1y ago

"How can we make lemmy a safer place for women? Is it even possible to?" - literature.cafe

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Women @lemmy.world

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I think the most important thing is just to get more women on Lemmy. Most of my fem friends went to Tumblr or Tik Tok after migrating away from Reddit and Instagram. Tumblr honestly has a pretty great community, relative to other social media platforms, I just wish the website didn't suck so bad and wasn't owned by a corp.

What do they mean by talk over someone? This being online and text based i do not understand
- On lemmy it comes in the form of being dogpiled with comments, and upvote/downvote counts.
  For example, go into a thread about porn and make a vaguely porn-negative comment about how porn can alter relationships with women, romantic and non-romantic. Or do something like imply AI generated porn of a particular person (especially a non porn star) is actually nonconcentual porn and is bad. You’ll see.
  
  But nobody knows the gender of that poster. It could be a man's opinion.
  And nobody has to know your gender on lemmy in the first place.
  Would the discussion be more productive if it were just about how to best engage with unpopular opinions?
  
  That's irrelevant to your gender. You have controversial opinions so people will jump on you regardless of your gender.
  Your gender might call for specific comments or insults, which would still be mostly irrelevant (it's personalised answers). Then there are those who will jump on you because you are a woman, and that will be when it's relevant, and usually the comment itself will be unrelated to original question and instead be about their misogynistic problems.
  
  That is how forums like this function. If people disagree with you, they will downvote you and comment about it. If you simply don't like people disagreeing with you, then maybe don't post dissenting opinions online.
  If you can't take the heat stay out of the kitchen as it were. Be prepared to back up your opinion with evidence and if you have the conviction, fight back against the pitchfork wielding mob that downvotes / comments against you.
  If you can't do that, whats the point of saying it in the first place? What's the point of an online forum where its a circlejerk of people agreeing with each other? And I can't see how any of that has nothing to do with gender, either.
- Out yourself as a woman on here and you'll see. I made this mistake once on a post and was absolutely shitpiled by a bunch of dudes complaining about how women are responsible for men's mental health issues.
  
  I've never outted my gender because its never been relevant. But i'll take your word for it i guess.
- Like, for example, being deliberately obtuse in an attempt to derail a discussion.
- I think we can already see a case of this in the replies to your comment.

The thing with Lemmy is, that it's a very "nerd" place. The amount of Linux and science content I see is quite a lot. Women(as from my experience) don't care about tech or science that much. I don't really know how to actively change this, but I think with Lemmy growing it may decrease, but I'm not to sure since its the Linux and privacy nerds who are more likely to switch to Lemmy.
- It's more that women are harassed out of science and tech than that they don't care about it.
  
  Then why are there so many tramswomen in tech?

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