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  • Spent $35 AUD taking cabs to the cinema (can't drive, high), was enjoying what must be the best cinema I've ever sat in. Was going to rave about it on here once the movie was finished but 3/4 through the film the projector died. Got given a refund for my ticket ($5) but overall I'm taking an L today.

    I did get a free donut from Dunkin' so it's not a complete bust!

    Oh and I saw this place which pleases me:

  • I met bar guy's friends tonight and there was one there I could tell that had a little crush on him. You can sort of tell by the way someone interacts with another person, because she was only interacting like that with him.

    I find out more about this girl, and she's pretty much got the exact same interests as the dude, and the way they interacted was just effortless and it seemed like they had a great connection.

    Compare that to me, I pretty much don't have anything in common with him, we don't like the same movies or music, or things in general. I am a shy and awkward piece of shit who for some reason has started feeling nervous around him as well. I lose my sense of self, it's not like I had one to begin with anyway. I'm an average Joe, an uncultured swine.

    The thought of breaking up with him makes me incredibly sad. However, I don't want to force what isn't there. I think he is only with me because I gave him a chance. I could be the most stale person in the room but because I was there for him when he needed it and can meet his physical touch needs, it's alright. That's why I don't have a clear gut feeling on how to proceed.

    All this coupled with uni kicking my ass, not sleeping enough, low iron, ADHD, brain fog and financial strain is absolutely fucking killing me.

    I just wish things would get better!

    • has started feeling nervous around him as well.

      I don't have any advice but that can be a difficult feeling.

      Big internet hugs.

    • I totally understand how you feel. But he's obviously choosing you for a reason.

      It's better to have a partner who isn't into exactly the same stuff as you because it can get pretty stale. But even within that there can be differences. Like my partner and I like anime, but we don't watch the same genre (though we do watch Demon Slayer and Jujutsu Kaisen together). And similar with video games, there are some we enjoy together, but I don't enjoy games like Destiny or card games, and they're not a huge fan of The Sims, or visual novels. But we both hype each other up for our interests and even ones we don't have any major interest in. It'd be pretty boring to have a partner be into the exact same thing as you I reckon.

    • You’re only seeing a small portion of that friend, and bar guy isn’t with her, he’s with you. Please be kinder to yourself - you are not a piece of shit, thank you very much. You are exactly who you are, with all of your interests, your own way of viewing the world and others. Comparison is the thief of joy – celebrate who YOU are. Hope you get some iron, some sleep, some water. You're rad!!

    • You're clearly not ready to give up on this thing you have going. So don't. Maybe it won't work out. Maybe it will. But whatever the secret sauce of successful relationships is, it's more than the same tastes in everything or some formula you can calculate. Don't try to analyze why you two are together. Just ride the wave and see where it leads.

    • News flash: most couples have zero in common with each other. Common interests are great and all, but they don't make a relationships. Shared experiences and building interests together is really what counts. I would say there is probably a good reason why this bar guy and his friend are not together, despite how much they have in common. There's also the societal notion that women and men can't just be friends which is completely not true. Don't get in your head about this.

    • super big hugs

      and let him choose, right now he is choosing you 💗 get to sleep, take some iron 🤗

      ( also, having exactly the same taste is over rated, if you were exactly the same you wouldn't have anything to talk about, how boring is that!? )

    • You were there for him when he needed it. That's a pretty solid foundation, hopefully he's there for you when you need him. Taste is personal and changes over time. Create some new memories. Don't stress about the girl who he has a taste connection with, but you can always ask him about her or become friends with her too.

  • Sometimes the emotional release from a really good, dense therapy session is just... The whole body feels it. Something has been unblocked and is moving... but there is no fucking way I'm going to be able to do much else today. I arranged to meet up with a friend tonight, I would've asked for a rain check if it weren't for the fact that I will probably have to give back the car in 6 days and I might not see her again for another 3 weeks until I finish housesitting, and all things considered it's better for me to stay connected in person. (I don't need to cook anything at least as I'll be heating up premade food).

    Think I'll lie down and nap for a while - I feel like I'm giving into maladaptive procrastination by giving myself permission to put off everything else till tomorrow, including work.

    But: it's nothing mission critical, nobody else is relying on me for it, and I need to remember that nobody is going to be severely damaged by my doing that. On balance, this is a wise and intelligent and responsible thing to do given the bigger picture. Good afternoon. 💤

    • I love those sessions. It's nourishing for the soul. And the feeling usually lingers (at least it does for me) for a while, unlike a run-of-the-mill session which often just feels like a tune up. Having a session where things just seem to click.... yeap, that shit is top notch.

  • Exercises have been completed. I've finished another 30 day exercise challenge! Trying to be cool with myself about my diminishing but still there belly. I'm a middle aged woman whose parents were morbidly obese for most of their adult lives. I'm doing pretty well all things considered. Lots of birthdays at work at the moment, therefore lots of cakes etc, which aside from a social sliver I've managed to avoid. Gonna be hard for my 50th though, coming up in a month and a half or so. I have no plans, not very excited or enthusiastic about it.

  • Flying solo tonight, Mrs_Owl is in the city for farewell drinks. I've got pizza dough going in the bread-maker ready for some free-range salami and cheese, and a bunch of limes for a cheeky Margarita or two.

  • Mainsplaining amirite? I've been told regularly to expect to meet sick people in AA. I'm sober, I'm not a fucking desperate loser though. I have everything I need. I've achieved some amazing things in my life. I need to work through some issues sure, but I'm in a very good position to do because I worked life my way and set myself up to be in this position. I'm so over the gay men though in AA. Absolute pigs most of them. Then someone questions my misandry and who? A man of course. Sorry guys, we're feminists because we have to be.

    I'm pretty sure I'm leaving this place too pretty soon. Subtle transphobia I'm supposed to police? That's what the mods are for right? The more we need to deal with transphobia alone, the more it harms us. Reliving traumatic events perpetuates them. Being told (by a man) not to speak my mind, cos hey, it might not be nice and I signed some oath to be all flowers and love. I was basically told by a mod not to stand up for myself, which is 100% my natural response. I understand this is supposed to be a nice fluffy space but we're all here because we lack some connection and need places to be able share what's deeper going on as well. It's just so fucking easy to dismiss female and trans issues because that's the status quo right guys? We've been vilified in the press for many years and it's getting worse and you expect me to be the person who should point it out to you? Sorry, like I said, my misandry grows. I don't want it to, but it's a natural response to being marginalised and diminished by men every damn day.

    • So, I'm pretty sure you're talking about me. I don't want that exchange to make you feel I dismissed you or your feelings in any way. I was not telling you not to stand up for yourself. I was saying that we don't really want people telling others to "fuck off and die". I also said that depending on context, I'd have probably sided with you even in that example, because we absolutely don't want any sort of bigotry or disrespect finding a home here, either. My response had nothing to do with my gender - nor yours for that matter.

      I stand my what I said there, too: If anyone is being a jerk to you - hit that "report" button. You are valued and wanted here, and anyone being transphobic is not. It is as simple as that.

      • Thanks Nath, look it's not perfect here, but its so much better than everywhere else and I'm glad you took the time to write a measured response. I still don't want to have to report things which moderation can pick up, but I will. What we want we don't always get.

        I stand by my feminist rant though. Seriously, men treat me awfully. Always fucking have, it's not just post transition and I've always been a feminist. I know men don't like hearing it because a lot of them are very good exceptions to the rule. But while we face misogyny almost every day, one whiff of misandry and I'm questioned about it, by a man. Women just groan usually.

    • You are not authorised to leave DT.

    • Cool, my downvoter is also an incel.

  • Have had my swim, and am now going a bit vintage with curried sausages. I’ve got two sausages and some curry powder to finish, so I’m going to combine the concepts

  • Once again blown away by a whole kilo of chicken drumsticks costing $5 at Aldi.

    • You could say that deal might actually take off.

      E: oh thought you said wings. Still, a deal like that if it runs for long enough will definitely have legs.

      • I did say wings by accident, edited in like 10 seconds though, you're quick! Second pun just as good. Double points 🥇🥈

  • Barking dog was barking so instead of trying to sleep through it, I decided to get up and go for a walk before starting work. The sunshine was lovely. Tired but a nice start to the day.

  • I had plans to finish my gardening assignments today. What I actually did was sit on my arse playing Stardew Valley all day. oops.

  • I'm planning father's day meal. I'm thinking crispy airfried chicken wings with a honey hot secret sauce, rice and maybe corn on the cob. Of course things could change. Might end up eating crumpets.

  • I am thicc and juicy
    \ Sweet but mostly spicy
    \ Tingle on my tongue
    \ Chase me with spiced rum
    \ I promise I'm delicious
    \ No need to be suspicious

  • If you:

    1. Have an eligible concession type/Centrelink/DVA card, and
    2. Get your electricity from an embedded network

    You must apply for the Energy Bill Relief Program manually, from this Monday 4th September. You will receive a $250 bank deposit or bank cheque.

    • On top of this, if you receive a new concession card tell your energy provider; they sometimes offer discounts on electricty for concession card holders. If you receive a new concession card with a new expiry, also let your energy provider know so your concession with them stays current.

  • Grey clouds loom overhead, in my head.
    \ Rolling, rumbling, fill me up with dread;
    \ Melancholic dreams as I lay in my bed.
    \ Dread looms overhead, in my head.

    Can we keep faith in what is said
    \ When all the news fills me up with dread?
    \ I turn away but clouds loom overhead,
    \ Melancholic dreams in my head.

    The end of the world happens in my bed,
    \ Every night they fill me up with dread.
    \ Intruding thoughts wonder if I'm dead
    \ As grey clouds loom overhead.

  • Lying on the couch playing mobile games,
    \ I'm fumbling every one of interactions.
    \ I don't know if I want you to feel the same,
    \ But I'm paralyzed by fear of rejection,
    \ Projections, predictions, predilections.
    \ You dont message me like you once did,
    \ That's okay, I know I'm extraordinarily mid.
    \ I'm average cloaked in silly rhyming prose,
    \ You think this poem is about us, I suppose.

    • Projections, predictions, predilections.

      that's one hell of a great line there

  • I got my first Temu order yesterday. The kinetic sculpture looks better quality than I expected, I got some nice decorative solar lights and a few little decorations to hide in the garden. Also got a set of solar mushroom lights which look awful, and a decorative plastic stake that was squashed and broken. Rather happy with the return process - I put through a return for the broken item and mushrooms, immediately accepted with no need to actually return.

  • God people claim some weird shit on their health insurance. Today it's mould. Prescription mould.

    • I have so many questions.... Are they claiming medication for a mould-borne illness, or are they claiming a mould-based medication?

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