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Anyone else feel awful after hyperfocusing?

Hi all.

I'll try and be succinct but as I'm sure you all realize that's often easier said than done.

I don't feel like I ever hear my fellow ADHDers discuss how negative an experience hyperfocusing can be.

First off, I never feel like I'm 'enjoying' myself when I hyperfocus. It feels a lot like I'm dreaming. Time moves weirdly, all my senses go askew, and it never feels like I'm in-control.

Then when the focus fades for whatever reason, I feel exhausted. I usually have a headache from the hours of intent concentration. Oftentimes I haven't eaten, had a drink or used the toilet. As I start to come out of it I often feel quite confused and borderline hungover.

It gives me such an existential crisis. An activity is either so boring I can't summon myself to engage with it or it's so absolutely engrossing that it feels like the activity is partaking of me rather than the reverse.

And when I come out of it, to an extent I do feel as if I've been consumed. I don't feel happy or satisfied or fulfilled. I feel tired, confused and uncomfortable.

Can anyone relate? Does anyone have any advice?

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  • It feels like the activity is partaking of me rather than the reverse

    Thanks for giving me these words to describe the feeling so well. I don't feel interested and passionate... I feel consumed and dominated.

    Now that I think about it, lots of words that describe focus have etymologies that feel appropriately sinister. Captivated, enthralled, enraptured, fascinated, bewitched, mesmerized, hooked - all related to being controlled against your will.

  • I'll never understand why some people talk about hyperfocus like it's a good thing. Sure, I may have gotten the task done but I also didn't pee, eat, drink, or even move for multiple hours straight. I have issues with stopping when I'm in that state even if I'm experiencing discomfort. I also live alone so there's no one around to help me out of it.

    Taking my meds helps a lot. It's funny because I know a lot of us take ADHD meds to help focus more. I guess I do too but it's more like it gives me more control of what I'm focusing on.

  • I relate very much.

    The meds actually make this worse, but without the meds I'm a mass of stress, since stress is what I used instead of an executive function.

    I have typically performed highly in what do as a main activity, like school or work. But soon I start resenting the person that hyperfocuses, because that person leaves me with nothing. So far I've burned out of most of my activities and changed careers twice. Lately I decided to get into gardening 'to relax' and it ended up the same.

    It feels almost like the show Severance, even though I mostly remember what I did, but like you said, it's as if it had been a dream.

  • To offer the other perspective, I usually enjoy the hyperfocus phases. While I often can't choose what I will hyperfocus on, 9 out of 10 times it will either me something that needs to be done that is on my mind or something I really want to do that my mind kept circling around until it finally gets hijacked to do only this one thing. Rarely is it something I don't like.

    Hyperfocus for me happens fairly frequently if the circumstances are there. That is quiet alone time while not under huge stress. That's when that usually happens for me. So in a not too busy week it might happen 5 out of 7 days roughly. Sometimes daily and sometimes like once a week or so. Usually on my day off or slowest day of the week.

    Since it happens so often I prepared ready to drink beverages in my office and other places that my mind will allow me to grab while focusing. Same for healthy snacks. Usually nuts.

    This keeps the exhaustion and headaches in check for the most part. Also not living alone helps. If I disappear in the shed or my office or in the garden for too long my wife will usually check in on me.

    But most of it just feels good. If the focus goes to a hobby activity or researching into a topic I find interesting. To me it's just a great time. I might regret not having done more chores instead of 8 hours of building a miniature castle ruin. But at least I had fun.

    If the focus goes to something that needs to be done like work related stuff then afterwards it feels good to have it off the list. I'll feel exhausted but productive. Often I might have overdone the task and it could have been done way less thoroughly. But at least it's done and usually done well.

    The only issue is if it goes to something that isn't useful nor interesting. The whole time I wonder why the fuck am I even doing this but I can't stop. This rarely happens which I am grateful for. It's really annoying when it does though and I feel for everyone who gets this regularly.

    I don't subscribe to it being a super power even though I experience it as mostly beneficial to slightly annoying. It would be if we could choose what I focus on and when. But we can't, so it isn't. It just grabs you and you are along for the ride so hope you like where it's going. I'm just lucky that for me it usually works out.

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