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How would you process the fact that a new friend of yours is a cop? (USA)

One of my new friends is/was a cop. Just found out about it. I genuinely believe ACAB, and this news has me conflicted because my new friend seems really cool and super nice. I don't know him super well yet, though. He's a big part of this new friend group and I don't know how to process this and how to deal with the fact he's a cop.

I don't want to look past the fact he's a cop, but I want to stay his friend and stay in this friend group.

Any advice for dealing with this shit?

I can't talk to my therapist about it until Thursday.

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Its never the people, its a system. Currently we have a system that allows for unqualified and even violent people in the police force, with little accountability. There are still those who join in good faith to serve and protect their community. Unfortunately it seems like they are becoming a slimmer and slimmer minority, but they are still prominent.
I wouldn't mindlessly hate your local police force until ypu have a reason to hate them. Police aren't some hivemind. I live in a small town and the local police are super chill.
- Hard disagree.
  It is the people. Bad people choose to become USA police because they can be violent racist pieces of garbage with no consequences. They are immune to justice. Good people do not do this.
  
  Yep Good cops don't stay cops.
  They end up leaving a corrupt system, joining the corrupt system or leaving in a body bag.
  
  there are probably some good departments. then this wouldn't apply, but I have no experience know how many are good.
  
  Leaving in a body bag? I assume you mean because a bad cop killed them. It's surely not from the nature of the job itself; being a pizza delivery person is statistically more dangerous.

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