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Disabled Community Megathread from November 17, 2025 to November 30, 2025

I have always been fond of music, especially when I'm feeling down. Now, I don't think there's enough popular songs about disability and how we struggle each day. But I stumbled across a song the other day that, while it's not about disability, I've been listening to quite often when I feel like I failed somehow. When all that's happening is really just me struggling and making it through another day, for better or for worse, I like to remind myself that I am perfectly incomplete, but I am good the way I am. I hope that maybe it helps you too.

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Mask up, love one another, and stay alive for one more week.

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Hello fellow members of c/disabled. As already mentioned in a comment thread in this post, the mods created a short "Information Post" about Ableist Language on the site and the consequences of using said language. I would like for you to give us your input and feedback to the document. If you want anything to be included that feels like it's missing, you can send me a DM on hexbear or comment under this comment. I would like to ask you all that the comments in this thread be kept short, as this is the megathread and I don't want to clog it with too many administrative comments if possible. I will make sure to incorporate all feedback and input you have to the best of my ability. You can follow the changes through the document link: https://cryptpad.fr/doc/#/2/doc/edit/ XBOFfyoPSb0-l4vFySADdh+g/
Edit: I will be taking feedback in the next mega as well and post the link to the document again. Thank you again to everyone who already offered up feedback and input, I appreciate you taking the time to help make it better!
- I would argue that in the example about use of medical terms used as insults, it might be worth mentioning that one of the reasons it is so problematic is because of the associated stigma and because it makes it out as if the reason a bad act is bad is because it is an act similar to someone who is ill. When you say someone who is doing evil has to be crazy, you are insinuating not only that the only reason to do bad is because you are sick, but also that disabled people are inherently connected to evil.
  
  Thank you for the input! How do you like this as a modification?
  ...are ableist outside of a medically diagnosed context. [Calling someone who commits something evil a psychopath/sociopath/etc., or using a descriptive word like insane/crazy, assigns an inherent evil to anyone suffering from associated conditions. In doing so, all disabled people of these groups are immediately labeled as evil.] If someone is treating you cruelly, ...
- The document you've requested has an invalid URL.
  
  ditto
  
  I changed the URL, does it work now?
- It would be very helpful if there was an explanation included for the mechanism that makes usage of the mentioned words ableist. I can not give a better explanation to this but a very simplified example would be:
  Using the phrase ‘blinded by’ normalises the idea that blindness is a bad thing that should be avoided. Blind people should have the agency over the connotation of the word ‘blindness’ and not be influenced by our negative usage of it to think that their condition is inherently bad.
  It would be cool if there was an academic source on this mechanism.
  It’s a lot to ask of any community to spell out exactly why certain things are bad for them, but unfortunately it is often the only way to get people to actually consider what you’re asking of them.
  
  I'll try to find an academic source tomorrow if I can, otherwise I think your two sentences are good additions that I've put into the document. Thank you very much for your input!
  
  Using the phrase ‘blinded by’ normalises the idea that blindness is a bad thing that should be avoided. Blind people should have the agency over the connotation of the word ‘blindness’ and not be influenced by our negative usage of it to think that their condition is inherently bad.
  this is quite strange to me, all sighted people are temporarily blinded on a regular basis and often in physically unpleasant ways that we avoid when possible.

"The price of community is inconvenience" people when talking about endless loud music everywhere: 🤗
"The price of community is inconvenience" people when talking about wearing a mask when they leave their home: 🤬
- That thread pmo so much, zero consideration for anyone ND who might need things a bit quieter. One person completely ignored that when it was pointed out, continued arguing on bad faith, and it was never removed (I reported). So many people saying "It doesnt hurt anyone (me)"
  
  It is actually Not Very Communist of you to be irritated by unavoidable but preventable loudness. It is in fact Very Communist of me to spread the both avoidable and preventable plague. Learn the rules!
  
  it was never removed
  this is because the admins also generally support ableism as long as its popular to do so
  every website sucks :p
  
  I sometimes wonder how lacking in empathy people can be, but then I'm reminded that you need to learn empathy first and then need to give a shit about people around you continuously. It takes effort, and it seems a lot of people, including hexbears, don't want to give a shit. It's fucking sad.
- Unfortunately very true

me watching people yell at disabled people for not going to protests:
so youll make them accessible right? youll wear masks right? right??
- Every time I post something like this I scratch at least one other person. It's kind of funny.
- And then they just Anakin smile at you

What do you MEAN healing isn't linear?
Anyway the season 6 premier of House is about how fucked up psych institutions are, which is funny coming from the show that is overwhelmingly pro-medical abuse. The lesson is "always let doctors do what they want because they're better and smarter than you."
- Hey that's not true, sometimes the lesson is also that you deserve your fate if you don't fit within accepted societal norms!

I got my diagnosis today. Like I always feard, I have endometriosis and according to the images, it's really bad. It's not like I didn't know that already, but having the diagnosis doesn't give me any vindication. The biggest issue is that they told me that I will need to use hormonal therapy if they're going to treat me, which means estrogen blockers or the pill. Having taken both before, I honestly think I'll just stick with living in constant pain. The pain is excruciating and debilitates me for roughly a week each month, but knowing how I react to hormonal supplenents and blockers, I think I'd rather keep eating painkillers.
It just makes me so fucking sad and hopeless. A hysterectomy is off the table as well, as I'm "too young" (sexist bullshit argument) and it apparently has too many side effects (the pill doesn't tho lmao).
- hey apropos of nothing just here to remind you that i think youre amazing (and I'm not the only one)
  
  Thank you sweetie
- Sorry the medics are being such utter c****s as always. I don't blame you at all for not wanting to take that hormonal rubbish. I'm worried I'll be in the same situation as you when my appointment finally comes and they'll try and push drugs on me instead of a hysterectomy. What side effects did they say a hysterectomy has?
  
  What side effects
  well you see it means you cant have a baby, and we all know anybody with a uterus' only purpose is as an incubator (societal commentary)
  
  The problem with a hysterectomy is that apparently, you still need to take hormonal drugs, especially if they remove the ovaries as well. The side effects without hormones are immediate menopause as well as bone density issues bc estrogen is needed to keep your bones intact and strong (alternative is testosterone). The side effects of a hysterectomy without removing the ovaries is, in my case, no end to the endometriosis, but apart from that, it also causes the bladder to dislocate quite often and the can make your innards fall forward and into unhealthy positions, which includes the colon and kidneys. It's not something they like doing in general, as the pelvic floor seems to suffer the most and thus makes all the other issues happen.
  Thank you for the shared rage, sweetie
  I feel very much cheated, but then again, I knew treatment wise we aren't at a point where I can get rid of endo without hormonal therapy.
- For what its worth, as a male, I once had a female partner who was told the same thing about the hysterectomy. When they went to different OB's, they were told different opinions, and one said they'd do it. Might be very worth searching your area for other widely regarded OB's to see if you can get another opinion.
  
  Thank you
  
  I can certainly try that, but it won't solve the underlying issue of endometriosis unfortunately. There's certainly someone who's willing to do a hysterectomy, but ultimately, I don't think it'll help with the disease. I want the blasted thing gone obviously but I do need hormones. Heard someone once say that transitioning was what saved them from endo, and I'm a bit jealous that I'm not trans. Would make this a lot easier 🥺

hot take but making fun of fascists (that dont even wear them) for wearing diapers is actually like ableist as fuck
i know its like incomprehensible to some people but there is infact a very large group of people who need continence aids just to exist! lets stop shaming people for daring to have what you consider "unsavory" disabilities
its wild to me that people cant say how terrible someone is without resorting to fatphobia/ableism/other bigotry, and of those people 99.999% of them will be like "no its okay because they suck" when they get called out
- stares at the charlie kirk emoji coldly
  
  i thought that was a mormon magic underwear thing

Zelda from Pet Semetary is how every ableist raising a physically disabled family member views the person they have to take care of: “ugh I have to take care of and look at this ugly waste of oxygen. Hope they choke to death so I’m free of their existence.”
- It's wild how many people look at someone who will struggle their whole life due to neurodivergence or disability and their first thought is "Ugh, what a burden for me."
  
  I have maintained very few long-term relationships. People sing a very different tune after the first year or so when it's apparent one won't just "get better."
- And yet if you express a desire for a$$i$t£d su!c!d£ the hypocrites always say "No, yOuR LiFE is tOO pReCIouS."
  
  i mean as a chronically ill creature i push against assisted suicide because its used to coerce disabled people into killing themselves in lieu of care (just look at what kkkanda is doing). should be focusing efforts on pushing for care and support for disabled people, not genocide. people are literally being told "if youre unhappy with the care theres always MAID (assisted suicide)" and thats so not okay, and neither is the silent genocide of just not providing care at all. murder disguised as medical care is bad, actually.
  
  Not in kanada. Maid is offered far more than requested and is pushed on the poor and disabled instead of benefits/support as a way of freeing up healthcare spaces and saving money. Living is the best revenge.

i swear almost all of my migraines these days come from getting too close to cishet men. if they used 1/10th as much body wash as they do body spray my life would be so much better; as it is like 60% of the cis men i encounter reek so heavily of axe or whatever that i can't get within 30 feet of them without it ruining my entire day
this complaint brought to you by this exact situation happening twenty minutes ago
- Agreed, if you leave a cloud of scent after yourself it's too much! But it is so common for people to douse themselves in the stuff.
- IME, everyone, male and female, wears an unholy amount of perfume. It's so bad I have to carry migraine tablets with me everywhere I go.
- I'm getting violent flashbacks to some of these clouds I walked into, and I don't even get headaches or migraines from it. Sorry you had so many reeky people around you, I hope you won't encounter any more anytime soon

i swear every time i log into this hellhole i get hit with 12d4 psychic damage
can people please stop being complete utter assholes for fuck sake its not that hard
- message to the admins (who will never read this)
  fuck you!!! moderate fucking ableism on your damn website for fuck sake. i know reading comprehension is at an all time low but come on is it really that difficult? i know you dont care, and that it doesnt effect or actually matter to you, but can you at least pretend that you give a shit?
  
  First things first, whenever you enter the disabled mega, I want you to know I'm casting Prayer of Healing and you always regain maximum hitpoints. No psychic damage shall be sustained or held here.
  Second, I agree with you, and I will hopefully soon get to the ableist language post I promised to make, once my own issues don't distract me so much anymore 😥 feel really bad for not getting to it sooner

Why would a doctor think negging is an acceptable strategy. I don't care if its the eighteenth time they're here for the same issue.
Rant over. On to the meeting.

- You are doing your best
  
  Thanks, I appreciate it

I have a volunteer shift AND a work shift AND a meeting tomorrow. lmao I schedule so well, im so good at schedules.
- You managed to get all the schedule in one day! That's impressive (and worrisome, please make sure you take breaks whenever you can)
  
  I didn't mean to. It just happened.

Someone got drunk and vomited next to my door, so now I'm going to wash my door/wall at midnight. Fuck my entire life man.

I don't know how to have a conversation that leaves me socially satisfied at the end and I have no idea why or what I can do better
- Sorry it's causing you distress trying to communicate, comrade. It's not an easy task trying to express yourself and make connections, and being on the spectrum makes it so much more difficult to navigate. It's okay to not be sure of what you want or need. Sometimes those needs end up changing over time as we grow and learn, so it's not a bad thing to be figuring things out. Hope you have a better day today.
- Feel hugged sweetie, that's a horrible feeling
  
  Is there something you're looking for in particular? Like "wholesome chitchat" or "warm, kind conversation"? Or is it more specific like "I need X to listen so I can get something off my chest"?
  
  thank you
  I don't know, its hard to explain. I guess a lot of the times I talk with someone it feels short, like I wanted to talk longer. But I don't necessarily always know exactly what I want to talk about, or keep it going, and I also don't know if I want to just ramble/talk at someone either. A lot of the time its a kind of generic wanting to talk about trans related things but I don't really know what to say. And even that outside of that a lot of the times it just feels like, "cut short", even if the conversation reached a "natural" place to stop.

i got approved for one of the disability aid programs in my country
it's not the main one, but it's nice to get some assistance finally
- Yipeeh!!!
  
  Congrats, Spectre, I'm very happy for you!
- So glad you're getting some help!

I started using orca, the screen reader, to test how things are for blind people, and I think there are improvements that can be made on hexbear, both on technical level, but also on a user level. Can we try to add an alt to the image in the mega body.
Noting down things:
On posts, the comment icon/svg says the post id for some reason?
The context links both say "Show context".
Profile pictures just say "image".
The expand post button is just "button".
The share button (three connected dots) is just "button".
The moderation history buttons in the more dropdown is under the same
<li>
, so the screen reader can say there are 4 items, when there is (in practice) 5. But also, the
<hr>
is in it's own
<li>
so there can be sometimes correctly (but for the wrong reason) 6 items.
It says the •. But not the pen so it's not clear when a post is edited.
Thumbnails just say "expand here"
Testing area:

Yeah... it of course says "show"
ⓘ This user is suspected of being a cat. Please report any suspicious behavior
- I fully agree with you, there's a lot we can do better. What do you want me to add? Really not good with formatting, but I will try my best.
  Oh no :/ I mean, I simply copied the one from the trans mega, maybe I should at least change the name of the image? But that doesn't explain the ID thing. Maybe something to ask the admins?
  Adding to the last part, we might be able to change that word to what actually happens, namely "removing the blur", again, with help from someone who's more tech savvy than I am.
  I'm noting suspicious behavior, I think this poster may be a cat.
  
  Right now is simply says "Show [...] clickable", so it's like this:
  for sensitive content that falls under Hexbear's Code of Conduct. You can find the spoiler tag here:
  Show [...] clickable.
  After clicking it, just substitute the second "spoiler" with your content warning and the three underscores ( ___ ) with your sensitive content, and you're all done.
  And while we can't do anything about it saying Show, we should include something like "an arrow pointing to the spoiler button" ("spoiler button" is what it narrates when I highlight the button)
  The "nothing things down" is for myself, I'm talking about the small comment icon on the front page, so don't worry about it. If it's something users can do better I'll point it out like I did with the image alt.
  ⓘ This user is suspected of being a cat. Please report any suspicious behavior.

I got a letter from the private hospital, it seems they have accepted me for the consultation. So that's something. On the downside my GP surgery recently changed their appointment booking system to an online thing that is so difficult to use I haven't been able to use it. They never answer their phone lines, so it means if I need an appointment I have to actually go there first thing in the morning, get in the queue and hope there are some appointments left by the time I get to the front of the queue, which usually there aren't. Stupid, stupid system.
In fact so many other people are struggling to use this online booking system that the surgery have started running classes in how to use it! Stupidest thing I've ever heard. So many people need these classes that there is a waiting list. I'm on the waiting list and god knows how long it will take. I am honestly starting to think they make it so hard to get an appointment purposely to deter people.
- A class to use a booking system?? With a wait list? That's ridiculous. Glad to hear the private hospital will take you, that is a positive. Hopefully they can get you in soon. And you're right, the system is definitely working against the people who need it most.

i forgot how to give pushback to my doctor, i used to be so good at this but i'm so shit at advocating for myself now, he's not taking my disabilities seriously and i have to get him to fill out important paperwork about them soon
- I believe in you, I'm sure it'll work out and you'll find that confidence again soon

I do NOT want to work for someone else anymore. I want to set my own schedule and use my own methods. I'm going to try to make this happen
- More power to you

people seem deranged these days. I don't know what happened to make everyond so fucking weird. I am so tired of everything. it feels like america would rather i be dead. I don't want to be dead, but only because i dont want to add to the suffering of people i love. So so tired.
- America seems to want a lot of people dead, but as a state, it always has wanted people dead for profit. I'm sorry you're suffering from it as well. Know that we appreciate you here and are glad that you're around
  
  Thanks, i got to spend a little time with my nephews and their chaotic energy always help pull me out of the tailspin. I really appreciate this comm, you all have much better responses than a general forum or an overly concerned but ignorant loved one. Thank you.
- People always want the disabled dead. Even in Utopia, Thomas More said if someone is ill/disabled with no hope of a cure, they should unalive themselves to prevent them from being a burden to others.

I have a stim I've done forever, and it is very soothing, but it also keeps me from doing things and is really frustrating sometimes. Like really you'd rather sit here and stim instead of do the fun thing in front of you?? This has been an issue forever too..
- Oh no :( Reminds me of some coping mechanisms that helped when things were dire but aren't helping if you're trying to heal. This is a tough spot to be in

hate it when people try to perceive something from my statements, like I'd say "it's my birthday" and they'd think I want a gift
- I get this too, usually I'm very straightforward and it's like people can't believe that I'm stating something honestly or just to share. Also if it is your birthday: Happy Birthday :)
  
  it's not my birthday, but thanks

I'm recovering from surgery on my right arm, which is my dominant arm, and have been fairly crippled as a result. I was feeling sorry for myself last night (painkillers make me depressed and horny, which is a terrible combination!) about how awful everything is right now. Then I remembered, that even though I'm severely fucked up from long covid, I'm not actually disabled and can hopefully recover from this. Just wanted to shout you guys out and say solidarity with my disabled brothers and sisters.
- Welcome to the disabled mega, and get well soon friend! I hope your surgery went well and you won't have any troubles moving forward
  
  Thanks, so do I! Just got my stitches out today and am typing with two hands, albeit very slowly. Start OT tomorrow.
  Now if I could just get help for my 9000 other problems...
- I'm happy you got a surgery you needed. Yeah you sound a little disabled enough to need aids for now, but thankfully it's not permanent.
  Btw if you haven't gotten a covid vax this year and you're still at the hospital, one of my last posts talks about how mentioning to your vaxxer that you have long covid could possibly get you two covid shots covered this year. (I'm in the US.) This way you don't feel so shitty if you happen to get covid in the future. Maybe you will altogether prevent catching it.
  
  Oh I'm covid militant, so I definitely have. I'm going to try for a 2nd shot before the end of the year. Thanks for letting me know.
  I hope the arm isn't permanent! This is surgery #2 now.

For everyone with long covid, please tell the person giving you a vaccine that you have it. If you have insurance, telling them could possibly get you another shot covered later in the year.
Someone who vaxxed me just told me I count as immunocomprimised because I have long covid. They said it means my system is too weak so I need to be vaxxed every 6 months. (6 months is how long my covid vaccine is said to last.)
As a result, my insurance is covering 2 covid vaccines for me this year instead of just one. This is important because a single covid vaccine shot without insurance can cost over $200 in the US.
- This is in the US? Long covid does not fall into the immunocompromised category in my country.
  
  Yes, it's in the US.
- I'm glad you're able to get them!

So much bread this time. No one wants anything but the blandest white bread so I'm living large on all the good bread. Hell yeah I'll take four loaves of sourdough.
- Yesss, enjoy your bread!

Food bank line is being racist to inuits for being "leeches on society". It isn't exactly irony, but it sure is something.

I generally do not think of myself as unique, but there must be some particular way my neurodiversity effects me or something that makes me suffer way more then other people given the same circumstances. I see people, even people in worse circumstances, who are just happier and not as effected as I am and there just has to be something there. Like what about me means I feel this horrible when others don't.
- Do you think it's neurodiversity that causes this? I experience the same thing, and whenever I complain about my circumstances in real life people just brush me off and minimise whatever I'm going through. I thought maybe I just struggle more because I feel so unwell all the time and am in chronic pain, or maybe a tough childhood has affected me mentally. But neurodiversity causing it is an interesting thought.
- First things first, you are unique, but not simply because of your neurodiversity. Everyone is unique, and so are you. As to your suffering, I am sorry you are struggling so much. What I can tell you is that I've spoken to a handful of people who are severely restricted through their disability, and they told me that at some point, it is easier to just pretend to be happy than to give into the suffering. At some point, at least for some of them, the happiness was no longer play-pretend. Just like how smiling more can make you happier through simple body chemistry.
  I can't tell you if they just wanted to console me, but I can tell you that I share your outlook. It does seem like this to me too most of the time, and I always struggle with that feeling. You are not alone, and I appreciate you sharing that feeling with us. Makes me feel a little bit more seen too
  
  I guess I don't know how to explain it, but like I try not to think of myself as so different from everyone on earth, I'm not sure how to explain it. Yea, idk, I fake it a lot especially irl. Still waiting for pretending to be easier- I don't know, it feels like masking and is draining for me.
  Thank you
  Really glad someone understands.

Saw a description severe long COVID and other post infection illnesses as having died but somehow still being alive to witness the pain.
Strong solidarity with those who are so sick with ME or similar illness that they are stuck in their own head, being bed bound and too sick to have any visitors or entertainment or even listen to music. It’s torture.

people on this website will be like "ugh when did this place become so reactionary" if you ask for apartment buildings to be required to have elevators
- or be like "two story houses are ableist as fuck actually"
  "well just get a one story house" they dont fucking BUILD THEM you clown
  
  "well just get a one story house" they dont fucking BUILD THEM you clown
  The simple and easy solution is that the government should pay for stair lifts for anyone who needs them, which is why it will never happen. No money left for accessibility devices, all money spent on murdering brown people.

Sure I may have read 200 pages of cell biology today, but I also shitposted so who can really say if I should feel bad about my efforts. My brain can and it's calling me a failure who should have read 300 pages.
- Your brain is wrong, you did read a lot today about a topic that is by no means "light reading". I'm proud of you!
  
  Thanks. One day affirmations will take.

The cdc post on vaccines and autism is hilariously depressing
- Well that was an interesting read...

inspite of everything, I am loved
- A lot!
- Absolutely

Get rid of the humanities at university. Do not teach them. They are not worth it. Philosophy is for dweebs, law is for losers and history isn't even real. There are 3 student parties running for university reps all from the humanities on different "End woke" campaigns. There is also 1 single issue list of "Less vegetarian options in the cafeteria", also from the humanities.
Meanwhile the med students have two parties. The Student Council, the woke they're campaigning against, and a single issue party focused on reopening the accommodations for Muslim and disabled students.
- Uuuuuurgh
- hmmm, lots of immigrants take med/Applied sciences instead of humanities correct? if a person from my country went to a western country to study philosophy or history they'd be laughed at, less interactions with immigrants less sympathy ig?
  
  There is definitely a factor there which could weigh in. But I thought of 3 other factors that may influence the matter, although the ration of what influences matter and how much is a mystery.
  1:If you know that you want to get into politics you're probably going to get into polisci, law, economics, theology, etc. There are other people in politics, but if your plan is politics you are lmore likely to be studying political subjects. So if I were the kind of obnoxious person who wanted to get into right wing politics, I'd probably find myself in a history class before I found myself in biochemistry. That isn't to say that the person in biochemistry necessarily has better politics, because if i were the kind of person who planned to get heavily into left wing politics i would also be more likely to find myself doing humanities.
  2: Student politics is seen as a feeder program into local and national politics, and you need achievements to write on your resume. Related to 1. But more specifically if you want to lead the party youth organisation for the right wing party, having student politics achievements is good, and the right is likely to lap up "Ended woke on campus".
  And
  3: the med school is miles from any other campus and has no involvement or connection to the rest of university on a day to day basis. None of the big uni events even invites us. All of the student politics matter less here. Our two choices are, after all, status quo and status quo but reopen the prayer rooms and disabled accomodations. There is simply no engagement with it.

I got my gynaecology referral letter today, I had to phone the number to make an appointment. There was an echo on the line, everything I said was being echoed back to me and oh my god, I can't believe how awful my voice sounds. I didn't know it was that bad. When I'm speaking I hear my voice as being quite deep and accentless, but echoed back it sounded like a high pitched child's voice with a cockney accent. I don't even live in London so why do I sound like a cockney?
Anyway apparently NHS waiting lists are so long now that the local private hospital is taking NHS patients. However the private hospital is allowed to pick and choose which patients it will take. If I can go to the private hospital I will get seen quicker, get my own private room, better food etc. So they've put me forward for that but I will have to wait and see if the private hospital accepts me. If not I'll have to be redirected back through the NHS waiting list.
- I hate hearing my own voice too, it always make me cringe and sounds an octave higher than I imagine. I'm sure it's not as bad as we perceive it, though.
  That'd be nice to get 'picked' at the nicer facility! Writing that felt weird...healthcare with sports terminology feels so dystopian. Either way, hope you hear back soon and it gets you on your way to getting the fibroid issues treated.
  
  It is dystopian, especially the fact that the private hospital can just pick and choose whichever NHS patients they will take. But thank you, I hope it gets sorted soon too. They've made me a provisional appointment for new years eve for the consultation but the private hospital can decide against me and cancel it if they want.
- I really hope they'll take care of you and don't just shove you off onto another waiting list. Keeping my fingers crossed for you
  
  As to how hearing your voice made you feel - your voice will always sound deeper to you than it does to others. You're closer to it, and you hear the vibration from inside the body as much as the sound that leaves your mouth. That does not mean you have a high pitched voice, but an echo or a recording of your voice will always sound higher pitched. Don't worry about it, I don't think people think your voice is a high pitched child's voice. As to the accent, have you maybe listened to a podcast or watched a show or something similar that had a lot of people speak with a cockney accent? That might influence your speech patterns. Long story short, there's nothing wrong with having a cockney accent or a higher pitched voice than you thought you had.
  
  Thanks, I really hope I get to go to the private hospital as well, I actually had my thyroidectomy done there (because my employer at the time had given the employees private healthcare benefits) and it was so much nicer than the NHS one. That's probably the only reason my thyroid cancer got diagnosed actually, I'd been begging the NHS for help with my symptoms for 3.5 years at that point and they just kept fobbing me off. Then my employer gave us private health insurance and I told my GP I had private health insurance now and he sent me there for some proper tests.
  I actually lived in London as a child, decades ago but moved to Devon as a schoolchild in the 90s. But that was so long ago and I don't sound cockney in my head at all, I had no idea I still sound like that. In fact it was so long ago I mostly forget I started life in London, it seems like another lifetime ago. I just sounded like such a child too, it was embarrassing.

For my regional administrative council election (The people who handle hospitals) I can choose to vote for "The communists" or "The communist party". I fear this may be splitting the vote guys
- Yes, they are trying to split the vote, but please hide the names of the people on the list, as this is personal information that might lead back to you.
  Edit: Thank you
  
  This one hardly is all that identifying. It isn't the municipal ballot, but sure.
- Yeah. Some years ago I talked with one of the guys from the communists, and I remember him saying the difference between the parties were... like... "if you could smoke in meetings". At least KPiD merged into DKP back in 2023.
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  The electoral strategy of the Danish socialist left is genuinely some of the most baffling stuff.
  Leaving aside that there is functionally little difference between the parties (Ignoring outliers like the RKP) and yet they still won't go into a voting bloc (And DKPs awkward relationship with the red greens isn't helping there. Are they still a voting bloc for communists or not, and if not where does that leave us?), their total refusal to do any kind of actual campaigning outside of like five meters around the very center of Copenhagen means that voters are voting for communists based on name recognition which lol.
  Also they need to start having actual local politics. It can't just be a protest vote in both municipal and regional politics man. That's not good enough.
  But I'm just a silly person who doesn't really do any organising, so I'm probably wrong.

I have toothache and trying to get a dentist appointment in this country is insane. I had an NHS dentist years ago but like many other dentists they went private as the government weren't paying them enough. There aren't any NHS dentists around here taking patients. So if you can't get a dentist but you have a dental problem you need to call the NHS helpline and after loads of hassle you can finally be sent to the stabilisation clinic - where people without NHS dentists who are entitled to free dental care can have an emergency dental treatment. However you have to prove your eligibility, by getting a letter from the NHS low income scheme. This takes a load of hassle and they said I probably won't get the proof of eligibility until some time next week. Once I have the proof then I can go to all the hassle of trying to get an appointment with the stability clinic, meanwhile the toothache is getting worse by then day. Like everything else in this shithole country, it's a pointlessly stressful and time consuming effort. Why is everything like this? Nothing can ever just be fast or easy.
- It's completely alien to me how a dentist appointment could have this many obstacles. Holy shit, this is not okay. Do you have some pain killers for the time being so it doesn't become completely unbearable?
  
  The pain isn't too bad yet, the worrying thing is that it's spreading. It's a mild pain that's covering more and more of the gum and teeth and I have no idea what's causing it.

New mega can be found here
P.S.: As time zones are a pain in the ass, I will leave this mega open until I wake up, so nobody gets cut off mid conversation. Good morning, good day, and good night to you!

An idea, what if everyone in a wheelchair had a gas mask attached in case there's a gas leak or fire? They need to breath harder to exert extra power to move and could take longer to maneuver their way out of harm's way.

That was a fun listen, the lyrics were definitely relatable. I've been on a Sleep Token kick lately, can't get enough of them. Thanks for the new mega
- You're welcome sweetie
  
  I checked them out, it's a wild combination of early 00s goth/punk/emo stuff mixed with metal and some pop-choir-elements (at least the song I first listened to). A wild combination that is fun to listen to!

I found a YouTube link in your post. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
yewtu.be
inv.nadeko.net
yt.artemislena.eu
piped.video

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