I think they’re listening but not hearing. The majority of Americans, and even the majority of republicans, tend to support marriage equality and cannabis legalization, and even support things like a government health care program in significant numbers.
When polled on individual positions, Americans tend to fall well to the left of the republican politicians on most social issues. But that changes when you specifically identify a position as a democratic position. There has been a never-ending barrage of branding attacks on words like “democrat” and “liberal” to the extent that even democratic politicians felt like they had to avoid labels like that for a long time.
I think they have the ability to get people whipped up, because news canalization prevents people from hearing opposing viewpoints. They get away with saying they want to ban drag shows because they don’t want four year olds to watch open sex acts which a) is already illegal and b) has nothing to do with drag. But they don’t hear that - they hear the overblown and patently false rhetoric and that’s what will drive them in the near term.
I’m afraid we’re going to lose ground in both the legal sphere and in public opinion as homophobia, transphobia, misogyny, and racism become to be seen as more acceptable, but as of right now we still have made a significant amount of progress. But if the news media and politicians treat them as areas where multiple legitimate opinions exist, we’re absolutely going to backslide, and it’s going to take decades to just get back to where we are now.