I'm in this picture, and I don't like it.

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forget a 3rd monitor, you need 1 giant curved one.
- Suuuucks for development at least, it's too small to divide into 3 zones, and if you divide by 2 you will just end up with a kink in your neck from always looking to the side. I'd rather have a single 27" with infinite virtual desktops I can shuffle around, than a 49" (my 49" has actually been collecting dust in storage for a couple of years now).
  
  or three 27" monitors so that the middle one is centered. it's the coolest shit ever imo
  
  What's a good virtual desktop application?. Windows used to have an amazing animation when you switched desktops, but it's gone now and I'm not sure I can learn to trust again
- I bought a 49” super ultrawide to replace my dual monitor setup and I found while 32:9 gaming I still wanted to watch fullscreen videos so I added back my 27”. Might add back my other 27” so I can do fullscreen discord/other stuff. Lemme tell you, SUW absolutely ruins a person.
- 3rd giant curved one
- I finally joined the club and got a 34” curved monitor this month. Pretty good so far. It has also cleared up space on my desk instead several monitors taking up most of it. I still use my laptop as an extra screen to the side though.
- I hate curved monitors, can’t stand the distorted image. Fortunately there are a few non-curved ultrawides on the market.
  
  I went curved and now the flat monitors at work are annoying because the far edges are too far away ='(
- frfr

I already feel less lonely just thinking about it.

Me having a third monitor: No.
- A fourth one!
  
  He has four, the laptop is just partially closed.
- Your monitors just doesn't has enough hrz.
- Don't make me downvote you

idk. How about a 4th one too?
- Having the standard three and a top center is perfect way to run a dual personal/work PC setup in my experience.
  
  the wasd layout, lol
- I bring a portable monitor from home to work to have 4 screens 💀

Knowing you have N monitors, the perfect amount is N+1

Well of course, how else are you going to enjoy 3rd monitor content?

Given that her other suggestion is pickleball, I'm going to guess that the old adage of "if a headline is a question, the answer is usually just no" holds up..
- Have three monitors. Can confirm.
  Considering a fourth.
  
  go for it! i have four (three 27" 1440p monitors on the main group and one 22" 1080p to the side for diagnostics ~~and for wallpaper engine because i like my wallpapers too much and otherwise i'd just keep a monitor empty all the time~~) but i'm considering four more. like four small 1080p monitors mounted above the three main ones for docs, discord, whatever

Anything but talking to other people
- Fr though, "where?"
  I'm seriously looking for ideas, I never got into social media, I will not sign up for them nor dating social medias, and as I age I've become disenfranchised with alcohol in general and the alcoholics I used meet in bars which was the last vestige of a local meeting place once school ended. My hobbies are all sort of loner hobbies as well like books and old bad movies, probably a consequence of being an only child in a single parent household, which tbh, I like that I can be mostly self sufficient and don't seek to find my happiness in others, but I'd like to meet someone if the option is available. But where do I meet people now? It is rather uncouth to ask people out for coffee while they're working somewhere I am a customer even if I do it super politely, but that is likely the only place I will interact with other humans all day outside of work and lemmy, unless I have to go to two stores. Afaik, the 80s are over and you can't ask other customers in the grocery store either anymore lest you come off as a creep for just saying "hey I think you look super cool and I was wondering if you weren't seeing anyone maybe you'd like to get some coffee sometime?" (To be fair, I haven't tested this theory, I just feel creepy every time I think "I should just fucking ask" and psych myself out, so, maybe? Maybe if I just lead with "hey it's hard af to meet people these days right? Well anyway I'm ArcaneSlime, what's your name, wanna get coffee?") Maybe use Alovoa since it respects privcy, but idk if that is viable just yet, and then I have to put pictures of me on an online acct? I haven't done that in 10yr because it is antithetical to the concept of privacy in and of itself! Work I can make friends at all day, even on the go it can be done though it is certainly more rare, but I can't date people from work because if it doesn't work out it might get weird for one of the two parties, I don't like that dynamic.
  Sometimes I think I should just become an alcoholic again just so that I can fucking meet people. Any ideas on where to meet people other than bars or online are welcome. We need weed bars like cigar bars and hooka lounges, I can still smoke weed without feeling physically ill.
  /rant lol.
  Oh and to preempt cries of "incel," I'm not complaining about women, I'm complaining about the lack of meeting places that aren't "the local bar or tinder," and looking for ideas on ones I may have missed. If I didn't like women I wouldn't be looking for more ways to meet them! Lol
  
  I feel that. It feels all the socials "wells or waterholes" have dried up, and everything's migrated to apps. I know some young people complain about the same regarding dating: you have to be on a dating app as trying to approach people outside them seem suspect... Meanwhile the culture on this apps can be atrocious, and favour the lowest common denominator...
  /rant
  On the more constructive side: I play the numbers game, I guess. I socialize with everyone and participate in anything I feel remotely interesting, when moving to a new place or similar. Visiting cafes, art sites, local clubs for this and that, sport events. And yeah, I used to hit the pubs. Then I just interact - not /to make friends/ explisitely, but just as part of me being normal. In the end, after talking with everyone, everywhere I go, you probably have interacted with hundreds of people, and you can of end with a handful that you hang out with from there. It just kind of happens.
  Just to be clear, I'm not trying to do this in a (very) forced or creepy way, just in a way I feel is natural and "totally normal", at least to me. E.g. at a gallery looking at a picture, if I really like the picture, and I see someone else studying it - and they don't look aloof or like they would mind - I carefully try to strike up a chat. If they signal they don't want, I disengage.
  But, yeah, I find the lack of non-drinking meeting places a drag...
  
  Go travelling. South East Asia is cheap and full of friendly locals and fellow travellers who are keen to meet new people all the time. The trick with this stuff is to get out of your comfort zone
  
  Figure out what you can do to help people in your community or neighborhood and you'll end up meeting some nice people
  
  Borrow a dog and go to dog parks.
- I use my third monitor explicitly for talking to other people, specifically email, teams, and sms.
  If anyone is running multi-monitor on Windows, I highly recommend trying Actual Window Manager.

I got a 3rd monitor so it will be nice and symmetrical

As a coder, I do feel lonely with only 2 monitors.
- Portrait oriented monitor will warm your heart from the inside.
  
  But now I can only fit one file per monitor! You get some, you lose some.

Come on lads, we all know what the third monitor is for
- It's for angling with it's back more towards the door in case the Mrs walks in. It buys a few more seconds of safety.
  
  Precisely
- One for game, one for Discord/Browser, one for stream Labs when recording/temp monitoring.
  Can't imagine what else you'd need a full monitor for ⁠(⁠ಠ⁠_⁠ಠ⁠)
  
  Porn, my friend. Porn.
- Yeeah you got us, it's for discord.. you're right i don't realy need it it's for discord. But i like it!
  
  Ahh you're right, didn't think of that but discord would also combat loneliness

In total, I, a chronically single man, have 6 monitors and 2 TVs. I am very much in this picture and I don’t like it.

But what about the fourth monitor?
- No, it's five, you can only have an odd number or else it's very awkward
  
  6 is a very normal arrangement

For some reason, I read it as “male baldness” and found it even funnier.

You need one for the programming IDE, one for stackexchange/ChatGPT, and one for Youtube/social media/porn. I thought that's the standard configuration.

Maybe, but I need a bigger desk first. 2 24's as far as I can get them already fill my field of view.

How is “male” loneliness different from loneliness…?
- Men are lonely for different reasons then women

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