Question for y'all looking at this: are there any Lemmy communities that aren't necessarily cis-male-specific that I can post this sort of thing in, other than this one?
There's not really a whole lot of genderqueer comms that I'm aware of. Maybe !femboys@lemmynsfw.com but there's not a lot of stuff around here specific to the amab enby territory besides femboy/sissy stuff.
You could try !gonewild@lemmynsfw.com, for example. Or the ones mentioned in this thread by other people. The twin sister community to this one (!cocks@lemmynsfw.com would be fine as well (as well as being a bit more active lately, as far as I looked into that).
You can actually wear whatever you like in your own home. Want to wear an evening gown or latex catsuit and play video games? Go ahead and enjoy yourself.
It’s generally a good idea to try wearing a piece of clothing at home for a bit before wearing it outside.