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      • Thank you

        ::: spoiler (CW Transphobia, Suicide) I honestly teared up a little while reading this one last night, in a good way I mean. It really helped the feeling to set in and process a little. This sort of bluntness usually does, actually, so I appreciate it a lot.

        And you're right, but I'm too cowardly to do it. I should, this has been a repeat problem from them and it spirals me a little every time, this being a particularly bad one. But... I still love them and it hurts to cut it off like that. Even if I recognise that it'll be better for me, even if I recognise I'll be happier, I'm too much of a coward to do it right now. Cutting off my mother is already more taxing than I thought it'd be, even though every time I've heard her voice for the past year it was to yell at me, say I'm in a cult, call me a capitalist for being trans, disown me, talk about how my bigoted cousin is so much smarter than me despite being an uneducated shit, threaten me with her suicide, blame my father's ill health on me. I still miss her despite it. Even though I really fucking shouldn't.

        And the worst bit is I know them well enough to understand the rationale behind the hurtful things they say. Like I realise the reason my father said this bit is because he's guilty and me bringing up how hard things are sometimes makes him feel bad about kicking me out. Considering the time he texted it he was probably drunk too and has forgotten by now. But why am I so fixated on trying to empathise with something so hurtful. I wish I was able to find it in me to at least tell him off for the lack of respect but I can't.

        • Yw!

          • ::: spoiler spoiler Blunt was perfect. Honestly it always is for me, I have a habit of brooding and getting a blunt reply usually helps me recontextualise it and see a bit clearer to stop brooding.

            Yeah, I know it's quite common, and if someone else was hurting in this way I'd have probably said the same as you, that staying in the relationship just hurts them more. But I also recognise that I can't cut him off yet, I'm not really ready for it at all. And I guess part of me hopes that since he's not as transphobic that maybe he'll actually try to change later, but I know that won't happen.

            A lot of my friends do. Honestly if I went in full detail you'd hate them even more.

            Pfffft. Okay I know you probably didn't mean this specifically, but I can't help but read 'do something cool dad' as

            I wish I could but he has a letter to give me that got sent to their place since I still don't have a real permanent address. And it's for my loan, so I do kind of have to. Plus I was going to need to do groceries that day anyways. Sunday Sery will be a very grumpy and eepy girl though. I'll try to use your suggestion sometime in the future though, I do think it would help.

            Thank you, I am at this point. Still a bit emotionally volatile, but not nearly as much as I was last night when I was ugly crying.

    • I am so sorry you have to deal with that. I wish I could do something to help you (if there is, please tell me). I hope you can get to your bed soon.

    • That really sucks :/ I'm sorry Seryph. I think everyone here who has had to deal with transphobic parents feels this.. hoping you can get your head showered from them

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