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I do find it quite weird when people claim to be proud of something for which they did nothing to achieve it. Like, his shirt literally says that he was born male. I guess, he did manage to get successfully born, so uh good job?

In a hyper-individuelistic society where everyone is constantly being compared and judged, the feeling that you're better than everyone else brings incredible relief. Of course the concept of being better than others is deeply flawed but you never learned to question these things. So how do you achieve the feeling? Study hard, lift others around you, save your money. Sure, but that takes years, and it's hard work. So what if you're inherently better than others-- that solves it. Race, language, gender, nationaliry.. All things that cost you no effort. There's another shortcut to these feelings. All you have to do to in order to become better than most of the population and get into to heaven is say that you believe the Bible. That's it. Just gotta say you believe it and you're in the club. Zero effort, all the dopamine. Supporting some sports team. Buying a particular car. Using what you buy to signal to others something about you. Bumper stickers, adding a ribbon to your profile picture, posting some cringe on LinkedIn, attention seeking on your birthday.. All attempts to showcase how excellent you are with minimal effort.

So if your entire sense of self worth is based on attributes about you which you were either born with or cost you no effort, you'll want to support anyone who places importance on those things. Nationality, consumerism, race, gender, religion, etc.

Do you need a hiking buddy? ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

I had a yellow one sticking out... and found out about the codes that evening.

It means you're a dom

I think being bottom is about getting fucked.

Man, and I thought Pokemon was complicated.

Fist fuckee

Red/white gingham referencing park sex plus mosquito netting referencing outdoor sex has got me rolling

So many slight variations of red... that could get confusing with how different each one is lol.

Well, we take the hankies out when someone catches a whiff of Lily Law or Jennifer Justice.

But for real, both are really cool means of coded communication. Hankies are definitely less of a “Gay men” thing than a leather community thing, though that’s getting into niche enough subcultural divisions that it’s not the sort of thing most people care to learn and there’s really no point for them to. But yeah the hankies partly served the same role as polari, it’s a way to communicate illegal desires in a way that requires being taught the code. It’s actually quite similar to learning drug slang, except with a higher barrier to entry back in the day.

But what a fine nose it is.

YES, I have a nose,

YES, I smell things,

DEAL WITH IT

You weren’t born with that nose, it’s a lifestyle choice

The only time I would say that doesn't apply is when you're part of a traditionally marginalized group. Black pride, or queer pride or indigenous pride all make sense to me. Because it's a collective pride thing more than an individual pride thing.

Which is true, there are parts I like about being a man, and there are parts I dislike about being a man.

In general I am comfortable

I will make no secret about how I don't really understand transgender people, it used to annoy me, but since about a year or two ago I realized that it doesn't matter to me, and it apparently matters a lot to them.

So I stopped caring enough to be annoyed, I realized that if they are happy and it doesn't hurt others, then I have no reason to make their day worse.

To all trans people, I may not understand what you feel, but I will not be a dick about it, my confusion is my own issue and I will do my best to not make it yours.

Huh, I've been banging on about this for awhile in isolation after talking to a lot of cis people about gender and it's really weird to see it in an article by someone else.

Weird and validating.

Depends on your context of "proud". Pride movements for instance aren't nessisarily about being specifically proud of your gender / sexual orientation in the same way one is of your accomplishments. The movement co-opted the word to mean something subtly different. When some says "I am a proud gay man" for instance the statement does not imply "I think I am particularly special given this trait and am worthy of praise because of it" what is actually being implied is "I am not ashamed by this trait and will not be treated as if I should be. "

The movement has it's own language and "Pride" specifically was chosen as being the opposite of shame which was the affect people were expected to have by society. The people who created the idea did so out of participation in gay support groups at the time where the social norm was always that you had to perform a performative regret like being gay was a habit akin to a drug addiction. You were reinforced to adopt a narrative that you were unhappy and struggling - even when actually your partner and community might be a source of great joy. Gay Marches were shirt and tie events where one soberly asked for people to see you as a human that passes for straight, all the culture and actual proclivity tucked behind a neat mask where that undercurrent of shame was still at play.

True Emancipation, according to the Pride movement, was fighting the narrative that there was anything shameful about being happy. They decked themselves in rainbows as an allusion to the joy they wanted to show the world, modeled Pride events on Independence day events and affected instead of performative shame performative pride. Something that would allow them to be unapologetic in their fight for actual rights to exist in the light of day as opposed to the former affect of shame that turned them into pitiful beggars asking for scraps of patchy tolerance to exist in the shadows as people who would treat their own way of being as a failure state.

It might be easier for people to understand the context if you quoted more of the original image, like

The "proud fuckin' male" doth protest too much

The male version of lady would be gentleman though...

he/hole

I guarantee he didn’t want to spell it out because it’s a bad word because he’s a fucking pussy

Yeah, he’s too pussy to spell out fuck because it’s a bad word

Even then it might have been the wrong person. I never felt attracted to another man so far but how can I be really 100% (!!!) sure there is not 'the one' out there unless I meet them all? :D

What if you did that and kinda liked it, but the uncertainty is still there? Asking for myself.

So I am a three Turkey sandwiches and six cans of Mt. Dew code red on this day.

Aren't we all.

So according to you homosexual people march on the street with their rainbow flag because of their insecurity?

According to some people it's all good to judge a straight "fragile moron" but when it comes to homosexual, they can't take that. Hypocrisy at its peak

I appreciate the try, it's just not gonna settle in my brain

Actually, it says he's "fukin'" male. Lol

And invites you to "deal" with it 😘

It is a Cracker Barrel

This all makes complete sense now. Thank you!

I don't even really go there but I recognized that checkout counter instantly lol. Used to love the giftshop when I was a kid

I don't agree at all. While it's true that some folks are projecting, I don't think it's good to assume they all are.