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  • I love ADHD posts because they always contain condescending people that are incapable of understanding that they’re being condescending. They make assumptions that everyone hopping on the bandwagon isn’t doing any sort of therapy themselves, and we’re all just wallowing in the doom.

    Here’s the actual reason why these things help:

    • It’s easier to understand yourself when you see others describing similar struggles
    • Sometimes this leads to discussions about how to cope and deal on a daily basis
    • Sometimes it leads to doing your own research on things (which has been the case for me multiple times, like recently learning about somatic therapy and how it helps deal with dissociation, etc)
    • Sometimes it’s also just nice to have a group to cope with together, especially when we all live in a world run by the worst fucking people imaginable

    If things have worked for you, that’s amazing. But save the shrugging and dismissive language for… your internal dialogue because zero people need it, unless you’re willing to reframe it in a more constructive way.

    ADHD is a broad spectrum and is never a 1:1 between people. For me, openly identifying as someone that has had ADHD since the 90s (diagnosed) can help others understand why I am the way I am. It also helps bond with others which is in itself a support mechanism. Being more open about my brain has also helped friends identify their own struggles, which also lead them to do more research. So it becomes a “pass it on” kind of thing, not just some vapid “hehe suffering” circle jerk.

    If you’ve been “weird” like me since childhood and struggled hard in school and life for an eternity before finally finding ways to consistently cope and endure (things that will start and stall a million times over because of ADHD brain), finding community and talking about it is massively helpful. The reality is that at this point everyone could have ADHD brain. It’s a spectrum and we know so little about the brain as it is.

    Sometimes it’s also just fun to meme about it.

    • Thanks for saying this a lot nicer than I could. To add to this, the ‘just do therapy and schedules and reminders and and and and’ people hate to hear it, but sometimes all that works is the drugs.

      I live in the US and there have been horrible shortages of many of the most effective drugs for ADHD (amphetamines and its variations). My spouse spent nearly 2 fucking years without the medication he’d been stable on for years and it was a nightmare. He was trying SO hard to keep on top of things, have a good sleep schedule, and there was just no way he could do it. Like, borderline suicidally depressed about having his ability to be functional taken away. After his pharmacy started getting shipments of his old medication in again, it was like a switch flipped.

      You don’t get like that because you’re a lazy dumbass who won’t get their shit together, and people are way too casual about ignoring that ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder.

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