that's very interesting. see, I have somewhat of the opposite relationship with messaging because of my parents, who are both malignant narcissists that use it as a weapon to say terrible things without fear of being confronted in person for their reprehensible behavior-- which is why I usually have them both blocked. for that reason, I prefer to have important conversations in person (edit: or video chat), where I can read a person's facial expressions, body language, and vocal tonality. I also tend to communicate in clear, plain language, especially when it comes to my feelings and intentions.
I dunno… I never got into the apps, so I may not be the best judge, but this kinda seems like a lot at once for someone who’s an introvert that was bullied and has anxiety issues.
I would definitely ask more probing questions before agreeing to meet anywhere, and definitely in public, and I would definitely inform a friend.
On the other hand, if it’s genuine, this could be really sweet and nice opportunity to mentor a young fledgling queer. Making friends in a new city can be pretty difficult.
Was on Reddit since it started, left about 4 years ago during the reddexoxodus— it’s nowhere close. not even in the same galaxy. Sure, there are some pretty nasty corners of Lemmy, but on the whole, it’s much more like Reddit was around 2007 to 2010. It’s still pretty virgin territory. Although it is “maturing” much faster than Reddit did, but that’s to be expected.
And Reddit has become much more foul in the last few years.
like, what_ever!_