What do you secretly judge people for?

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People who don't like cats.
I've noticed a correlation between people who don't like cats and having narcissistic or selfish tendencies. Could be just an impression but that's how I feel.
- I love cats. Other peoples' cats.
  I will never own my own cat because I don't want to accept the burden of responsibility that responsible pet ownership demands.
- Huh, I kinda feel the opposite. You need (or at least SHOULD) be very attentive to a pup. Dogs, in general, tend to crave/require more attention. Cats are more hands-off, so they often attract the kinda people who want a pet for the sake of having a pet - which tend to be narcissistic types.*
  *not true of all cat people
  
  In my experience dog owners often like to control another being, cat owners like to just let others be.
  
  Interesting. My reasoning is that narcissistic people crave attention, which cats may not give so overtly as a dog. Basically for a dog, a person is a god and some people love that kind of relationship.
  
  I've definitely seen multiple people talk about how they view it as a red flag when people like dogs but not cats because cats are mean. Their reasoning is that dogs will love you no matter what but cats have to want to get attention. The argument is that people don't understand boundaries/consent.
  I see their logic, but I think it's looking a bit too far into it. Yellow flag maybe, not red.
  
  This is my narcissistic neighbor's behavior. He has 2 dogs, but he treats them like objects and not as part of the family. He absolutely hates cats for no real reason.
  It's a massive red flag. I had to help his ex wife escape from him because he's a DARVO type abuser.
  
  We really don't deserve dogs, they're too precious. Meanwhile, if you're a jerk to a cat they'll hate you a lot faster than a dog does lol.
  
  Someone who doesn't like cats is a red flag for me for one simple reason:
  I have cats! They're not going anywhere, either, so this probably isn't going to work out lol.
- I don't like cats, mainly for two reasons:
  I am allergic and they just make me feel bad on a physical level
  Cats, as any animals, require care, and responsible owners add it to the list of their burdens. It's like constantly having a baby that never grows up - cats can wake you up in the middle of the night, force you to remove feces, etc.
  I, however, love people, and am far from being selfish or narcissistic. People around me often find me warm, comforting, and supportive.
  
  I don't think they mean "people who wouldn't have cats as pets", there are tons of valid reasons not to want cats as pets, such as the two you described, and I wouldn't say that you "don't like cats" given those two reasons
- Interesting observation. I think most cats demonstrate Machiavellian narcissistic traits.
- So people who don't like cats are cats
- Oh boy, does this also hold for people who don't like any pets?

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