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attractive people have it harder than unattractive people.

They are stalked, harassed, clung to by creeps and sycophants. It's tough.

People only see them for their looks in many cases. 😮‍💨

They are always accused of being vain when they do skin care. They are objectified and overly sexualized.

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  • They are also more likely to be popular with their friends and family, have more favorable teachers in school (teachers aren't all creeps, but most of them are susceptible to biases based on appearance), more likely to be hired and to be promoted, and have a lot more attainable options of partners than someone unattractive.

    Maybe there's actually a happy medium for somewhat-but-not-extremely attractive people, but don't act like there aren't massive benefits.

    • Otherwise known as 'The Halo Effect'.

      https://www.simplypsychology.org/halo-effect.html

      Prettier people are subconciously judged less harshly by others, given more grace for mild to moderate errors/bad acts, more assumed to be acting honestly / not lying, more assumed to be factually correct about any statement/claim, more likely to be praised/celebrated... etc etc.

      Also known as 'pretty privelege'.

      Also works on basically all humans at a subconscious level, also doesn't matter what sex/gender the pretty person is, though the effects can work in somewhat different ways depending on a society's gender norms.

      While yes, it is true that pretty people also get a lot of negative attention and judgement as well... you run the lifespanning studies, and the result that you get is that prettier people generally have better life outcomes, when you control for other variables.

      Also, some notes/questions to OP...

      Are you saying they get called vain while doing skin care?

      Or are you saying they get called vain while publically broadcasting their doing skin care onto a machine that nearly everyone has on their person at nearly all times?

      Also also, you are aware that less attractive people are much, muuuch more likely to just generally be bullied, insulted, shunned, dismissed, and also, plenty of them have throngs of dedicated haters/harassers/gaslighters too, right?

      Go look up some lolcows and tell me how many of them are attractive vs average vs unattractive.

      People can be creepy stalkers out of a sense of unfounded parasocial jealousy or wanting to live vicariously through a pretty person... or, an unfounded sense of immense superiority that justifies their cruel and sabotaging acts against an ugly person, a contemptible person.

  • Upvoting because I disagree.

    All what you said is true, but unattractive people also get judged by their look, just in a different way.

    But attractive people can use their looks as a superpower too, and unattractive people in general can't.

    Given the exact same circumstances (and acknowledging the shit they have to put up with) I think attractive people at the end of the day get their way through life easier.

  • I dunno about harder, but this is absolutely a thing that is very rarely discussed.

    I have a friend who is very conventionally attractive and the stories I hear about the way people treat them absolutely blows my mind. The out of pocket things people think they're entitled to say, from passersby on the street to medical professionals, the way they are literally predated upon, it's vile.

    Sure, they get the benefits of being hot, it's a social lubricant for sure, but what they go through because of it sounds utterly exhausting.

    They're wildly intelligent and absurdly hardworking to boot. But people don't take them as seriously as they should because all some people see is the flesh they're contained in. That particular issue affects both the conventionally attractive and the non-. Our society seems too obsessed with looks on the whole, to our collective detriment.

  • Thank God I'm pretty

    Every skill I ever have will be in question

    Every ill that I must suffer, Clearly brought on by myself

    Though the cops would come for someone else

    I'm blessed

    I disagree, the data disagrees, as far as opression Olympics is in any way useful. But I accept attractive people have challenges unique to them.

  • As a very attractive man, I will say that perhaps in some ways being good looking brings favor, but in the meaningful ways, it often brings judgment and scorn. The biggest false belief of course, is that if you're a good looking man, you must be a complete misogynist and womanizer. Or just an asshole. So often I have to diffuse the anticipation that I'm walking in as some giant arrogant prick and I'm just not. It's exhausting dealing with that.

    So I might get an extra helping of fries in the bag from a cute server, but it makes day to day life interacting with other people very difficult at times. It's possible to be a very good person and good looking, the two really don't have anything to do with each other, but most people don't intuit that.

    Oh, and it's also exhausting not being able to have normal relationships with women, cuz they almost always have the goo goo eyes. It's not all it's cracked up to be.

  • I recommend being both for a real headfuck. Start ugly, get wise, turn it around. It's mortifying. But I'd still take uncomfortable old lady flirting, for example, over being invisible.

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