The last one is where I would draw the line, even if it involved vetting people off of fetlife.
There's a difference between hard doms and soft doms. It sounds more like you're the second and I don't think that's a bad thing. Some of us genuinely enjoy being hit and choked and I don't think there's anything wrong with it. It means we trust you enough to even ask at all. If it's not something you enjoy or feel comfortable doing that is also fine.
Straight sub women routinely want me to do stuff that isn’t BDSM and is actual abuse.
Give some examples?
I have very few restrictions when it comes to someone getting physical with me as long as it's not permanent. I have found plenty of doms lacking because they express discomfort in rougher kinks. Light bruising is not abuse for example although you should probably take your time and get to know me well enough so that you trust I'm not crazy and that I won't tell people you're battering me.
The damage is already done. He's not the first, won't be the last. An entire generation and more of men are basically undateable. This is just the world we live in unfortunately.
It always bothers me that people seem to think that poly has zero boundaries, that it fixes absolutely everything in a relationship, that you no longer have to make any effort.
Polygamy sounds amazing to everyone until they actually try it and deal with the drama like one person in the polycule only being there for another person and actively attempting to rip them out of the situation, with all the drama that comes with that.
I don't think they were outright banned but they had a lot of mod actions on them the last time they were on here from dragging their dramas out into various communities.
At this point they should probably just be banned on sight for ban evasion but I get the feeling that this place is so starved for activity(especially perceived activity from a woman who will agree with whatever most of the men on here say although I think she's just a bad actor) that it'll just be ignored.
Even if she didn't bribe anyone or throw her weight around just being related to her still influences it a lot.
But at least she's supportive. The amount of parents that think their kids can make it on their own is stupid and it's just not right. Being smart and getting good scores isn't enough on its own.
I don't really have much to say besides calling you a coward. Obviously there's risk involved. That's part of the point.