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  • I still hold to my hypothesis that self-proclaimed alpha-males experience the same kind of body / identity dysphoria experienced by some folks in the trans and enby communities, specifically they feel less masculine than they want to be, and are possibly unable to feel adequately masculine no matter how much they express themselves.

  • I mean it may not be true for wolves, but it definitely is true for gorillas and chimps who are very closely related to us. Also most societies from hunter gathering bands all the way up to multi-national empires usually have a single male at the top. Is that right, probably not. Is it natural?, sort of. There seems to be a drive in a lot of men to dominate society and reach the top of the hierarchy. If you combine that natural drive with someone naturally capable to reach the top of the hierarchy and you get an alpha male. You also don't have to be an incel to recognize a lot of women are attracted to these driven capable men.

    The question isn't whether alpha males exist, it's what we as a society should do with them. We shouldn't idolize them and let them rule over us. We should harness there drive and capabilities to help society as a whole

    • It's not true for gorillas or chimps either - and those groups don't share a social structure. I have a feeling that you are not well informed on this topic.

      • You could say it's not true for bonobos but I have no idea how you could make the case that a silverback gorilla is not an "alpha" unless you have some very specific definition. Just pulling from Wikipedia as I'm lazy, but if you have better sources please provide them:

        The silverback is the centre of the troop's attention, making all the decisions, mediating conflicts, determining the movements of the group, leading the others to feeding sites, and taking responsibility for the safety and well-being of the troop. Younger males subordinate to the silverback, known as blackbacks, may serve as backup protection. Blackbacks are aged between 8 and 12 years

        That seems to describe an alpha beta hierarchy structure to me. With chimps it may be a little less obvious and more variable but still, according to wikipedia again:

        Among males, there is generally a dominance hierarchy, and males are dominant over females.

        And

        Male chimpanzees exist in a linear dominance hierarchy. Top-ranking males tend to be aggressive even during dominance stability

        Yes humans have way more complex social structures but almost always there is a hierarchy of men at the top usually with a single man at the apex, call them alphas, the patriarchy, the oppressors, the greats or whatever you want, they exist. Denying their existence or the fundamental drive powering them only helps to obfuscate there motives. We as a society need to recognize those people and harness them for the benefit of society instead of the benefit of themselves.

    • Gorillas and chimps are not similar at all in terms of social structures. Gorillas are heavily polygynous while chimps are more classified as promiscuous. There are more dominant and less dominant males for chimps as well as competition for social status, but social status is less connected with reproduction than in Gorillas, where the head male monopolizes groups of females and infanticide is common.

      Most importantly, they are both very different from humans, who are far more monogamous because raising our babies is incredibly difficult. We're fairly flexible and able to have all types of relationships under the sun, from polygyny to polyandry. Our social structures can have more or less dominant members. While that often coincides with men who best wield violence, there are many other important things that are used to exert domination and control, from group support to one's usefulness at important tasks.

      Above all else, "alpha" men who rise through the ranks by being brutal assholes are not always those who are successful. If anything, the original alpha male study showed how behavior is flexible given the context. In brutal conditions with mostly strangers, violence and domination is likely the most successful strategy. Typically, wolf hierarchies are based on seniority within family units, where being an asshole isn't always the best idea. The situation drives behavior, so alpha bros will only be as prevalent as our social structures support.

      We are capable of whatever currently works best because nature is fundamentally about whatever works best. Biology evolves slowly, but it's also designed to adapt to a variety of circumstances. Most toxic men are made by being rewarded for toxicity instead of being rewarded for rejecting it. Different people tend towards different behavior through a multitude of factors, but room can be made to satisfy most typical impulses in a positive way.

      You are kinda right about harnessing things like biology, but our understanding of things is the most dangerous thing of all.

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