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Cis male here. Im deeply impressed how some peepz have a relationship with more than one person and keep this gooing in a good way. Im already on the edge of overburden with only one person and need pair-consultancy to keep this thing going... Man, how the fuck do people survive this? :D
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I also find a lot of cis males that find out I'm in a poly relationship, by their reactions think poly is like having a "real" partner and then a bit on the side that's somehow sanctioned by your real partner. "Allowed cheating".
But that's not it at all, at least my little polycule. It's instead like how a family exists. Everybody chips in and instead of having 2 people, each having to prop up half the relationship, it's 3 people and you each prop up a third of the relationship. It's not harder, it's easier. It's not more complex, it's simpler. More people, more love, more support. We're all friends, if I'm busy for whatever reason, the other partners can help out each other.
I find strictly monogamous partners are often jealously guarded that adding an extra person into the relationship will result in them losing something tangible as if love and attention are material and finite things... Kind of in the same way that an only child in a family worries that a new child will somehow result in their parent's loving them less, when often it actually means that there's MORE love to go around.
Anyhow, hopefully that little explanation helps answer a bit of your confusion.
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It works because my partners aren’t completely dependent on me for emotional and physical needs. I am able to focus on the parts of relationships I want or need, and my partners are free to find the same with others.
If I’m having a bad day I have three people I can count on to love and support me, and I’m able to celebrate my successes three times. I’m almost never alone in supporting my partners and that helps take so much pressure off me and the relationship.
There’s also absolutely no energy wasted worried if someone is cheating on me, instead I feel great for them when they find a partner that they really like. Poly is different than what most people are used to, but it’s really working for me and my partners.
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…keep this gooing…
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Well most don't lol
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Average trans girl is actually one of Girlfriends Zoe's girlfriends
Wow, that perfectly describes someone I know. Like exactly.
they have a spreadsheet?!
You don't?!