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To the ones upvoting this post: Do you, though?
I've politely asked people not to share blown up, screen-wide pictures on this site of my common phobia when it's unrelated to the post and I've been straight up downvoted and insulted, being told I'm exaggerating and "defective".
Phobias are not exaggerations, they can make people do shit because the reaction is visceral when unexpected. I get headaches and feel like shit after. One of my middle school teachers shared that she once almost jumped off a roof when she saw a cat behind her.
E: Aaaand downvotes. 😂 Practice what you preach.
- Phobias are by their nature irrational, some level of personal responsibility falls on you to protect yourself when going online.
  
  Dafuck are you talking about?
  
  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FNR8hedwo_M
  
  Yes, and I practice that but that's not universal and there are many instances where that doesn't work.
  And I'd argue: why are we including blown-up, close-up, screen-wide images to posts of interest about programming when the image is completely unrelated? Articles about Python are especially egregious.
  I ask precisely because it's out of my control.
  
  I feel this way about artworks/memes depicting, real or drawn, infantilized and/or oversexualized women.
  Though it's not a phobia but a severe adversion to the material to a point it can ruin my day, it is my responsibility to block the stuff from my view. If it becomes overwhelming, I disappear from online spaces entirely until I'm ready to try again. That's my responsibility to handle my emotions and how I react to things.
  If a person has a phobia to spiders, can we logically get rid of all spiders? Of course not, same thing here. Block buttons are meant to be utilized.
  A lot of the internet is just serving heaps of content in which no one asks if you want to see, before it shoves itself in your face. That's the nature of scrolling vs intentional use.
  People can be mean, I hope I'm not coming off mean here, I'm not trying to.
  
  I feel this way about artworks/memes depicting, real or drawn, infantilized and/or oversexualized women.
  Yup, and now add to that the jumpscare, the heart racing with the palpitations, the strong headache, the mood change, and the subsequent stress. If it were just "oh, I'm just not going to think about this," it'd be great, but there's a visceral physical reaction on top of the emotional one that no doubt includes stress hormones. I'm entering fight-or-flight for a split second, and not an ethical dilemma.
  If a person has a phobia to spiders, can we logically get rid of all spiders?
  This conversation always comes back to this every time I bring it up, which is why I included so many hyphenated adjectives trying to be specific. I'm saying, why are we including huge pictures that take up the entire screen when they aren't necessary and contribute nothing to the post? Small images are fine and I can manage, but these are 1200x900 pixel images to give a rough estimate. I've been flashed with 1920x1080 pictures of a snake in videos about Python when it wasn't necessary and was completely unrelated to the topic. I don't have a button for that.
  Here's the last image I had to block from a post about Python to give you a better idea:
  Warning: close-up of a snake that's probably not even a python.
  https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/d1038c9e-5089-4917-86c1-711b07fb39b4.jpeg
  And yes, I do actively use uBlock Origin's element picker on desktop but its behavior is not consistent and it doesn't exist on mobile apps for Lemmy either. I have to maneuver around this in the most impractical way, exposing me to this for far longer than I'd like. If I could manage, I wouldn't say anything for getting so much backlash, tbh.
  People can be mean, I hope I’m not coming off mean here, I’m not trying to.
  Same here! No worries. I hope I'm not coming off as angry in trying to express the frustration behind this. :)
- Hang on a sec, what's this "common phobia" you have? Fear of flowers? You just might want to stay off the internet and spend some quality time with a therapist - or in an asylum.
  
  Yeah, it's flowers dude, would you believe it's a common phobia? I may just intern myself over a phobia because that makes a lot of sense. Jerk.

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