Dude, have you any idea how many doctors told me (professionally diagnosed) that I can't be autistic, sure, this is a bit weird, but it's probably just X, that weird thing is probably just Y and so on, telling me I have like ten other things when all these ten things are all explained by autism?
All because drumroll I can hold eye contact. Yes, I've been pressured into masking hard. It makes me suffer, and now you use it to deny me support?
Most doctors have not kept up with the development on diagnosing atypical autism and the ones that do you have almost no chance of scoring an appointment with.
And I am in a coultry where we at least do consider autism for females. There's still lots of countries where high-functioning autists don't get diagnosed.
Let people "self-diagnose" if it means they findcoping mechanisms and things that explain thwir behaviors. Allow them to say "fuck you" when someone tells them they're not trying hard enough because they are just lazy, when in reality they are so overwhelmed they can barely function.
Don't actively make people miserable, because they for whatever reason do not have a formal diagnosis. I encourage most peoble to get one, but I also heard of places that use an official diagnosis against them. I think I read someone from the UK claiming they had custody of their kids challenged because of a diagnosis.
Let people find their coping mechanisms. Even if in the end they don't have autism, how does this affect you or me or any other autistic person?