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Friends who have babies

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There's research that found that people without children are happier than people with children.
- The urge to cum inside is the siren song of many
  
  Vasectomy is a beautiful thing
  
  Fleshlights are nice too tbh
  
  Get both, experience Nirvana
  
  Literally millions of year of evolution behind the urge of raw dogging.
  
  Well, now I'm conflicted.
- According to this study, after adjusting for income, having children is actually associated with higher happiness and well-being.
  From a Psychology Today article that summarizes it:
  However, household income may not be a good indicator of financial stress. A family with low income that lives in an area with a low cost of living might experience less financial stress than a family with a higher income that lives in an area with a much higher cost of living. Therefore, the researchers conducted an additional analysis in which they included a direct measure of whether or not the family experienced difficulties in paying bills in the last year. This analysis showed that difficulties in paying bills represented a central influence factor for the relation of having children and parental well-being. When the researchers statistically controlled for financial difficulties, having children was actually related to greater well-being in parents.
  
  Thanks for citing your resources, unlike others.
  
  so having kids makes you happier as long as you can pay your bills?
- The study also said that people with children felt more fulfilled over all 🤷‍♀️
  They measured basically immediate happiness and long term happiness. In immediate happiness, the child free group won. In longterm happiness, the parents won. Did a lot of research into that before deciding to have a baby.
  Just gotta decide what works best for you and your life style
- They didn't poll occupants of nursing homes?
  
  if you think your kid is keeping you out of a nursing home i have news for you
  better to make 3mil+ and get in a really good assisted living and a well payed lawyer
  
  Or instead of banking on money and wealth to save you, just spend your money now, eat healthy, exercise and take care of your body.
  It won't matter if you're 70 in an expensive care home and you don't know your name. I have a few elderly wealthy relatives in my wife's family who are in great care homes but have no clue where they are or who any one is.
  And I've seen my fair share of people getting old in my family. It isn't pretty when you are constantly unwell and then your mind eventually falters and then fails.
  Better to enjoy what you have now regardless if you have kids or not because none of us are guaranteed a good healthy mentally stable old age.
  
  better to make 3mil+
  This seems to be the logic stumble in the anti-natalist brain. "If I just don't have kids, then I'll be rich one day!"
  At some level, you need to dismiss the fantasy of being rich in the future and think about being happy in the moment.
  I spent five years fostering before we finally landed a permanent placement. I've had the pleasure of hosting kids from age 0 to 4. And I'll say that the work of taking care of another person is so much more fulfilling than bullshit office work or some shitty service sector job.
  I go to bed early and tired but satisfied, rather than staying up late and dreading the next day. I'm not counting the hours to a retirement 20 years from now. I'm focused on my son's first words and steps.
  Just like with dating or caring for a pet or visiting family abroad, the value isn't bound by the money I'm spending. It's about bonding with others and continuing a relationship I can only measure in hours together.
  
  if you can’t afford retirement you can't afford kids
  also, sky diving without a parachute is real pretty if you ignore the landing
  
  Plenty of people don't live to retirement
  
  and I too don’t wear my seatbelt because not everyone gets in a car accident
- You can add 1 more to their sample size that confirms this to be true.
  
  Glad that you feel happy. How do you know that this version of you is more happy than a version of you with kids?

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