mastodon.art defederating calckey firefish social. Cites behavior of lead project dev

I’m sorry to say, but it really does not matter what other people think. It’s like me, who has never been at your house, and never planning to be, thinking that your house rules are weird, arbitrary and petty. I’m also weirded out that you didn’t let that or this person in your house.

in a federated system necessarily yes it kind of does regardless of if you think that's fair. we get shit for what we believe (and maintain) are extremely valid and straightforward reasons for defederating with a handful of not-malicious instances and that can impact who comes here and why. if you were to create an image of being--for lack of better wording--a messy removed with a catty and overdramatic attitude (as many people seem to read this as being) your instance will gain that reputation, it will influence who your users are, and it can go so far as to be negatively reflected onto completely innocent users.

now, if the mastodon.art person doesn't care about that then they don't care, and i'm again not saying that i care either way--it's their website, they can do what they want--but the presumption that this is in a vacuum or absent consequences is silly. it's not!

I remember artist tumblr in the 00's. Participated, then moved over to twitter in the 10's before I got sick of it. This looks like another continuation of that same community.

They can do what they like, but this reeks of the exact same kind of drama and mobs that, for example, drives fanartists to attempting suicide because they painted a character's skin a shade too light. (Zamii070, if you're curious.)

These sorts of communities form an echo chamber that, frankly, can be absolutely horrible for kids. Yeah, they can do what they want in their house, but I'm staying far the fuck away.

Upon further reflection, I may have been harsh with that term. I was angry, and you successfully trolled me. I did not appreciate being called a child, or petulant or entitled, for that matter.

As I said, though, she is free to run her instance how she wants. I do feel bad for the folks that feel they need her protection, as they are living in fear, although I suppose that’s their choice. The fact that she blocked even BBC added a dimension to my understanding of what sort of instance she is after.

I still do not agree with her methods of indiscriminately blocking 2 levels of relationships (if you can even call it that) from one person, though. To me, personally, this approach seems too likely to cause offense. If I were trying to make that type of instance, I'd probably just start with limited federation mode, and federate only approved servers. That way it's a positive process for including one, and there would be much less reason to call myself a nickname like Tiny Tyrant or Stabby Stabby.

Anyway, I suppose I'm still getting used to the Fediverse and what sorts of interactions that come from it. I've accepted the situation now.