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I don't want anyone to take this the wrong way, but nearly every comment in here is from the perspective of someone who's unsatisfied with how they were raised. What is it about Lemmy that this is the subset of the population they attract?
And I'll just say, my parents were far from perfect, but I am also far from perfect, and I understand that we're all just human beings out here, and that there is no guidebook on life, so we take these journeys around the sun at face value and muck along until we die.
But yeah, this thread is one of many where I've read similar stories from just about every comment. It's just strange to me that you don't get someone in here saying, yeah, good to have a mom who can help. It's all the opposite.
- Its always been my impression that Lemmy appeals towards politically charged young adults in their 20s and 30s. Theres something about the anti-authoritarian stance of fediverse that appeals to the rebelious angsty liberal arts types. Keep in mind though these are just the most vocal whos opinions youll see most im sure theres plenty of people with good parent relations who just scrolled past without commenting. These types are old enough to realize the flaws of their upbringing and cook it into their woe-is-me victim complex but not yet experienced enough with life to grow past, let it go, and forgive despite. Really I do think having some older kids in your life helps put a perspective on the other side of things. Parenting isn't easy especially when your life isn't going so well to begin with.
- A 2013 study looking at personality disorders and Internet use found that being online more hours per day predicted signs of SzPD. Additionally, SzPD correlated with lower phone call use and fewer Facebook friends.
  That's my excuse.
  
  Hmm I line up with a lot of that aside from "exclusive internal fantasy world"
  I also don't have difficult making friendships I just also am very bad about keeping those going unless we're in proximity (either online or in-person).
  I like praise but generally end up thinking I don't really deserve it and criticism can bite me hard so... Idk maybe not?
  Yeah with how much it overlaps with the autism spectrum it's hard to tell but I feel I fall more on that line the SzPD, interesting though.
  
  Autism, schizoid and Complex PTSD have a lot of overlap. Growing up undiagnosed autistic in an unsupportive environment can lead to CPTSD. Schizoid can also be thought of as a flavour of CPTSD that occurs if you're predisposed via genetics. I think there's still so much to learn. None by themself explain me, but all three together do. CPTSD is often co-occurring in late diagnosed autists.
- Lol think about the kind of people that seek out an alternative to oppressive/censoring corpo networks and it does make some sense.
  I love my mom, she's far from perfect and has some narcissistic tendencies (which have been passed on to me even though I try to be cognicent of them) I have absolutely called her or my dad when I just needed someone to tell me things are going to be OK.
  But I try to be self sufficient as much as possible (my wife helps a lot too ofc)
- I wouldn't think too much into it. I guess that most users here just don't have older kids yet, so they might lack the perspective of being the ones to give advice that kids don't listen to.
  My own kids aren't that old yet and will still listen, but I really hope that one day they will stop listening, because then I know I've taught them to be independent.
- i half agree with you, but like my parents raised me in a cult. i'm old enough we're helping them now.

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