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Thank you for bringing up the transphobia. For the vast majority of trans people, it causes us a lot of mental harm to read through that awfulness. That's a big part of why Blahaj is so strict about it with moderation, it's a shield to protect its users, who mostly would rather miss out on some good interactions than deal with any transphobic psychic damage.

Part of all this is that we rely on allies to let us know when someone has been transphobic. It keeps us safe from that psychic damage, and is an important way to show us that you care about our existence. So accusing someone of it, either negligently or deliberately, directly to a trans person, is a huge violation of that trust. Using that accusation as a bludgeon against someone you don't like is pawbably the worst thing you could do to a trans person, outside of being directly transphobic yourself. And you're right, it makes you transphobic when you do it.