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Proposed rules update, 8 July 2023

Hi all! As promised, here is the proposed text of the newest version of the rules. The staff has gone through like eight drafts and literally thousands and thousands of matrix posts to get here, so please be kind. You can see @limeey's comment on the transparency post if you want more insight into how this sausage was made.

We are opening these rules to commentary from the community before they go into effect. To be clear, this isn't a vote, but we will take all community feedback into account and answer whatever questions we can before finalizing anything.

Please keep in mind that we are not Reddit, we do not have Reddit's resources, and safety and consent are our priorities.

I'll post the draft in two parts in two comments: The new sidebar, and the FAQ/clarifications page.

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  • FAQ and clarifications

    Q. Does rule 1 mean that we can’t talk about our personal experiences from when we were minors?

    A. No, members of the instance can discuss their personal experiences with sex before the age of 18 as long as it is relevant, factual, and not graphic. “I lost my virginity in the back of a Volkswagen beetle when I was 15” is fine. A post that is a blow-by-blow detailed account of underage sex or a post specifically soliciting stories about underage sex would not be fine.

    Q. What does “sourcing” mean? Why should we have to do that?

    A. Sourcing is identifying the source of the content that you’re posting. Our primary concern is being able to tell if material is underage, or not made with the consent of the model. Sourcing helps alleviate that concern.

    It can be as simple as naming the mainstream artist or studio that produced the image, or the well-known performer in the image (“Evil Angel” or “Sasha Grey” or “Boris Vallejo”). If the content is not a mainstream studio or well-known pornstar, a link to the creator’s OF or modeling agency page or pornhub profile or verified reddit profile can work as well. The source must indicate, at very least, that the creators/models of what you’re sharing are ok with being in porn on the internet.

    You don’t have to source your posts, but sourcing will help your posts survive a report if someone erroneously reports your material. We don’t have the resources to do a full investigation on every report of inappropriate content, so without a source, mods will tend to err on the side of caution.

    For OC posts in c/gonewild and similar communities, mods of that forum must comply with our verification requirements. For OC, verification counts as sourcing which means it is not strictly necessary but strongly encouraged. We plan to implement a sitewide verification procedure soon, but until we do it’s down to each community’s mods.

    Q. How does verification work?

    A. There are a couple of different ways to get verified, but the most important thing to remember is that no moderator or admin will ever ask you to show them your government ID. If someone does ask you to provide them your government ID, please contact an admin immediately.

    We are actively investigating hiring a secure third-party age verification site like agechecker.net to provide verification for us. Until that comes into effect, we accept the existence of an Onlyfans, Fansly, Chaturbate, Streamate, or Pornhub account, or appearance in a 2257-compliant adult film as verification. If you and an admin can come up with another way of verification that does not involve sending your government ID to them, we will also accept that pending approval by a second admin.

    Q. What’s your policy on drug-related content?

    A. Because of the wide variability in the laws worldwide regarding mind-altering substances, linking to any site which distributes (for sale or otherwise) mind-altering substances or paraphernalia, regardless of legality where you are or where the site is located, is prohibited. This includes but is not limited to any cannabis or cannabis-analogues, any prescription meds, any alcohol, and any tobacco. Discussion of these substances is allowed; links to commerce or distribution are not.

    Q. How do I know what counts as NSFW and what doesn’t?

    A. When in doubt, flag it as NSFW. If it’s not something that could be pinned on a bulletin board in a professional office without drawing an HR complaint, it’s NSFW. Something doesn’t have to be nude to be NSFW. Feet pics are always NSFW.

    Q. I am an NSFW content creator. Can I promote my OnlyFans, Fansly, Pornhub etc?

    A. lemmynsfw.com supports sex workers and creators and we want you to feel like you belong here. We do not have an instance-wide rule against self-promotion, but be aware that individual communities may prohibit self-promotion and you must respect those rules. Please do not spam our instance and please do not spam messages to users, but feel free to create a comm for yourself if you like and participate in other comms that are friendly to your content. Solicitation of sexual services is strictly forbidden. (Fuck SESTA/FOSTA.)

    Q. For drawings or animation, including manga and hentai, how can I tell if something counts as forbidden content or not? I can’t tell!

    A. Trying to make hard and fast rules about this stuff is always tricky because people will keep trying to find ways around the rules and the human imagination is infinite, so we are going with a subjective standard: If a mod or admin looks at an image and thinks “that is forbidden content”, it’s forbidden content. We’ll know it when we see it. (And you know it when you see it too, quit lying. If you’re into forbidden content there are other instances where that material is welcome. Bring it there. We don’t want it here.)

    Q. Does the prohibition on bestiality/zoophilia apply to fantasy animals, like Pokemon or magical winged ponies?

    A. Yes. We may relax this rule in the future like the some of the content we are temporarily restricting, but that is not a sure thing yet.

    Q. Why are you so strict? Reddit wasn’t this strict!

    A. We’re not reddit and we’re not trying to be reddit. We have decided to prioritize safety and consent, which means prohibiting some content that Reddit may have allowed.

    Q. Oh yeah? Well I’m gonna start my own instance! With blackjack! And hookers!

    A. Godspeed, you beautiful maniac.

    Admin/Moderator decisions are final and arguing with them can result in suspension or banning of your account and purging of your content.

  • For OC posts in c/gonewild and similar communities, mods of that forum must comply with our verification requirements. For OC, verification counts as sourcing which means it is not strictly necessary but strongly encouraged. We plan to implement a sitewide verification procedure soon, but until we do it’s down to each community’s mods.

    I assume "we plan to implement a sitewide verification procedure" doesn't mean it will be needed to use the instance, but just for any posting or mod work.

    • Correct. It won't be for using the site in general, rather for those posting OC so they can be sourced and vouched for. It'll be the same as others where we won't outward require all to be verified before posting always, but more so in the same instance we don't outright require sourcing but strongly suggest it. If it's not sourced, and issues is raised and it seems to be probable/sourcing isnt there and we cant really verify beyond that, it'll be removed and its on the user to appeal that. It'll be a means of "sourcing" OC creators basically. We plan on trying to hash it out more but it will likely work similarly to reddit sub specific verification (but sitewide) with an OC verification and an age verification when in question. More info will be available as we hash it out more. Think the way gonewild does, like holding a sign. We want to have more control over it than reddit did and also make sure the people we are placing in the specific community responsible for doing verifications are fully vouched for by site staff instead of having a bunch of communities making up their own procedure and that own mess.

      • Could something like how Mastodon handles verification be implemented here?

        I like how that method retains our privacy (and our sanity, from having to take dozens of verification photos in various angles for picky subreddit mods.)

        Even without a website to paste html into, something like, adding a user specific verification code into their public profile on an 18+ site where their ID has already been checked (if the user is selling on an adult platform, for example.)

        Of course, this would not work for users without these pre-verified profiles, but I think it's a good start.

  • Couple questions:

    1. There was back and forth of "aged up" r34 characters being banned. What is the final decision on this? Should we expect admins to strike down any content of cartoon, comic book, manga, anime, and video game characters that don't have a current canonical age matching the age they are currently being depicted as?

    (Annoyingly, 99% of the content that comes out of Japan is about teens and has to be aged up. Even if they don't even look or act like highschoolers! Exhibit A: Jojo's Bizzare Adventure Part 3-5)

    1. Is a slime considered a fantasy animal?

    (I'm partially asking this because I think this rule/question is fucking hilarious, but also because it would basically nuke a fairly active community on here.)

      1. I think this falls under "We'll know it when we see it", subjective judgement call. Again, I'm not a hentai guy, so if it were up to me I'd probably get rid of like 80% of it, but we have to start trusting our mods to make those calls.
      2. Is it a humanoid slime?
        1. Understandable.
        2. I think what I have seen mostly posted was humanoid slimes.
      • Not the original asker, but to clarify the first question: should I take this to mean that aged up are possibly acceptable in this revision as opposed to a complete ban?

        I'm not asking this to start posting "oppai loli" content or w/e, but moreso content that provide better context clues for the characters being older:

        • Easy Case - Characters sharing a night together after a long day of college classes
        • Hard Case - Characters that are physically older and have anatomical proportions resembling an adult

        I'm mostly asking this as a moderator since I've taken care to ensure characters depicted in my posts are either canonically 18 and up or at least appear sufficiently old enough (if no canonical age is available) to make it easy on myself, but I'd like to have a better idea of where to draw the line when moderating posts from others, if possible, in a way that suits this instance. (Thanks!)

  • Depending on how far the noncon rule applies, I foresee an issue with media sharing.

    Very little media will have explicit consent to be shared in our communities, or even social media in general. If we interpret the sharing as part of what you consent to (as is the case with OC but not revenge porn), no found media can be allowed.

    If we allow the commonly used fair/similar use principle (found media may typically be shared in the same type of setting it was found) - how do we differentiate between found porn and found revenge porn?

    If we mod as a response to reports, as in: we allow it until someone reports this being wrongful content, the rules will be fine, but obscure or poorly modded communities risk becoming seedy and drag the whole instance reputation down.

    But these thoughts can't be novel, has anyone checked if there's a well tested out best practice to keep mods, community and admin safe?

    • Yeah, it's a sticky wicket for sure. Because look, if someone reports an image to me as noncon and I look at it and it's an obvious studio shot, multiple lights, professional hair and makeup, model looks like she's posing for the camera, I might say this is probably fine even if I don't recognize the model. Is it possible it's noncon? Sure, but on balance it likely isn't.

      But if it's like a smartphone shot of a ambiguously-youthful young lady in a dark bedroom, who I don't recognize and I can't source it easily because the source is undefined and there's no watermark and/or I can't quick google image search it, I'm going to give serious consideration to removing it. There's other factors involved, of course, including context and identity, but I think as a society we're starting to move into the realm of explicit consent being the gold standard. If I can't see or at least strongly imply evidence of that consent, I've got to at least consider removing the image.

    • Consent would also be an issue in that a lot of porn stars have actively stated that certain scenes they have done were not at all consensual.

      • Yup and if people post those scenes and we're aware and reasonably sure that they're noncon, they will be removed. We actually have a (very incomplete) list of specific studios, performers, etc. we are not going to tolerate for that exact reason. Currently we're debating whether to make that list public or not, because on the one hand we don't want to be like "if you want rape and underage content, google these terms" but on the other hand it might prevent people from posting something innocently that they didn't know was bad.

      • I agree that this is atrocious.

        For the proposed rules it's less of an issue though, as any non-consensual act is forbidden, regardless of if they've consented to it being shared (which porn stars typically do to get paid).

    • IMO if you post something online you should be aware that it could (will) be copied and reposted.

      Either by humans or bots made by humans to do just that.

      Literally every time someone “views” a picture or video (or anything else you make available online) their device makes a local copy of it, and any proxy servers it passes through may even decide to copy it so it can be cached for later.

      Apart from direct OC content most is older content being re-discovered, or new content from a studio.

      Not a mod, but it seems fairly obvious that the interpretation of the rule must be that the content was made with consent, and posted online with consent. Not the re-hosting or re-linking in this instance.

      And yes, the person in the content may later have a change of heart and contact the mods and say “please don’t keep this post of me up”.

      I’ve seen lots of good content disappear this way, but it’s the subjects prerogative. There’s lots of creeps online that will do everything they can to make someone’s life a hell for posting adult content online.

      The least we can do is be supportive when the subjects we objectify objects.

      If we support people’s right to make adult content we must also support their right to withdraw that content to the extent possible.

      • This whole take would mean that it's fine to share revenge porn because you found it uploaded somewhere, and that it's up to the victim to chase down every copy faster than it can be shared, and hope mods everywhere are active and responsive enough to remove it before it gets shared again.

        Maybe that is the best practice we can offer, it does seem kind of shitty though.

  • I see hentai being a hot button issue. Since the vast majority of anime girls are canonically under 18 and even ones without strict ages (for originally drawn content) often obviously look underage or have features which make them look underage. (smooth faces with big eyes, flat chests, short stature.) And let's not forget the large portion of anime characters which are basically designed to look as underaged as possible, but with unrealistically large breasts glued on to say "oh look they're clearly over 18.". How will this sort of content be handled? I know you say "you'll know it when you see it." but what about cases like these?

    • It's this exact question that made us seriously consider just banning hentai altogether. That would have been the safer move, for sure, but we were worried it would cut off too many people from a safe, accessible place to do porn things.

      So context matters, right? Like we're going to have to trust that the mods of hentai communities are good at hentai, so they know better than a clueless layperson what's actually supposed to be underage and what isn't. For me, looking at hentai as a guy that watched Ninja Scroll a bunch when he was 15 and then never really went back to that well, there's stuff that's obviously forbidden, stuff that obviously isn't forbidden, and stuff that falls in the middle where I have to be like "Well, I don't know who that is, if their show is aimed at kids, if they're supposed to be a kid, if within the context of hentai that outfit and those visual cues indicate underage or not, so I guess I have to trust someone that is more of an expert". Because if you force me to make that choice, I'm going to err on the side of caution and nuke everything that's more questionable than not, which is probably like 75% of all hentai.

      But with a knowledgeable mod team, if they tell me that something isn't underage and isn't meant to be underage, I'm likely to trust their judgement even if I myself as an ignorant not-a-fan-of-big-eyes-small-mouth-tentacle-sex-cartoons would have made a different call. Unless they start making blatantly bad calls, in which case then we consider taking more drastic action, we are going to defer to the experts.

      There are also issues of cultural imperalism and racial bias involved, right? Like studies show that Americans of different races consistently rate depictions of black people as older than they really are and asian people as younger than they really are, and on top of that trying to overlay Western artistic values on top of Japanese cultural constructions can be kind of fraught (and I used to live in Japan, where at 15 I was 6' and 180 lbs. I was much larger than like 99% of the the native population and they all thought I was a grown-ass man, so I know how that kind of thing works albeit in reverse).

    • Don’t even always have to be glued on. Had a girl I went to school with that had unrealistically large boobs already at 13-14. She was not overweight or anything but was already sporting a D-cup at 15.

      Safe to say she was ogled by many teenage boys… and adults.

  • Congrats on reaching this set of sane rules. The efforts of creating an admin community behind the scenes are really starting to show off.

    Request for clarification for uhmm, a friend of mine: When someone creates that own instance, with blackjack and hookers, and one of your users subscribes to a community there, it will synchronise part of that content to lemmynsfw. What will you do then?

    I'd like to remind you that some beautiful maniacs can be quite reasonable ;)

  • Respect and Consent: Treat all members with respect and obtain consent when sharing explicit content involving others.

    Does this mean that we are not allowed to post other OC's content here without their knowledge/consent? what about crossposting a post that an OC has made in a community to other communities within this instance, what about to places outside of this instance?

    What if the person/people involved in the post are not members here of this lemmy instance, but elsewhere in fediverse or websites elsewhere - does it make it ok to post their OC then without consent simply because they are not "members"?

    What about unattributed photos/images grabbed off the web. How do we get consent?

    [Addition] Are moderators primarily responsible for enforcing this rule and banning/removing content posts? Can moderators be reported/removed from comms for NOT enforcing these rules for posters and by allowing posters to ignore this rule and allow such content in their comms?

    • Does this mean that we are not allowed to post other OC’s content here without their knowledge/consent?

      Yup, if we find out about it, we will remove that image. repeat offenses will result in suspensions or bans. Keep in mind we have no way of knowing whether or not you have consent, so we will assume that you do unless we have reason to believe otherwise.

      what about crossposting a post that an OC has made in a community to other communities within this instance,

      Super easy to get permission for that, super easy for OP to call you on it if you don't. Just ask!

      What if the person/people involved in the post are not members here of this lemmy instance, but elsewhere in fediverse or websites elsewhere - does it make it ok to post their OC then without consent simply because they are not “members”?

      Nope.

      What about unattributed photos/images grabbed off the web. How do we get consent?

      So this is a great question. The very base level of consent we're looking for is "is this person OK with being naked on the internet". If we think that that's missing -- if it's revenge porn, leaked, deepfake, straight up noncon, or if it's ambiguous -- then we will pull the image. If we think the person is OK with being naked on the internet, then we'll probably let it pass unless we have more info. Like I have no idea if that person has licensed this photo CC share alike or all rights reserved, if they want people to spread it around or they don't, and I'm not going to bother investigating because I have a life outside of this site. If that person ever pops up and says hey, this is pirated content, please remove it, I will comply.

      [Addition] Are moderators primarily responsible for enforcing this rule and banning/removing content posts? Can moderators be reported/removed from comms for NOT enforcing these rules for posters and by allowing posters to ignore this rule and allow such content in their comms?

      Yes, and eventually yes though we would try to work with the mod to solve the issue first. Removal would be a last resort.

      • Thanks much. This helps. While I personally don't post other OC's content, I mod several communities where the content mix will likely become dominated by mostly OC, so your answers are a good guide for future posters into the communities.

        Just as an aside, I've had the following rule on the OC focused subreddits I have on Reddit, mainly to respect OC creators, and at the same time allows us to weed out karma farmers and repost bots:

        from r/butterflywings sidebar NEW- If you find a post of an awesome labia posted by an amateur OC poster, please invite the poster to directly post here. We will no longer allow xposts of such content here, without the OP's consent. If you already have obtained such consent, please add a comment into the post such as "(x)posted with u/

        <redditor>

        's consent".

        I plan on adding same rule here to various communities I mod.

    • You ask good questions, but I'm afraid they're very hard to answer no matter what the admins themselves believe to be morally correct.

      Most of what you refer to is essentially a copyright issue. Unless otherwise specified by the copyright holders/creators of a piece of work, you're not allowed to repost it. In most jurisdictions this is very straight forward. The problem is enforcement, obviously: how are you going to verify that every OP has the right to share the material they're sharing? Excluding OC, you'll find they probably don't. Really determining this is very time consuming at best and impossible at worst.

      So I don't think it would make sense to have a strict "you can only post OC or content you have the rights to" because it's just not compatible with a platform like Lemmy (or Reddit, for that matter). And if enforcement is more or less of the table, you might as well not have such an explicit rule and only respond to complaints 🤷

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