/c/café daily chat thread for 2 July 2023

I have a boomer-ish pet peeve.

I hate it when someone don't greet or introduce themselves when entering a new place

I get it you're an introvert. I don't expect you to interact with me everytime. I'm an introvert as well. But at least greet once when you're introducing yourself. And That's it. That's the minimum fkin requirements. I see this everytime whenever I have to enter a new department and some students don't do it. I get it. It's overwhelming. I did too in the past and it's why I make a point not to do it.

My brother's girlfriend came over yesterday and she's been in the room ever since. I never saw her once. Never introduce herself no greeting. God I hope she's not the type that locks herself up in the room until she need something only then she comes out.

I've had a few cousins like that.

Why not prompt them to introduce themselves instead?
- Yes in a general sense I agree with you. It's a two way thing.
  
  But some situations warrants the guest to start first. And some older folks, they want you to take initiative and start first. Believe me I got scolded many times in the past for not introducing myself. Which is fair. I'm the stranger going into their land. I'm the one who has to appear friendly and non harmful to their place.
Yeah, at least a "hi" would be nice.

I kept seeing an adooorable fluffy oyen kitten for a few nights already. Nak adopt tapi takut it's someone's pet. No collar, was out late at night. Looks well fed (not skeleton-looking) and fur all cantik - no matted fur or brown spots. I'll just pspsps when I see it instead of taking it in then. :(

I sokong
- I see if it's always out 24/7 or not or ask around the neighborhood if it's stray or not
Cat tax pls.
- Didn't manage to take, it was night and dark
Could be a community cat tho, but still...

Culik!
- Next thing I know, there's a missing cat poster everywhere lel

I talked to my SIL yesterday to hear her side of the story. I still don't trust ANYONE's side of the story. I'll stay out of their bickering shit. Yes it's annoying when they involve my name in their arguments, but as long as I have my mental health under control, I'm going to ignore what I can. I don't know why this morning I just feel "Whatever" even though I've been so anxious and worried for the past few days because of them. This is the kind of mood that I want, the idgaf mood, no effect on my mental health, and I can do stuff normally. Maybe because I've realized that even my SIL still uses taqiyyah here and there in order to bring me "kembali ke pangkal jalan". So now I don't care anymore if she fights with my mom. Sure, my mom is the JustNoMIL, but I'm not gonna help my SIL either if she doesn't respect my choice.

Happy Sunday! Had daging korban soup and sleepy af now, but got housework to do. Side eyeing my sleeping, non-rent paying, non-chore doing cats 😒

That's one of reasons I want to become a cat.
- To be reborn as a cat in a T2 household with lots of trees. The dream
Ooo, won't it be tough if cook with soup?
- Pressure cooker, or cook low and slow for a long time :)

Lemmy.world is updating to 0.18.1 soon, i wonder how it feel 🤔

It also lag like heck due to a surge of user

feels not that polished yet
- Yeah but dang, i like the UI, and no more buggy bug. They also give user without an icon a default one, so much neater. Too bad there's still no default icon for community though
They're doing an upgrade all while being bombarded with signup requests. The userbase grew by 40% in a single day. Tabik spring to the owner. o777

Thousands of Twitter users report problems accessing site as Elon Musk says new limits have been installed

fuck elon musk

Twitter is basically a premium service now
- Someone joked twitter now defederated itself and that gave me an irl chuckle

Privacy issues on Lemmy: https://raddle.me/f/lobby/155371/warning-lemmy-doesn-t-care-about-your-privacy-everything-is

I'm still reading up on it, but this is concerning if it's true.

Oh yeah, it's worth repeated emphasis, both Lemmy and kbin have varying issues with security because they're either too little used so they never had to really think about it (L) or too new (k). Should add to sticky/sidebar until it resolves. For this instance, I suppose have to trust admins to rly delete posts.
- The consolation is that monyet.cc is a small local standalone instance who happens to be using Lemmy, and not completely dependent on one main site to exist. I don't think anyone would enjoy my deleted posts so far. They're all salah format.

Still awake because I just got back from Indy and also am lmao at the latest twitter news: https://mastodon.social/@BNONews/110639971384940348

Dem, what a shitshow
- Also lolllll https://social.tchncs.de/@thomholwerda/110640180253311300
- Here’s a good summary of what (probably) happened: https://mastodon.social/@desarmada/110642162521503063

Has anyone checked how Reddit is doing? Is traffic as usual?

Should be as usual lah, there's a lot of people moving on from reddit but the site house millions of users.

@Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc

Is there enough kakis for a kaki wayang comm tak?

Don't think so yet, wanna just start a watch along party post?
- Hmm ok just cincai set up here la XD
- Maybe... Was thinking of just setting up threads per movie etc. Dahlah it's "summer movie" season.
ahaha i wish i can join you but i'm not a movie buff huhu
- Hahaha bukan nasib
- ayy nice pfp. surprised it turned out just fine.

Anybody else deep into AI covers rn? I can't get enough of Plankton and Mr Krabs singing songs, MJ singing Stay with Me, TF2 Engineer singing Out Of Touch, etc.

I don't usually listen to AI covers but I really like this Idol cover. Sounds really good with that VA's voice.
jschlatt gangnam style for me personally