The Expert Who Kept Eye Drops From Blinding You Was Fired Yesterday
The Expert Who Kept Eye Drops From Blinding You Was Fired Yesterday
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My former rowing partner was one of the people blinded by eye drops before these safety standards were established. I’m sure she can vouch for how not-a-big-deal this is after losing her job, marriage, home, and almost her life. Fuckers.
I'm sorry. Who the fucking fuck breaks up a marriage because their partner was blinded by using what they assumed was a safe product?
Beyond the fact that they were blinded in the first place, this bothers me almost as much as everything else put together.
FFS..... I'm so sorry.
TBF there could have been other things, like the person who went blind having a major personality change.
Yeah, she was 34 when it happened and fell into a pretty deep depression for years. The amount of work she had to do to become baseline functional again was more than her marriage could bear. There were no kids, so at least that wasn’t a factor. The good news is she met someone amazing and got remarried once she had the energy to focus on that again. Overall her life is pretty incredible again, but it was a very tough journey to get there.
One aside that I think is cool that I learned about guide dogs is they can be trained to watch for obstacles at human head height. Rowing racing shells have metal oar riggers that stick out pretty far and when they’re stored on racks, and can be at a variety of heights and are easy to trip over or walk into. Her dog was trained to watch for these sticking out at up to about 6’ and walk her around them even if there was no obstruction on the floor. He knew the difference between what she could fit under and what he had to navigate her around.
Good doggo
Totally. I replied to another comment saying basically the same thing. Check that one if you want some over sharing.
You really testicled your wife's patience there.
It's a sign of her patience and character that she put up with my _ball_istic attitude.... actually... she's a fucking saint for putting up with me before all this went down....
People jokingly call their partner their better half. She's literally the best thing that ever happened to me. Also weeeelllllll out of my league.
#blessed or some shit
It’s easy to say stuff like this, but the harsh reality is that disability (especially if it’s sudden disability later in life) is a massive stressor for everyone involved. Suddenly going blind is an instant and massive lifestyle change for everyone surrounding the victim.
There’s also all of the co-morbid stuff that follows a sudden disability. Depression, anxiety, resentment, PTSD, etc all have the capacity to drastically change a person’s attitude and outlook on life.
I seriously doubt the breakup was instant. My bet is that it was a slow wedge that got driven between them, as the husband also had to adjust to the new limited lifestyle and began to resent her disability for it. Plus with the associated depression and trauma that inherently follows situations like this, the relationship 100% has the potential to be slowly strangled.
Source: Am married to someone who was left disabled by a sudden disease. We’re still married, but that’s largely because we were both willing to do a lot of therapy and work to remain together. And I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss my social life before my partner’s disability.
Thank you for the insightful contribution 'PM_Your_Nudes_Please'!
Really though, you have my sympathies and you're absolutely right. Of course tragedies and disabilities can break up marriages. It doesn't necessarily mean that either spouse did anything wrong.
Anything that changes a person can change a relationship, and anything that changes a relationship can end the relationship.
Wouldn't jump to conclusions here.There's a million different scenarios of how this might've gone down. I've seen some people grow incredibly bitter after becoming disabled or chronically ill. They'd push anyone away.
I suppose that's fair. Just so far outside my personal experience, guess that's a me issue...not a reality issue.
Sounds like you need some more invasive tests or more medical opinions. Either way hope you get some relief soon brother
Ohhhhh... that'd definitely be a hard yes.
I had mystery testicular pain for years. It was crippling and no doctor could figure it out. I saw literally dozens of doctors, had several MRIs and CT scans, and nothing turned up. Then I went to university and learned all about human anatomy and thus I learned most urologists are surprisingly ignorant of the topic. Certainly every one I saw was.
It was two issues: I have a connective tissue disorder which led me to strain my cremaster muscle through daily activities, and I had compression of the genitofemoral nerve due to tight iliopsoas from working a desk job. I've included my protocol if you want to give it a try. It cured me and has helped a few gents I've corresponded with online. I've been mostly pain free for over a decade now, with it only recurring when I get lazy and don't adhere to my system.
Cremaster strain: wear an athletic supporter with a plastic cup whenever possible. It needs to be tight enough to immobilize your testicles. After the pain starts to abate, stop wearing it in bed for a week or two, then for gentle walks, increasing in duration as tolerated. Eventually cease wearing it altogether, but still keep it for recurrences.
Bonus balls exercise: the cremaster muscle is originally a part of the obliques. For some (but not all) men, bicycle crunches with a hard "crunch" of the obliques at the end will result in contraction of the same side's cremaster muscle. You'll know if this is the case as your testicle will rise, as if by magic. Obviously do this exercise after the pain has started to resolve. This is also one way to see if the muscle is your issue: it may hurt when or after it contracts, but this isn't always true
Genitofemoral nerve compression: firmly (but not too firmly) stretch your iliopsoas twice a day for 30s each. No more, no less. The "blaster pose" in this video is what I do.
Additionally, strengthen the same muscles doing the exercises found in this video.
That's it! I hope this helps. Feel free to ask questions, I'm an open book.
This...fuck....my DUDE!
So up until Tuesday I was driving and hour into work and, due to traffic, my way back would be minimum an hour and a half, but sometimes up to 3 hours if everything is fucked. I had considered that I might have a similar issue, mostly from not having cruise control and how I position my leg/foot while driving on the highway. Haven't had a chance to look at the videos yet, but I suspect that they're either the same, or very similar, exercises that my physio has had me doing.
I've not been at it long, so I'll give it time to cook. And, as of Tuesday I've switched depot, so my commute is now a 15min bus ride, with a ~5mins walk on either side of it, so hopefully that'll help too...
Good luck! I always wondered if driving was a factor as it was only on my right side and driving requires a surprising amount of iliopsoas activity.
So what my physio had said is that that nerve can get trapped/damaged by having your heel pointed in and toes out. And would be advisable to keep your heel as close to the outside of the foot well and your toes pointed in to operate the pedals. 🤷 I'm just a mason who never finished highschool. Idfk if that's legit or not. She's like...26, but went to school for physiotherapy, so I guess she probably knows better than me.
Seriously though, dude: get a new PCP.
I’m dumping mine over some stupid pharmaceutical shit that has ultimately spiraled into noticeable cognitive decline and pretty bad depression (good news: appears reversible if I stop taking the thing. Bad news: I go into withdrawal if I stop taking the thing).
Yeeeesh! Yeah. That's.... that's definitely a reason to get a new Dr.
Half my life ago I was doing....alllllll the drugs. At levels and mixes that quite honestly should have killed me. Of the friend group I had at that time, 7 of us, there's myself and one other that aren't dead, or been in the clink for 15 years and looking at a minimum of another 20.
When I saw the way I was headed, after the first of our group had died, and while I was serving a frankly very lenient non-custodial criminal sentence, I detoxed off coke/crack, meth and heroin (smoked not injected) all at the same time.
I can tell you, not exactly how bad or in what way, it's gonna suck. I really really feel for you. Just make sure you follow advice on how to safely come off it, there's a lot of drugs, legal and not, that can easily kill you if you just stop taking them.
Be safe fam.
So I'm in the UK, and while there's a bit of leeway to see a GP that's not in your catchment area, the next closest to where I live is really far. Also it's not really the GP's fault. They're required to follow protocol dictated by the NHS. He walked me through it. There's a program, you punch in the symptoms, follow the questions down the flow chart, it gives you a likely cause. Things like the intensive testing I've been told to try and get? He's really just not authorised to refer me for that. We've had quite a long chat about it, and it really just isn't something that he's able to do. That would have to be something that a specialist sends me for. I've been on the waiting list for 25 weeks, so only 20ish more to go.
The results of decades of underfunded health care systems.....
Hah yep - I actually tried cold turkey-ing it about a month ago, which was not awesome, and then tried titrating down by halving my dose, but ended up just going back to the original within about a week and a half. Mental state was very markedly better, but the withdrawal stuff was pretty balls. Going to be working with a new PCP, psych, and medication coordinator to get off that shit and find a better pharmaceutical balance that works for me.
The aforementioned detox was cold turkey, and I absolutely get how hard it must have been. When you have your new team as support, it might be helpful to give a trusted person a bulk of your meds to be given back on an agreed schedule. Might make sticking to weening off easier. Knowing you only have a set amount until the next time would help me(personally) to not go over what the arranged lower dose is, with the assurance that it is actually available if you say... accidentally dropped half a week's worth down the sink drain opening the container. Which has absolutely happened to me with antibiotics once.
For what it’s worth, taking things as prescribed is not an issue for me. This isn’t substance abuse, and I am highly motivated to get off of that shit. I am absolutely unwilling to subject myself to bouts of decreased cognitive capacity any longer than I absolutely need to. I am willing to put up with some significant discomfort to get through it and off of it.
Gotcha, sorry, I read the situation through a lens of my own experience.
Look into men leaving their wives when they get sick / cancer..... Just peak at it a tiny bit.
I know that's a plausible scenario but I won't generalize as hard as you. You fill in blanks that don't need filling. It's a bad habit.
Newt Gingrich
It's a pretty big life change for one. Plus, their finances obviously changed. Not necessarily easy for anyone to handle those kinds of changes.
For better or worse is literally in the contract you sign...
Want to see something sad look at the divorce rate for women who are diagnosed with cancer. Its so common that most doctors and support groups talk about it after the diagnosis. So I am not surprised but still disgusted.
You don't understand, that's just the free market working as intended. If she didn't want to go blind, then she should have done her due diligence and went with a product that doesn't blind you.
Hoping /s isn't needed, but these days...
I suspect a cabal of guide dogs was behind this move.
(Also /s, because yeah… sigh)
