I can’t think of a a good title so why not just write a long sentence instead
I can’t think of a a good title so why not just write a long sentence instead
I can’t think of a a good title so why not just write a long sentence instead
I would love to create a community on here for men's mental health and (actual) issues, but I'm afraid it would get invaded by the toxic masculinity crap.
Isn't this exactly part of the problem? Men have been gaslit into "being a man" on one side, while also being taught to fear "toxic masculinity" if they try to discuss their problems in group/digital settings. It seems no matter how such a community behaves there will always people that push both of these narratives. But they're not part of the solution, so I'm not sure I'm gonna take them seriously.
Guys being gas lit into "Being man" is the toxic masculinity I am talking about.
I finally started to address my mental health issues and would love a community like that fwiw
Done, wish me luck.
Hi there! Looks like you linked to a Lemmy community using a URL instead of its name, which doesn't work well for people on different instances. Try fixing it like this: !mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
It's is a good idea... but it will get hijacked by right-wing grifters. That's how the whole "incel" thing got started.
Yeah - I haven’t checked Reddit again but there was
Menslib, which was focused on Men related issues and discussing them from an empathetic standpoint. I’d say it were critical social discussion with a clear emphasis on men.
And there was bropill, which was less about longer discussions and more about sharing in general.
I dunno if they are still active but if you start something I’d love to join that community. So maybe write me a DM if you do? :)
It would require very strict moderation but it's feasible...
It doesn't necessarily require strict moderation... but the mods will have to follow the Bartender's Rule.
There was one in reddit that worked well IMO: menslib
There's a sub-reddit called Daddit. It was a great support group for Dads on reddit, either struggling or wanted to share their love for their kids. It's very doable, you just need to set an example early on for what it needs to be.
I'd totally be down for that kind of community.
DM me if you set it up too.
there was r/menslib on reddit. Maybe there will be some movement here
Toxic masculinity is just severe insecurity and blatant ignorance with a sprinkle of lack of education. Modern day caveman only good for moving logs and building houses. They now think they deserve a place where something educated needs to be discussed and instead of understanding or trying to understand they just spout their bullshit.
Why not mental health for all?
Everyone deserves mental health. And everyone deserves a safe space to discuss their feelings and emotions with others in a similar situation. And I don't want a space strictly for men. A LOT of men need to hear women's perspectives and experiences. And process what was shared and why it is important. I don't want men to learn how to be better men. I want men to learn how to to be happier, and better people.
There's a benefit to having communities for all and communities focused on the different groups, may it be specific genders, ethnic groups, generations, socio economic backgrounds and so on... The support people need might be similar in some cases, it can also be very specific to who they are in other situations...
Because a lot of women perpetuate societal standards of toxic masculinity and make men feel unwelcome
Honestly, I agree, putting a gender slant on it, unless completely necessary, can easily arecomplicate the situation, as its putting these expectations at the front of mind. I often see this leading either into resentful sexism, or original sin type self-loathing for being a man.
I honesty just think tbe topic of gender online is so toxic, that mixing it in with mental health can cause lots of unnecessarily complications, and makes it easy for third parties to take advantage for their own ends.
How can you even dare do suggest such an evil thing? Everybody knows men and women are completely different creatures. There's no way they would be able to talk about mental health together! /s
I just want a hug!
Best I can do is a slap on the back
And a “she’ll be right”
virtual hug
It WILL get better! You are doing your best! I proud of you for expressing your feelings!
Someone: "My gender transition is almost complete."
Society: "No, not like that!"
Swift as the coursing river?
With the force of a great typhoon?
With all the strength of a raging fire
The best version is the Google Translate Sings version.
I became a man are you going to save me?
Too much effort
Use your bootstraps
Good thing I learned how to tie shoes from sesame street.
What's in it for me?
Now man up, up, up until you are out of the water.
I will tryyyyyyyy to fix you.
What’s a man?
A miserable pile of secrets!
This is a true story: My doctor told me this while I was lying in a hospital bed, in the ICU, after trying to kill myself by ODing on pills and alcohol, straps around my wrists and ankles. This was at an extremely nice hospital in Silicon Valley, California.
I was loaded on antipsychotics and a little loopy but I remember telling him that it was sexist bullshit and unhelpful, which made the nurse chuckle.
Username checks out.
How so?
be me
a man
not using that title to abuse minors and women
having a life worth living
observing manosphere
being depressed so many men being sad they aren't alphamegachads, insisting to become ones
write something supportive
leave them to go their own way
I will say, from my grandfather to my father to me, it feels mental health in men has shifted. my dad told me what his dad did (like “the crust will put hair on your chest”) but it feels society has shifted on the subject and I hope our education system still reflects that!
Yay to less drowning alone! Lol
Also Society: wHy MeN cOmMiT mOrE sUiCiDe
I wish I could help you :(
Sincerely, an nb
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Take that! ;)
In my opinion "be a man" means not afraid to talk to someone about your problems
Yeah but that's not how the people this meme criticises use it.
Man up!
Ie. bury whatever emotion you're feeling and be more aggressive.
BE A MAN We must be swift as a coursing river BE A MAN With all the force of a great typhoon BE A MAN With all the strength of a raging fire Mysterious as the dark side of the moon
Thus comes forth the popularity of Andrew Tate.
Patriarchal society wins again😎
Explain to some idiot that as a socialist you've gotten for conservative as you got older that you looking into the finer details of economic planning and reading into Stalin, wokes: "omg YoU hAtE gAyS" I swear a lot of social engineering these days to turn people away from these ideas and towards an emotional irrationalism with a horrible aesthetic to keep people in an echo chamber surrounded by self-reflecting identity politics chained to the predominant ideology serving capital.
It's almost like both sides are stupid and wrong and just wants to shout at each other without giving any solutions. Both sides just want to be right while society suffers because both sides won't just shut the actual fuck up. Sick of feminist ideology, sick of aggressive males. Why won't you all just shut the fuck up with your bullshit. Especially fuck your egos with your identity politics shite whether your a white nationalist tard or a blue haired woke tard.
100% agree. Modern day society tells Men to actively express their emotions and feelings without actually providing good, logical advice that helps improves Mens lives and get them out of their depressive states.
Instead of teaching Men to observe and regulate their emotions to become better and find purpose. Now society is encouraging to trap them in an emotional cycle where we need to be dependent on people.
And still society wonders why so many Men are radicalised by gurus like Tate, which is also no good as it comes with mysoginistic opinions and same old conservative beliefs, how Women should be treated.
However, whether people like Tate or not. He definetly has impacted Men and lit a fire underneath. Maybe improved individual lives. After all, Tate saw a weakness in society (Men depression and suicide) and took advantage of it for his own personal gains.
What society needs now is actual Male Role Models. This is where ancient greek philosophy Stoism can be one of the useful solutions to this issue, which should be taught in education systems.
I don't like the social engineering trying to tell men what to do, how to think and how to behave.
Why won't you all just shut the fuck up with your bullshit.
It would be nice if we all looked around at what's happening in the world, recognized what we can change, what we can't, accepted our differences, accepted that we're human, tried to work together, shook hands and let the best win, whatever.
In this climate, there are too many individual biases in place that prevent that from happening in a way that's ideal, though - none of us are immune from that, either, unfortunately.
We can work toward it; I'm more interested in practicality, for example, and I try to be aware of my own biases while recognizing the biases of others, without judgement - or at least, with minimal judgement that's impersonal.
Some people will always be harder for me to connect with than others. That doesn't make them bad - it's just a part of the human condition. And sometimes those connections are still very feasible.
It's usually ok to be "wrong". It's usually ok to have an opinion that doesn't jive with the norm.
It's complicated. There's many aspects of feminism that make perfect sense, and it's more than reasonable for the issues that feminists raise to be discussed. Many (perhaps all - I don't have a list off hand) are totally legitimate.
There are approaches to feminism that are counter productive...or even just...cringe.
The same could be said for almost any other political issue.
People have been unjustifiably exploited by political issues as well.
I think the media, in general, is problematic. We all rely on it, but it's too powerful, and the people who have control over what it produces naturally exploit it.
Above all, it's best to work toward preventing external factors like the media from controlling how you think and feel.
It's not easy. We all succumb to it in one way or another. Sometimes it even serves a purpose.
The more we're aware of it, though, the less control it has.
The media is also a tool. One that's useful. It's not black and white.
In general, the more we're aware of how a system itself is designed, and how that affects us, the better.
I know people from many different walks of life who voted for Trump or lean more in the direction of the right; I hold nothing against them for that.
Working toward the interests of society - the best outcome for the majority of people - would be the ideal, but in a way that's diplomatic and didn't involve shouting at each other over the Internet.
We might not necessarily be in a position where we can even do that, or at least as well as we could have 10 years ago.
That's kind of scary.
Anyway, maybe in your case the right thing to do is just take a deep breath; put your phone down, and do something else.
That's at least what I'm going to do.
Humans definitely gonna human tho.
Understanding that and finding a way to navigate it in a way that's fruitful is key...
while recognizing that, you too, are human.
No lifting weights to gain some muscle isn't toxicmasculineity you fucking warped tards.