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veronicaella @lemm.ee

4mo ago

When someone says to you…”I don’t like you”. How u respond?

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"Ok"

With a shurg and walk away.
- This.
  Why should I care about someone, some random person's opinion?
  
  Who said it was a random person?

It only matters when someone wants to make their dislike of you your problem.
I competed in roller derby with a guy who told me to my face he didn't like me, but he was respectful and never withheld coaching, scrimmaged with me and was a good teammate, and we otherwise just stayed out of each others' space. We just didn't have personalities that meshed.
It was no big deal.
- This is the most constructive situation
  
  I don't think it occurs to many people that you can dislike someone and also not actively be a jerk to them.

Then we have something in common

"I don't need you to."
- ^ Best Reply.
  Simple,
  Isn't petty. Doesn't explicitly say you don't like them.
  Shows confidence that their opinion isn't important to you if they are that immature.
  If they were mature, they would have explained what their beef is, and not a vague 'don't like you' kind of response.
  If they can't articulate what you said or action you took that makes them not like you. They aren't worth your time.

“I don’t think about you at all”

Depends on the context.
Someone in a romantic relationship? Emotional wreck, even if they just said it out of anger.
A trusted friend? Most likely take some time to think about my personal choices.
Some random person I've never met, or who I dislike? Wouldn't care one bit unless they gave a reason why and they were right.

"Sounds like a personal problem."

Thanks mom

"Same."

"You're wrong. I'm very likable."
- And then proceed to stare them down.

"something we have in common"

Casually ignore them and walk away.
Then I'm not in sight anymore I circle back around and follow them to their car, noting their plate number to I can pay a police buddy to get me an address. The I follow them to until I know where they work and what their job is.
Then I take on training and job experience that would make me a good manager for that type of work, and monitor job postings at their company until I see my opening, nail the interview, and become their boss.
At this point, they've likely moved on and forgotten who I am.
But I haven't forgotten them.
I proceed to make their job miserable and impossible, until one day I call them into my office to explain that why need to let them go for poor performance. Then I lean way in, right up in their face, and say quietly "And, to be honest... I don't like you."
Then I quit and go back to my normal life. No sweat off my back.
- And that kids, is why you always leave a note!
  
  Goddamn, I am traumatised. HIS ARM!!!
  Oops, forgot to answer the question, tho others have. "Oh no, anyway." is my answer

Why bother responding?

"Good for you" in a cheery voice

K.

Same

I ask why.

"Oh good, I can stop fucking acting like I tolerate being around you, then"

"K"

Okay

If this is a follow up to his friend doesn't like you and he has death sentance in 12 systems then cut off his arm!

I give them a thumbs up.

Me neither.

Scream in their face "you don't even fucking know me!"

“Thank you, that’s very kind of you”. Control the conversation and put them on the back foot.

Don't respond. Anyone who feels the need to express that is just looking for a reaction. Don't indulge them. When people genuinely dislike someone they tend to only interact with them when absolutely necessary, so if they're volunteering the information without being prompted it's only for a reaction.

“Neat”

"And?"

Good to know

"Oh nooooooo"

“Noted.”

And??????

Someone else's opinion of me is none of my business.
It may still hurt, but maybe not.

Never been in that situation

"I'm sorry for you to have this mental deficit."

"Fine"

No one does that.

Na und?

File that under when I care for your opinion.
If you had respect and do care, ask why.

"and also be with you"
or "you're welcome"

"You've given me a lot to think about. Thank you."

"Aww, shucks."

Cool. Cool cool cool.

Honestly I know I'm an acquired taste, so if this ever happened to me I'd probably say "Different strokes for different folks! ¯(ツ)_/¯"

"Yeah, welI I don't like me either!
Wanna form a club?..."

meh, can't make everyone happy.

@Veronicaella "Well ain't it a good thing I don't value you're opinion". If they already think you're a cunt you might as well embrace it by saying something equally obnoxious.

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