1y ago

rules for thee, but not for me

To be clear, not talking about this community, obviously 😛.

What's the point of writing down rules, if mods just do what they want? But I suppose that's the risk you take when you call someone a liar in a small community; they might be a mod.

Edit: I'm not trying to say that mods suck, they perform a useful and often thankless job. Just that it can be difficult for small communities to get a healthy number of good mods, which can become a problem.

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'Here's what you said wrong!'
'What should I say instead?'
'Here's what you said wrong!'
Over and over and over. None of you are listening.
And it's NOT condescension, it's building a fucking comparison! It's a sixth-grade-reading-comprehension rhetorical device. It's getting ahead of an obvious yeah-but someone might make... and then someone made that yeah-but anyway. And then got mad that I told them: I agree, thank you.
The fuck was I supposed to tell them? If there was no right answer - none of this criticism means anything.
- ‘What should I say instead?’
  Nothing. Leave that part out. I don't think it's the entire site that has trouble with reading comprehension, just you.
  
  'How do I correct misunderstandings?'
  'Don't.'
  Further gold from the most unforgivably hostile participant in this nonsense.
  
  You didn't ask that question. I answered the one you did. Congrats on the novel combination of moving the goalposts and putting words in people's mouths, I guess? Seriously, do you not read your own words?
  People keep telling you which parts of that conversation would have been better left out if you wanted to sound sincere, but all you do is further attempt to weaponize your feigned ignorance.
  You know damn well that you're acting like a condescending prick. Enough people have pointed out the things you could have changed in that exchange so that you didn't sound like a condescending prick. And now, here you are, acting like a condescending prick to anyone who dares to answer the question you asked on a public forum.
  
  Literally nobody has suggested any better way to say anything, despite direct questions throughout, asking exactly that.
  The entire problem in the root thread was someone going 'what did you want?!' when I said: yes, thanks. And everyone saying that was terribly rude also thinks it was disagreement. So the question of 'what else was I supposed to do' goes unanswered, and everybody piling on to say 'well not that' is making the same error that is highlighted and corrects in the root thead.
  And you in particular have nothing to add but increasingly shallow name-calling and 'well, don't.' Don't fucking talk down to me about reading my own words when you just got done declaring me unworthy of human interaction, after being shocked, shocked!, that someone would remain confused by a dozen people repeating the same mistake.
  I am genuinely disappointed in this community's moderators for not already showing you the door over the worst of your hypocritical abuse. Did you have anything more you wanted to spit before going on my blocklist and out of my sight?
- Literally just don't say that. The entire rest of your comments were generally "fine" but you included hostile, unnecessary wording.
  
  'How am I suppose to make this comparison without an invitation being labeled as hostile?'
  'Don't.'
  Less helpful than you might think.
  People: the comparison is the point of the comment. And even if that was somehow the worst possible way to make it, I'm still left wondering how the fuck to de-escalate confusion, if direct agreement is enough to launch monocles from faces. If "thanks" is hostile, what the hell are we doing.

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