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  • I lived alone for basically an entire year while my wife was deployed and it was the best fucking thing ever. I was so much more productive when I was allowed to just let my process unfold organically. The house stayed clean, I got a bunch of projects done, and I actually had time for hobbies. I never once felt lonely or in need of human contact. I had a Dog and he was the perfect amount of companionship.

  • How much time is there ? 😁

    To answer with more than a rhetorical : energy depletes fast with complex social interactions (=with strangers, in a formal setting, anytime something is expected of me...). After that I become too tired to process social cues, infer correct tone, understand subtext, etc. Those are the first to go. Then after a point I also become overwhelmed on a sensory level. If I have to stay there for a longer time, back in the day I used to either 1.push through (this inevitably risks creating mistakes, misunderstandings, sometimes conflict) or 2.slither away under some excuse, or even completely stealthily.
    Nowadays however, I realize that this is who I am, and my struggle is legitimate, and I can only do my best. So now I just say it :

    My brain is wired in a way that makes it difficult to survive long interactions, such as this one. I will have to leave now to protect my mental health. Please do not mistake my departure for something else : it is only caused by fatigue. I had a good time, even if I did not express it very outwardly. Bye Cindy

    I feel like I should add I don't have a diagnostic of any kind

  • At least one day per week.

    • Same for me. In my experience, after a week I need a day where I just play video games, read a book and relax (usually it is Saturday). If for two days I stay home and dont meet people, I feel unwell on the evening of the second day; but one day of pure regeneration is my sweet spot.

      • Actually I do not have a problem with two days either :-D For me it gets hard after a week I would say. Love me some good alone time.

  • Min. 3 hours a day just to not trigger my chronic migraines. More so a sensory than a social thing, but I run a much later schedule than most because of it.

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