What is the most annoying ADHD trait that you have?
For me its when someone tells me to bring them something. If i try to find something that i need, i will find it really quickly. If someone is asking me to find something for them in a room, it is like i become blind and even if its in front of me, it is really hard to find it.
Not being able to retain basic information for more than a few seconds.
Oh, your name is [name] and you need [item]? Too bad, I'll forget both of those things as soon as I turn around
definitely, thats my worst thing.
For me, it's a tie between having no object permanence and waiting mode. My lack of object permanence really shows in my kitchen, because I will keep everything I commonly use on the counter. If Idon't, I forget I have it. Waiting mode really speaks for itself. If I have an appointment, I can't do anything else til I'm done with it. I'm also compulsively early to every appointment because of how angry my parents would get if we were even a minute late to anything.
Even things I enjoy doing, my brain will register as "tasks" and therefore decide they're icky and not to do them.
I've got a good memory, but talking with my partner he will often say "I told you this before" and it's just completely gone over my head cause I've been slightly distracted. I'll be listening but things don't seem to register and it's worse when I'm distracted by the fact that I am having to put so much effort into listening. Edit: typo
“Oh, I’ve been meaning to do (X). I’ll get right on that!”
I will not get right on that. No matter how sincere I am when I tell you that I will. Unless I am incredibly anxious about it, it’ll drop out of my head and poof into nonexistence the instant this conversation is over.
(Yes, I use a lot of to-do lists and reminders.)
For me it's choosing what I want to focus on. Obvious things like needing to prioritize important but understimulating tasks sure, but more frustrating is just trying to have a convo with someone while something like the TV is on in the other room or a car alarm is going off in the parking lot.
I'm still not sure if I have ADHD or not, but it's still a common trait, so I'll say the fact that I keep forgetting everything! Some things, I can remember in meticulous detail, as if it's right in front of me - Calvin and Hobbes strips spring to mind. Other things slide off my brain into the etheral unknown space, and while they're still lodged somewhere in my memory banks, they're painfully out of reach.
I seem to forget a lot of very basic stuff, to the point where it looks like I can't be arsed, and it's as frustrating for me as it probably is for everyone else - if not more so!
Procrastination for sure. Plus some kind of object blindness/forgetfulness: i forget stuff i don't see and things i put down somewhere just blend into the landscape really soon. Even if i consciously see them again, my brain doesn't make the connection to do something with them. Like putting them away or throwing them out.
Procrastination is the most annoying for me, too. Closely followed by time blindness, object permanence and getting distracted.
Talking over people and interrupting them. I try to be aware of it and just listen more and talk less, but it's REALLY HARD. My train of thought just moves way faster than the conversation.
For me it’s probably forgetfulness. When it comes to events I’ve started telling people if it’s not in my calendar it doesn’t exist. Now I just need to start utilizing a to-do list so I don’t forget things I have to do.
Same, my google calendar is always full of stuff I don't remember adding. I have to review it at least once a week.
No concept of time. I'll sit down and feel a bit hungry, but not enough to eat yet, so I'll tell myself "oh I'll eat in an hour". Then I'll blink and it's been at least four hours and I didn't notice getting so hungry I'll end up overeating.
Procastination for sure. It gives me so much stress, yet it's so hard not to do.
I have a lot of problems with poor memory, difficulty initiating tasks, time blindness, and problems with processing auditory information. It's hard to say which one is the most annoying though.
For me is when I'm talking with someone and my mind starts to wander away, then I realize I have no clue what they just said. This is really problematic at work where I have to write down every single thing my boss says to me, otherwise sometimes I don't even know what task I have been assigned.
It's very frustrating with my wife too but at least she understands better what's going on with me.
my girlfriend also has adhd so we keep getting distracted with each other, its so funny hahaha
For me it’s the seeming like a really forgetful person. I have a good memory about things I’m really interested in or when my meds are working. When I don’t remember something it’s usually because I wasn’t paying enough attention or was off my meds and half paying attention.
It used to be difficulty starting things, which led to insane burnout. Now with medication, that's mostly taken care of, but my forgetfulness hasn't gone away, so that's now the new leader lol.