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1y ago

[NSFW] Kinky fucks of Lemmy, what was that one thing someone tried to do with you that you noped the fuck out of?

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Renegotiating consent when spaced and horny.
We planned and negotiated for a session, strictly no genital involvement agreed. When shit got intense, hot and heavy, they were very very angry with me not penising them.
Good discussions on informed enthusiastic consent were had.
- Penising someone is now my new favorite euphemism for sex.
  
  A euphemism usually is less explicit
- Yep, been there. I go to her place, first time we ever met. Within a few minutes she makes me promise I will not be penising her. I agree because I'm only a part time dbag, not 100% a dick.
  The night gets interesting, we both drink way more than we should on a first meet, lots of handsy action and everything but the agreed upon limits of consent.
  "Why won't you?"
  "You made me promise I wouldn't."
  "Please?"
  "No, but I'll do anything else you'd like."
  "Whhhhyyyyyy"
  This went on for hours. Never saw her again because she was apparently so upset I kept my promise, she didn't want to see me again. It's a weird sometimes-regret where I know I did exactly what I should have done, but had I not we both would have had more fun and maybe have had a repeat encounter.
  
  Regarding your regret, I know it's not much, but this internet stranger is proud of you for sticking to your promise.
  
  Thanks, truly appreciate that. I know it can be difficult in the heat of the moment to stick to a promise like that, and I could easily have had a moment of weakness.
  
  Bro, you are a man of your word. That shit is fucking rare these days.
- You: Sorry, Sir. As per our contract dated 14th August, 2023, paragraph 3, section 2 (b) and I quote "...no Penising, not even the tip, shall be allowed after 19.99 minutes of vigorous sex acts". The time is now 19.995 minutes. I must advise you of the penalty clauses as listed in the Appendices I, II and IV should you persist in breaking our prior agreement. Good day, Sir!
- I had a parallel experience, renegotiating consent using their dominant position to define boundaries.
  Nope nope nope, not how this is supposed to work.

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