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ADHD Tips

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‘I have a gambling problem’
‘The casino has lots of resources that can help problem gamblers’
Absolute madness.
- I mean... they do they can ban you for life... so....

For actual tips though, healthygamersgg on YouTube/Twitch is an excellent resource. He is a licensed therapist and has a ton of adhd videos and other topics.
- This is only the half of it. Dude spent years becoming a monk and learned a bunch of meditation techniques and practices that have been transformative for me. I've been looking at ADHD resources on YouTube for years and no one else I've seen there have the insights he does. I ended up purchasing his guide but just going through his YouTube catalog I'm still finding videos that are gold.
  
  He's also given me a lot of topics that taught me how to actually recognize issues that I had, and to bring that to my personal therapist to talk about. They really work well together!
- This might be a personal issue, but to me the vibes feel off with him. I’m not against someone self promoting, it just seems like every video of his I’ve seen has him wedging his $75 guide and $600 “group coaching” into conversations whenever he can. I’m not saying he’s wrong about anything or that his videos aren’t useful, he just comes off as very used car salesman to me.
  
  A lot of his approach seems to be based on vedic philosophy, and all that is available free if you don't want to go through him. You can walk into a temple and leave with free books because they believe knowledge should be free. All they ask is you pass the book on when you're finished.
  I've got nothing against the guy though, I don't know enough about him, just pointing out that you can get the knowledge free if you want to.
  
  Why is that wrong? He also has an insane amount of free content on YouTube.

"I think my phone is more interesting than gardenwork"
Bro that's ADHD!
"I sometimes forget where i put my keys"
That's ADHD for sure you should get meds
On ADHD-TikTok everything is ADHD
- I was about to comment something rude, until I read the last line.
  
  THATS ADHD!!!!!
  
  I feel like it was pretty obviously taking the piss regardless.

This is like telling a crack head that there is an awesome support group for addiction in this dilapidated crack house down the street.
- That's precisely my reaction. Shorts is like damn crack. I look up after two hours, "Shit, I have to get up in a couple hours"

The only "resources" on tiktok that might actually help, are just videos of users giving the viewer general words of affirmation and support. And it's not gonna fix you; it would just boost your mood a little and maybe get you out of a slump.

People do that shit with YouTube too.
Me: "I'm looking for resources on this technology."
Them: "Here watch this 1 hour YouTube video from a random influencer who you can trust. Just ignore his ads to buy crypto."
- Or stuff like
  Me- mentions in passing that I have a chronic illness
  Them- watch this 2 hour rambling video about a completely different condition and you'll be cured
  Me- no, that would be like telling a paraplegic to watch a video about diabetes and then they'll no longer be paralyzed
  Them- I was just trying to help, you just want to be in pain for the pity party
- Yes! Why is it like this? I hate when people tell me to watch some video essay on a disorder - like why the fuck am I listening to some random person on youtube with no credibility??
- Me: "I've gotten so bad at retaining focus when watching a video that it's sometimes difficult to even finish songs"
  Them: "this 3 hour lecture by Professor Bland and this 5 hour Fortnite stream session from Immortal Wombat have some good tips!"

Why would anyone trust tik tok ad a source for ANY information at all?! That’s like watching the Sifl and silly episode where they dance to the Du Hast video to learn German.
- DU HAST MESH
  Reminded me that we were playing this song on the radio as a kid and my friends mom turned it off because it might be satanic.

TikTok does have a ton of misinformation, projections of learned helplessness, and recommendations of pseudoscience/under-studied treatments; but if you are a TikToker and really want to get ADHD tips there, here are a few users I've found that actually seem to know what they're talking about:
HowToADHD (Jessica McCabe)
TheADHDNutritionist (Marley Alex)
ADHDVision
ADHDCoachRyan (ADHD Coach Ryan Mayer)
Though even with them, take what they say with a grain of salt, do your homework, and talk to your doctor/therapist/executive function coach before implementing stuff that may impact your wellbeing. Also, be mindful of recommendations that are also paid sponsorships.
I follow a couple more, personally, but I don't feel comfortable recommending them because their suggestions and the information they provide can be a bit dubious at times.
- i hate how people have to dance around giving proper tips with so much occluded tiptoey bullshit language. who talks to their doctor like it's a normal thing
  
  It's about personal responsibility. I'm not an expert, and I'm not going to pretend to be--especially when it comes to someone's health. I feel like it's important to make an effort to avoid misleading anyone.
  It's also a good idea to talk to your doctor when you have quetions. I've consulted my doctor about supplements, water intake, and all kinds of seemingly innocuous things. When it comes to my ADHD, I talk to my care team regularly about the stuff I'm doing/not doing.
  
  Yeah, sounds like a rich person thing and I'm not even American lol
  
  No seriously I do this and I went to my doc like 6 times over a year to find the right balance of my meds, while seeing a therapist who I'd also talk about treatment. Your primary care should be the best place to refer you to a specialist or talk you down if you don't need it.

Anti- Tik tok instant upvote 😎 lol
- I'm sure 1 in 100 TikToks are probably good, but I just can't make it through the amount of bad videos on there... the good stuff gets shattered on other platforms anyway.
  By the way, I was helping a buddy job hunting... holy cow, TikTok has a huge number of open jobs, like 650 in Seattle alone.
- TikTok bad, upvotes to the left.
- This place is full to the brim with 40 year old boomers.

Wow, "have you tried surrendering your decision making to this algorithm?"

As terrible as tiktok can be, it is literally the place that showed me I have adhd... later confirmed by profesionals once I knew to ask. Had I not dabbled on tiktok during the pandemic, I'd probably still be wondering what's wrong with me... not that I'm saying adhd is "wrong", just that for 40 years, I always knew I wasn't neuro-typical and couldn't function the same as others without having any answers as to why. I would frequently fall into a debilitating spiral of self-loathing and mental abuse, convinced that I was somehow at fault. Finally, having an answer has helped immensely, and unfortunately, I have tiktok to thank for this.
- Same boat, except I was diagnosed before hand. I was scrolling one night and adhd content started started to appear where people were talking about how it impacted their lives (albeit via stupid lists). It actually pinpointed a lot of behaviours I exhibited and put meaning to them. I was sceptical at first but started to see more and more of the same behaviours being highlighted, so I wrote them down and took them back to my shrink, who sat down and went thru them with me and we started to work through them. Was actually quite helpful.

I love "misinformation vortex". Too true

Thank you! I'm on The struggle bus as is, I'm not trying to put a brick on the gas pedal.

I prefer this misinformation vortex

idk why but i never got tiktok. the all-powerful mystical algorithm that hijacks your brain just didn't work on me. it's all politics bullshit and lame facebook memes.
hell, the fedi (both lemmy and the microblog-verse) has "wasted" more of my lifespan overall than tiktok.
- If you told it you didn't like that content it would just try something else. Or searched your interests so it knows what you're looking for. My feed is full of only my interests 99.9% of the time. Everyone complaining about only getting cringy content is really telling on themselves here lol
  
  Everyone complaining about only getting cringy content is really telling on themselves here lol
  even in the deepest, darkest, secret-est parts of my soul i have no interest in any content (a) in Arabic and (b) of imams. i can't even understand a word of Arabic and am not religious, yet apparently that was the most up to date profile tiktok had on me the last time i tried it out. (which was the 3rd time or so) and i even made an account and signed in.
  the politics bullshit and lame facebook-grade memes were the "best" it could muster. as in, the only things i understood.
  maybe it works better in an english speaking and not-religious-asf country.

i know people love to shit on tiktok and a lot of it is fucking garbage, but there's also little nuggets of incredible gold on there. i've gotten so many game changing little hacks from there
PLUS what makes it really unique imo is how immersive video is -- it allows for so much more frank discussion and normalization of mental illness when you can see the person and hear their voice. i've personally found so many great videos on like adult loneliness and coping with being alone -- and it's so wonderful to experience, seeing real, normal looking people going thru it with you, instead of the implication everyone is a sad loser gaming in the dark or whatever
- @number8 @db0 there are nuggets but you’ve got to wade through so much garbage to find it. By garbage I mean that crap you didn’t ask for and the people that think they have helpful #ADHD information, but they don’t. By my own fault, I use it as a dopamine slot machine at night and can lose 3 hours like nothing. So I had to take it off my phone.

I'm honestly amazed that I haven't succumbed and downloaded it.
- I accidentally got sucked into YouTube shorts which is basically the same thing. Be careful out there.
  
  Same, but like it's not even good. Like I bet tiktok works because the algorithm is good and shows stuff you actually want to watch, but on YouTube Shorts I skip over most of them. Still keep scrolling tho

For someone who's suspicious. Any links or tips? The community page was thin as f.
- It was a meme version of this article which caused me to seek a formal diagnosis.
  https://themighty.com/topic/adhd/icnu-william-dodson-adhd-motivation/
  
  Did you get help? I'm scared even my wife doubts me.

I intentionally don't do TikTok for this reason. I would literally get nothing done. I do watch tech videos on the side while working. Then YouTube started pushing shorts aggressively and I caught myself scrolling shorts for 2 hours and did zero work.

Memes and shitpost can only get you so far. Plus, it's not a very professional thing to do, like fidget toys. Only working on ways to remain focused and taking medication can help adhd.

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