encourages me to add something if it feels relevant. If I had scrolled a two day old post on Reddit, any comment I add would be rarely seen, or at most responded to with “Why are you commenting on a dead post?”

196 is great

I’ll take a meaningful comment from one human being over 10,000 bots any day.

True, but reddit is better for niche interests. For example, we don't seem to have any serious philosophy or history communities here. (I am happy to be wrong here, someone please let me know.) On the other hand, r/askphilosophy and r/askhistorians regularly get interesting questions answered by actual professionals.

I didn't expect to like square heads as much as I've enjoyed using them. But coming from Philips it's hard for something not to be an improvement

Did I have that conversation with you?

If not, there are dozens of us against timezones!

I learned Torx is the best for specialized instances and Phillips head is why I hate screwing things sometimes.

There's definitely a difference with scale.

On reddit, I was never on the default front page or /r/all. I was subbed to a hundred niche communities.

On lemmy that's harder in 2 ways. The first is the critical mass you need to keep a community active, and the second is fragmentation.

For instance, I was super active in the scuba and underway photography subreddits. Not only is the community tiny here, but which scuba sub do i go to? With multiple instances, there's no default community named "scuba."

If you just want to look at and respond to anything there is enough people. If you want to find specific, niche communities then it's still pretty small.

I would say the population size makes it a little easier to recognize the more friendly responses too. I feel on Reddit the friendly responses are quickly buried by the more spiteful ones.

Yup.

Reddit is so big 95% of your comments get buried with no replies. There's no conversation most of the time. You're just reading the conversations of others who got in on the post really early and got upvoted to the top.

I'm also of the opinion that the average IQ on Lemmy is notably higher than the average IQ on Reddit, so the discussions tend to be less clownish.

This is the opinion of someone that finally got tired of Reddit and jumped to Lemmy just over a month ago. I also feel like I'm seeing more activity on Lemmy just over the last few weeks. So there's probably others like me that just got fed up and made the switch.

I'm kind of crossing my fingers that Lemmy doesn't get too popular. It'll ruin this like it ruins every social media site.

Yeah sometimes even parts of mastodon feel like they're getting too impersonal. Like I'll be in a conversation and realise I don't any of these people

Reddit gets a lot more votes and comments.. but I think the number of people actually talking to each other is about the same. Most the comments are just noise.

Same, though I primarily just lurk on Reddit, I got tired of the hive mentality and the bots. Lemmy has grown quite a bit since I joined, which makes me come back for more

One thing I really like about Lemmys small size is how posts can remain relevant for some time. It's very laid back for a social media. You can have discussions that last for days on Lemmy, and there's no need to constantly update or FOMO if you don't check in for awhile.

Reddit is far too busy. There's just a constant sea of noise. It's practically pure luck if a post gets noticed, and if you don't comment early then you comment is basically lost. For the most part content on reddit loses all relivence within 12-24 hours, and having any real place within the community requires constant engagement.

The fediverse doesn’t need perpetual growth. That’s VC investor bullshit.

I reckon this is key. So many people seem to take the view that since such-and-such site is very small compared to Facebook or Twitter or whatever, then it must be failing; As if maximising the number of users is the ultimate goal.

Maximising users might be the goal for investors, so that they can monetise and maximise profits. But for people actually using the service, it's totally beside the point. We don't need to be in conversation with 100,000,000 people at once. More people doesn't always make it better. In many cases it actually makes it worse.

The only thing I miss about the sprawl of reddit is the activity in niche subreddits. Hopefully, the variety implicit to the fediverse enables us to toe the line between VC expansionism and rich communities for obscure interests.

Yup. A certain flying squid comes to mind.

Ohh yes... But it also shows how small Lemmy still I.

I really don’t mind when Lemmy isn’t mentioned in the news when the topic of users bailing on Reddit/twitter/etc comes up.

Flys under the radar and keeps Lemmy small and nonthreatening to big platforms. We’ve certainly learned that growing to Reddits size means a breakdown in quality and who the hell wants to attract the kind of users that ruined Reddit?

When you get tired of Hot or Scaled sort, try switching to New, especially of All - it has many additional benefits like discovering new communities to join. You can find things there that you may really enjoy, yet receive barely any attention - e.g. poetry - so that you would basically have never seen it while sorting by Hot.

Same. Grew out of 4 Chan when it was about rage comics and anonymous (before the fascist takeover). This feels like vising a familiar place.

I think you may mean https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duffless . Saw that one recently. If so, then https://simpsons.fandom.com/wiki/Duffless/References has the picture you are looking for

Mostly lord of the ring memes and saddam hussein

Actually there is !selfhosted@lemmy.world which is an active community.

"let's all go to flaming Moe's"

The niche comms are more like blogs. Usually 1-2 people keep them alive, and sometimes there is discussion in the comments.

Exactly. The niche communities is where Reddit has excelled for over a decade. The front page has always been a grim place to be.

I really don't like the gaslighting regarding Lemmy success. I like Lemmy, but let's not pretend it's a viable alternative for these use cases. Even popular communities for sports like football are utterly dead on Lemmy.

This depends on perspective. Reddit is much better for most very specific communities, but also much more of a time sink than Lemmy due to just how much larger it is. In terms of reclaiming some of your time back using Lemmy is a great alternative to Reddit because you can't scroll forever, forcing you to stop. This is thoroughly in the realm of a feature for me, not having Reddit on my phone or PC is much better in terms of how I use my time.

Talking to the wrong person is only an issue if you’re also talking on their home turf. Otherwise it’s a nothing burger

Why do you want instances when communities are enough?

• !privacy@lemmy.ml
• !privacyguides@lemmy.one
• !privacy@lemmy.world

What do you want to talk about?

Do you have an example of such? You would expect such declarations to be moderated by now

That's not true! I mean, there's also politics here as well 🤣.