Good rule to live by

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I used to live by that rule, but it turns not everyone likes to be treated the way I like to be treated. So now I just ask how they want to be treated.
Just a trick I picked up from the BDSM subs ;)
- Exactly. I had to learn this too. I am unusual in a number of ways. When I treat people how I want to be treated I am often mistreating them and damaging the relationship. People are different and need different things. You have to communicate rather than unilaterally apply your self-empathy.
- Yeah, there's a lot of things IDGAF about myself (like my birthdays, etc.) that make it easy to forget that for other people it means a lot. So even if I'm a cool acquaintance I'll be a shitty friend :(. I'm working on that

second rule of figh club is you don’t talk about the golden rule
- the golden rule
  In case you didn't grow up with it, the golden rule comes from Jesus' saying that no matter what it is, there exists pornography of it on the internet.
  
  i thought that was rule 34 from fight club

Nope, because what you want might differ from what they want. So the rule is: treat people how they want to be treated.
- That's a very large thing (the art of treating me well) to be conveyed via such a narrow channel (chitchat). Your best gauge of other people is yourself. And that works very well.

What if I want other people to fight me?
- If you're hearing those rules in a basement, from him, good news
- I’m your huckleberry.

That rule sounds nice, but people can have very different expectations. This is a rule that shouldn't be followed strictly.

But what if they doubt the truth that you and all other sane, intelligent people hold dear? They must be dogpiled and shat upon. Right?

What if I have self destructive tendencies?
- Then you are a menace to Society Inc. Begone foul creature
  
  Are you treating me how you want to be treated?

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