4d ago

Exhausted

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If it's my D&D group: I can go 7 hours.
If it's mandatory fun at the office: 10 minutes and I'm drained.
- I’m an immigrant in Germany and began learning German at eighteen. I’m C2 and getting my masters in German language instruction, but I still feel so exhausted after interacting in German for long periods of time. I’m also generally an introvert, so it’s just draining in multiple ways. I know it’s just that I need more experience and there’s no real helping it, but it really kills my mood sometimes. I work as a salesperson/barista at a bakery, teach classes, and interact with all my friends in German, but my husband speaks perfect English and it’s such a relief to be able to talk to him in English at home.

As a masking Autist I approve. I was shopping today, that's enough for a week.

I'm an introvert but I'm fine in parties for hours, usually.
A few years back, we were at a wedding where I had previously met only the bride, while my wife knew a bunch of people. She was off talking to people, and I just drained within two hours. Ended up waiting for her in the hall outside the room.
- I’m an introvert
  I get a lot of heat for this, but I like to remind people that there isn't really "such thing" as an "introvert." I am on a doomed crusade to get people to stop labeling themselves as such.
  You're a normal person who doesn't like some types of socializing or gets exhausted easier from some kinds of interaction. A huge percentage of people are going to get burned out by social situations they're not engaged with or having a good time with. There's a reason you see groups of bored, tired looking people hanging around outside of receptions.
  
  Yes. And we call that kind of person an “introvert”.
  
  And what about people who feel exhausted by every type of social interaction? Because that's my experience. I'm not saying it cannot change over time, but labels can still be useful. When someone describes themselves as an introvert, nobody assumes they are drained by every single interaction. People generally understand it as a way of describing how someone responds to strangers or groups, rather than how they respond to all interaction.
  There is nothing wrong with that. A label can help someone express a pattern they recognise in themselves without believing they are trapped by it. It is simply a way of communicating how they tend to feel in certain situations. Many people adopt mindsets that feel natural or comfortable without assuming those mindsets define them forever.
  
  I get a lot of heat for this, but I like to remind people that there isn't really "such thing" as an "introvert."
  You should get heat for that. It’s not merely factually incorrect, it’s dangerous, harmful misinformation. Neurodiversity exists. Learn to live with others who don’t think, feel, or function the way you do.
  https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33548763/
  https://psyforu.com/the-science-of-introversion-how-brain-chemistry-shapes-our-social-preferences/?amp=1
  ELI5
  https://www.sciencealert.com/the-science-of-introverts-vs-extroverts
  
  Actually introversion/extroversion is the only personality trait for which we have hard, physiological evidence. Introverts and extroverts use different chemical pathways in the brain.
  Introverts have longer dopamine pathways and high cortical arousal, lending to getting too stimulated.
  Even the way blood flows in the brain during tasks is different. In introverts, it tends more toward the frontal cortex while in extroverts it flows more toward sensory pathways (sight, sound, touch). Confirmed via fMRI studies.
  There's a book called The Introvert Advantage that goes over the science in detail. Really good read.
  
  Is it possible the heat is from being wrong?
  
  there isn’t really “such thing” as an “introvert.”
  This is something non-introverts say. I promise if you fit the label you'd understand its usefulness.
  
  Being an introvert is part of some people's identity, like me, so...

Me after work every morning when I was working. Retirement is orders of magnitude better in that regard

Reported for posting a picture of me without my consent.
- I'm in this picture and I don't want to be

It's basically explaining what introverts are
- Pretty much. Good thing this character recognized their dwindling social energy and stepped away to recharge before it became a problem.

There's not enough time.

As an introvert, this is exactly why I avoid these type of situations in the first place.
- I have enough introvert/chill friends that most of my social outings are enjoyable hangs or game nights (and having the structure of a game really helps me). But every once in a while the extroverts wants to do a big holiday party or something and I've finally convinced all of them that I don't secretly hate them, I just need to step out and exist in silence periodically or I'm going to go insane.
  But I definitely don't sign up for all of the extrovert parties.

It's funny, because I'm the exact opposite. I'll be absolutely burnt out at the end of a week, but put me in a crowd of people Friday night and I get juiced to joke and sing and ham it up until morning

Art style looks AI but concept is definitely human
- He's a legit Filipino artist who shows up at conventions and has published books.
  You on the other hand, you sound like a bot.
  
  Aw shucks I’ve been discovered 😝
- Took me less than 5sec to discover that he's a legit artist, with a WP page.
- ai doesn't have a "style"
  
  It does. Developers train the AI on specific sets of images and cluster the outputs under categorically headings.
  The end result is these pre-fabbed cookie cutter appearance to AI output. Even before you notice the surplus of fingers or weird melty background elements, an experienced eye will catch orientation and framing and composition that all look the same.
  
  It's likely not AI anyway. Everything is consistent for characters who completely change their position and direction.

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