Who cares about red flags in people. What are your green flags

The trick is to read something that's fictional and less dry. Fantasy would be an excellent choice. Sci Fi if you still enjoy things slightly more grounded in reality.

valid lol, sometimes gotta take a break for a while

What's keeping you?

They're reading a book

My method is very simple, just looking for people who sit and read in trains, cafés, etc., most people who do that tend to be people who like to read books.

I just talk about books I've read when relevant, or during the "whatve you been up to?" small talk.

bonus: if their parents are attractive, you have a potential thruple opportunity to fall back on if the relationship sours.

"Then you might have a plan B if the relationship doesn't work out as expected"

:wq is the equivalent of sexting you

What if they did it once like 10 years ago then immediately changed to something else to preserve their sanity?

It is, but it's pretty alarming how many people I see not doing this :/

You might be surprised

We're all on our own journey. I spent 25 years eating, wearing, or otherwise using our fellow earthlings to various degrees before I realised I didn't want to be someone who kills when I don't have to.

I am grateful for what kindness you practice and I hope you will continue to reflect on your relationship with earthlings.

Of course, authority is a pretty fucked up concept as implemented in our society. It's almost always nothing more than the threat of violence for not subsuming your own needs to the needs of another. The other usually claiming that privilege through nonsense like birthright, wealth, closeness to power structures or similar.

Anyone who uses such a ridiculous thing is at best a fool. Calling out injustice and laughing at awful people is definitely a green flag.

Consider say the difference between interacting with a cop and a firefighter. The cop claims authority, do what they say or be tortured into compliance. The firefighter has no authority and yet I'll bet you trust everything they say a lot more than the cop and are far more willing to cooperate.

Earthlings are all of us, all sentient beings. We are from earth, we are the earthlings.

Like not just plowing through birds foraging, or lizards sunbaking, or ants doing a nuptial flight or whatever.

Considering others' right to use space equal to their own.

my wife is the light of my life ^.

I'm not going to hide my values. They're not shameful

At the time of writing, the comment only has 32% downvotes.

Lemmy is a lot more vegan friendly than most places on the internet.

Same. I prefer partners without willpower

Good to know you're both cruel and insecure. Thanks for sharing with the group

And to add to that, all the characteristics listed their green flags - characteristics used to judge people.

I would just append that judging people is a good thing, often blanket misinterpreted as a bad thing. You should make an initial judgement upon meeting someone (it doesn't really matter, your subconscious will anyway). The important part is being willing to update that judgement based on learning more.

I've spoken about this with my girlfriend. She mentioned that we shouldn't judge a book by its cover and I get what she was trying to say but everyone judges and to a certain extent everyone should judge. It's how you act upon that initial judgment and your willingness to append it that shows your character.

There are many kinds of intelligence. Social, emotional, etc. I'm betting you're really good at some things I'm horrible at.

Please dont racist toward bot. His race is bot. He is born as bot. He can't choice to be born as human

Someone reading a book doesn't mean the book is good.

I have a book written by a mentally ill person I met, just because I wanted to have more insight into his mental state.

You don't measure it. You compare it to your own intelligence and see if it matches.

It's like art, you know it when you see it.

Excellent question. For me, it has a lot to do with their sense of humor, general outlook, and their problem solving. ymmv

When they say it. If somebody says "I'm very smart" or "I'm very intelligent", you know the answer.

Have you heard about IQ Test.

Makerspaces? Maybe just hang around at bars near your local conference/convention center?

To nerd forum, i guess, like LessWrong.

One of my least favorite things about my ex is that she hated learning. Like why? The world has cool things, why would you not like learning about ANYTHING? You don't realize how much it sucks to date someone that is unwilling to learn new things for fun until you deal with it.

The problem with dangerous plants is you need to warn people not to touch the gympie gympie.

This is what Pokémon Let’s Go is, a modern refining of Gen One Pokémon. If that interests you, it has already been made

... Yeah... We totally can't anymore.... 💦 Oof...

Why is Pokemon exclusively a childhood thing?

I never thought I'd see another SexualLobster fan in the wild.

No, that's red, yellow AND black

To avoid any further confusion, red should be the base color, the yellow a cute symbol and black a triangle connecting three of the corners

Y'know, I've never thought about that before.

I guess, I would.

Close enough in my book!

this made me want a full reading of lenins work by stephen fry

A member of the Industrial Workers of the World.

Suddenly this thread is playing with fire lol

I will try. This comes up frequently these days with my Trumper friend, so this could be valuable to discuss here.

I think it would be fine for them to compete provided we can ensure a level playing field. I don't know what that would entail, but studies should be done to get it figured out. Is it a blood draw for testosterone levels (maybe not.. sometimes that's naturally high for either cis gender)? Maybe estrogen? Maybe it's number of years post transition, though I see difficulty defining the start.

Definitely a tough issue since if we get it wrong and be too accepting or not accepting enough, many athletes will suffer. I would love to hear some more ideas and thoughts on this. I'm tired of getting shot down trying to talk to this guy.

Proud of you for breaking the habit! Not sure if you're masc or fem, but I'm masc and all I do is clip them before they get too long which helps prevent the buildup of dirt. Nail clippers also usually have a little scraper attachment that works great for getting dirt out when you notice it. I've never felt the need to file my nails, but you may prefer the extra smoothness!

Your mom did what?