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「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed)

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  • Since China has so much surveillance camera nowadays, does that mean child kidnapping cases are now non-existent? Like... they shoild be able to instantly locate anyone... right?

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  • China is a big place. Saturation with security cameras is an urban thing.

    Yea that incident was in Guangzhou, I assume nowadays its probably filled with surveillance cameras.

    Also, something I’ve learned in America is that people make a lot of noise about keeping kids safe, but that’s all just smoke. I can’t speak for China

    China might not have guns and mass shootings, but domestic abuse is an issue that the law doesn't really touch on, especially is its more covert like verbal abuse or even physical violence if it didn't cause serious harm...

    Especially if its not a spouse-on-spouse thing but its a parent against a child...

    Like there are things that would trigger a CPS investigation in the US that in China they wouldn't do much about, cuz its just treated as "discipline" and its "family matters" and legal system isn't touching this.

    I think my parents fear of CPS is why once we arrived in the US, they stopped with their um... ahem "disciplinary actions" against me.

    (Also maybe cuz I got older and can sort of fight back??? Maybe 🤷‍♂️)

    (I actually cant even remember a specific instance of my mom hitting me anymore... must been a repressed memeory by now, but I'm pretty sure it happened)

    Also teachers have meter sticks to hit kida with...

    Okay its not a beating, but I remember like you had to put your hands out and then the teacher slapped your hands with the ruler...

    Dont remember what for... maybe "behavior problems"?

    Or perhaps poor grade is also one of the things... idk, memory in 1st and 2nd grade isn't exactly flawless...

    But corporal punishment seems very acceptable in China...

    Saw a movie recently about Taiwan's education system (not the main story, but the backdrop of the plot, main movie was about Taiwanese Americans moving back to Taiwan), and in the plot, the parents encouraged the teacher to use the ruler thing as a form of discipline... wtf... that was actually the thing that jogged my memories...

    (The point being, same culture, even being politically divided and with a different government, the culture is same... adults just get to do whatever as "discipline")

  • Since China has so much surveillance camera nowadays, does that mean child kidnapping cases are now non-existent? Like... they shoild be able to instantly locate anyone... right?

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  • Who recognizes who around here?

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  • xD

    Since I got summoned by a @ , gonna infodump cuz why not lol:

    Funny enough now that my mom went to China for a 1-month visit, and now it's like 1 week in and I feel so sad about her absense from home...

    The house feels so much more depressing... :/

    I mean I guess this is a sort of "trial run" of what her eventual death would feel like...

    Like... now I can call her... cuz now its just separated by an ocean, in this era, we have instantaneous communications...

    someday it'll be separated by a barrier between the mortal realm and... whatever world beyond... the afterlife... spirit realm... or whatever...

    I guess this is what my mom meant when she said she wanted to get married give birth to children... this same emptiness that I'm feeling...

    I might never find love in life :(

    Funny enough my older brother is also in China right now because mom pressured him to do marriage 🤣

    (My parents are arranged marriage btw)

  • Is federation down for anyone else?

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  • Welp its kinda awkward for a days old post to finally show up in Piefed instances as "3 Hours Ago"... 😶‍🌫️

  • Is federation down for anyone else?

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  • Yea this isn't the first time with sh.itjust.works and lemmy.world federation issues...

    Honestly I feel like it the universe's sign to me that: it's time for migration to Piefed... 🤷‍♂️

  • What makes you hold utter and continual contempt against the world?

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  • "Please list everything bad about this world"

    Bruh, there's already enough doomerism in c/worldnews, no need for that energy in c/asklemmy

  • What was the most recent thing that made you cry as an adult?

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  • my country

    OUR Country*

    Bernie Intensifies

  • What was the most recent thing that made you cry as an adult?

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  • I went to apply for a US Passport...

    Then I remembered that a lot of immigrants from Fujian are undocumented...

    And like... I have been in highschool with these kids whose parents are from Fujian...

    And I kinda just felt sad...

    Cuz I'm also from China, but I got lucky and got citizenship... and they didn't...

    So I just cried... :/

    Cuz I can imagine what it's like with the uncertaintly

    I mean... I kinda feel the same in some ways... I mean with current political atmosphere... who even knows anymore... I could get denaturalized and end up the same as them anyways...

  • Gig work is just turning the poor class into servants. And adding further debt to other poors trying to use these services.

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  • the Planet*

    (US is not the only country is the world where people are suffering, less US-Centralism pls)

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    Does looking at a low quality screen hurt your eyes?

  • Do you feel like a product of your environment?

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  • Yes absolutely.

    If I had never immigrated to the US and remained in China, I'd probably be much less accepting of multiculturalism and less comfortable being around people of different races, and also probably less okay with LGBTQ

    Like... I doubt I'd be openly hateful... but in that environment, I'd never have the opportunity to be exposed to people to of different skin colors, and the culture would've reinforced the idea that: " LGBTQ = 'weird' "

    I'm kinda obsessed with this concept of these two timelines.

    There's this timeline of "American Me" vs that other timeline of "Chinese Me"... of what could've been

    Like... imagine us two meeting... lmao

    Or perhaps there's another version of me that arrived in the US even mych earlier... like at 1 year old or something (contrast with current timeline at 8 years old)...

    That version of me would probably be even more "American" and I'd perhaps lose a lot of my "Chinese" part of my identity...

    The trajectory of life... from just the difference of one visa stamp...

    I mean this obsession of alt-timelines is causing me so much existential crisis lol...

  • 36-year-old left the U.S. for China—now pays $1,000 rent and $100 for groceries for family of 4: It's my 'version of the American Dream’

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  • Suspiciously high number of murdered police for a peaceful protest, eh?

    Oh tankies are pro-cop now?

  • Videos @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    The Dark Side of Japan: A Xenophobic Japanese man spreads false news against Korean, and Chinese tourists, defaming them. He later got elected to city council.

  • 36-year-old left the U.S. for China—now pays $1,000 rent and $100 for groceries for family of 4: It's my 'version of the American Dream’

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  • You can vote overseas...

    Its actually ironic that people in Puerto Rico don't even get representation but if you last lived in the 50 states and then go abroad, you can mail your vote.

  • Phone charges should plug into the top of the phone not the bottom.

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  • Just use an app that force your screen to flip upside down (Android allows this)

  • 36-year-old left the U.S. for China—now pays $1,000 rent and $100 for groceries for family of 4: It's my 'version of the American Dream’

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  • Every time I hear the word "import" when referring to Human Beings, its always some far right xenophobic white dude complaining about "oMg tHeSe dIrTy iNdIaNs aRe tAkInG oVeR!"

  • 36-year-old left the U.S. for China—now pays $1,000 rent and $100 for groceries for family of 4: It's my 'version of the American Dream’

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  • it’s trading one capitalist place for another.

    Funny enough, my family also did this, but reversed.

    I was born in China and we moved to the US when I was 8 years old... my parents found more success here... I mean, not at the very beginning, but eventually... now they have more income and more time off vs back in China...

    I can't speak for everyone, but in my specific case, my mom had to work long hours and did not have the 1.5 overtime bonus she has now and have less breaks vs now, and then dad... well... he didn't really have a stable job, spend a lot of the time looking for jobs...

    social programs, healthcare, and such.

    Not according to my parents. My parents were kinda shocked how much welfare American Citizens have, and at one point, my parents claimed that "Americans are lazy and just wanna not go to work and live on welfare".

    And in terms of housing, okay when we were in Brooklyn, NYC, that place was so expensive it was impossible buy a house, so they bount a house in Philly moved our family here... where we've been living ever since...

    Okay it was like approximately $100k around 2014 but this place has very shitty schools :/

    But both the Brooklyn place we rented and this house in this ghetto place called Philly, both looked nicer than the neighborhood where used to live in Guangzhou, a CITY btw... (okay to be fair there are a bunch of problems in this current Philly house but like that's just parents being frugal lol)

    As for the healthcare part... eh... my mom really don't trust doctors in China (well she also doesn't really trust healthcare people overall, but especially those in China). Mom told me about a lot of situations that she felt like she got scammed, I can't remember all the anecdotes she told me, but at one point, she told me how she thought the doctors are trying to get her to do a C-Section just to make more money (cuz surgery = more expensive bill), she thought it was unnecessary and wanted to give a natural birth, but she doesn't wanna risk it being that, in fact, the doctors told the truth and then us dying, so she just gave in and went along with the C-Section. And she told me they want to overprescribe medicine so they get a kickback from the pharma companies. Bascially, my parents say US quality of healthcare is better for those who can afford it. But even then, because of their experiences living in China for so long, they just became so skeptical of the medical industry which is why mom really don't want me seeking help for depression, cuz: "yOu dOn't hAvE dEpReSsIoN, tHe dOctOrs aRe jUsT lYinG tO yOu!" cuz she thinks they are just trying to get paid fot overdiagnosing people... so because of their experience in China, they now kinda grew skeptical of medical professionals overall...

    Cuz there's just so much sketchy stuff and scams in China, and on top of their own experiences, warnings about scams are always circulating throughout their WeChat.

    So it can look cheaper... but you risk running into corrupt doctors because corruption is a very big thing there, I mean they could easily bribe their way into having a medical license when they shouldn't be qualified...

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    Lemmy titles limits to 226 characters, but allows 200 Chinese Characters, which means you can post a longer showerthought if Chinese was allowed... 真可惜，用两百个字我都可以写一本小说了！很久以前有个狼。他很想吃羊。但是他很笨，所以每次都抓不到羊。完。

  • Anyone feeling like doesn't belong anywhere?

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  • Do you live in a very white area?

    Because it seems like the Black people here in Philly are just chillin'. I mean like... I feel like they "fit in" more than Asian Americans "fit in"...

    There are Black people all over Philly, but in contrast, in some areas, I felt like I was the only person with an East Asian face...

  • You can eat ONE inedible thing of your choice. What's for dinner?

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  • Plot twist, now you become the worst racist in history...

    🔫 cocks gun

    Sorry, it's nothing personal...

  • 36-year-old left the U.S. for China—now pays $1,000 rent and $100 for groceries for family of 4: It's my 'version of the American Dream’

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  • "To to teach English"

    Which is only possible because he happened to be born into the language

    And English is only in demand because of British + American dominance in the world throught the past few hundred years

    Most Chinese Citizens cannot enjoy the same lifestyle as him, WHICH IS WHY they want to learn English in the first place... so that they can find more opportunities in life

    Like... this is not really "China good", this is more like "English-Speaking white dude, who was lucky enough to grow up with the language, benefiting from Anglosphere dominance throught history"

  • When will gas stations start selling rotisserie chicken?

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  • Title: A Lemmy user ate a rotisserie chicken at a gas station, this is what happened to his stomach.

    A Lemmy user, presented to the Emergency Room ☝️with severe abdominal pain...

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    It feels like a trap to send your only proof of citizenship to the government to get a passport (USA)... like you'd have no real physical document to prove your citizenship during those few weeks...

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    Is the "everyday stuff" supposed to feel normal? Do y'all just have a parent do things then when you're supposed to be the adult you panic?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    Do you clean the phone camera lens everytime before you take a picture?

  • Lemmy.world Support @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    c/MentalHealth is unmoderated and there has been quite a lot of rule violations, encouragement of martyrdom

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    For people who distrust police / the legal system: If you ran a small bussiness and need to hire people, and someone has a conviction but they claim innocence, do you hire them?

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    Sometimes I hear the people next door... and then I'm like oh shit, have they been hearing all the yelling in our house this whole time?

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    So... is Iran blocking the Strait thing and then the US is also blocking it? So is it like... double blocked? Is it like "no you can't close the Strait, I'm closing it"?

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    You know how some medications numbs your emotions... so what happens if you're on those medications and you receive news of a close family member dying, do you like... not have any emotions over it?

  • Today I Learned @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    TIL about the Murder of Ashley Zhao, a 5 year old girl who was beaten to death by her mother, and then the mother hid the body in the family restaurant with help from Ashley's father.

    en.wikipedia.org /wiki/Murder_of_Ashley_Zhao
  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    Those who have ever taken medications for depression or anxiety, how long before it started working from your experience?

  • Off My Chest @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    It kinda infuriates me that a lot of people are blaming "laziness" for the epidemic of "unemployed youth in China" when it's a clear case of severe depression amongst young people.

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    Y'all ever have intrusive thoughts about accidentally dropping stuff in storm drains? (particulary when you have your phone out) And like if that happens, wtf is someone supposed to do?

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    You can make people happier by taking a small amount from their wallet weekly and then later "gifting" them all the money you took from them... that's what a tax refund is...

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    Apparantly there are some rural places in China that have never seen a white person... So... are there like places in the US I can go where they never seen an Asian person before?

  • Lemmy Shitpost @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    It's tax season and my parents don't really feel like paying this... Alright Lemmy, what should they do? 👀

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed) @sh.itjust.works

    Do y'all feel like you just have no shame in front of family (or I guess also very close friends) and randomly sing weird songs (or even made up ones), but feel kinda embarassed in front of strangers?