I'm a 51-year-old married man, and I have owned multiple online girls jn BDSM relationships over the past 4 years. I've controlled their food and what they wear. I've had then send me videos of them spanking and hurting themselves at my my direction. My wife has no idea about any of it.
That's fine, but cheating on your wife isn't nice and I'm going to say so, and neither is abusing much younger women. Young women have been murdered in violent BDSM relationships. It's honestly toxic in my opinion. Which I know isn't popular, but also don't groom young women and cheat on your wife.