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things you can only do with boys

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Oh ok so only if I have a peer reviewed case, not if it actually affected me, how'd I know that'd be your lame excuse.
I hope you show a kid those pics and they ask for copies for later, then it'll get weird for ya.
- Yes, if you can't provide evidence for something I have no reason to believe you. I'm not sure how that's a lame excuse. It's why I'm an atheist as well. But you do you.
  I'm not sure why you think I would talk about me showing a child my daughter's baby photos since we were talking about me showing them to my adult child's partner. Do you think my daughter will be a pedophile when she's an adult and that I would support her in that or something?
  
  I don't believe you don't believe him.
  
  Okay, well someone else claimed that they did have that trauma and I don't disbelieve them. I would have had a more substantive response to their post, but they decided to accuse me of child abuse.
  Edit: and now, they are saying I have a child porn collection. So I'm not sure I believe their claim at this point either.
  
  Well it's usually done to teen children's teen partners ime, but ok fine I hope your adult childs adult partner asks for copies for later, the age of the person making the creepy comment is really not important but I think it's worse if they're adults so I'll roll with it lol. Maybe she doesn't know her husband's proclivities, I'm not sure most pedos advertise it willingly, but he's "tooootally not gonna spank it he just wants it for archival purposes" lol.
  If your wife says "not tonight I have a headache" do you ask for evidence of hypertension? If she says something you did made her upset do you ask for evidence in a peer reviewed paper on why X could possibly be psychologically damaging? I'd bet the answer is "no I take her word at face value because it is her feelings after all." But fuck the feelings of others? Would I have to begrudgingly have sex with you for you to take my word about my feelings?
  
  My wife and I have her and my naked baby photos. We didn't have to ask for copies, they just gave us the family photo albums. And when parents die, that often happens automatically. It kind of feels like you don't know how any of this works.
  And now you're comparing showing someone a naked baby to marital rape? Really?
  
  I didn't say "baby photos" I said "if your wife tells you she is upset about something do you ask her for peer reviewed studies on how that something could possibly psychologically effect someone negatively, or do you just believe she is feeling how she says she is feeling?"
  
  What on Earth does that have to do with parents causing their adult child psychological trauma by showing their partner naked baby pictures?
  Did you think I meant showing it to their partner if they were adamant that you did not do so and it was going to hurt them? Did I ever even imply such a thing?
  
  You seem to think people being upset about things is inconsequential without it going through a peer review process, I'm just trying to gauge where your limit is for that.
  
  Being upset about something is nowhere near the same as trauma. You're being silly.
  
  Where do you draw the line on how much discomfort/sadness/anger your actions cause before it becomes a wrong thing to do?
  I understand embarrassing your adult child by showing child porn of them to their partner is below your bar, but can you describe how you figure out which side you are on?
  Do you disagree with any traditions that are designed to embarrass someone? What about hazing in college or the military? What about making fun of girls over voice chat? If these are bad examples to you, can you come up with something else and answer about that?
  
  Of course there are levels of unacceptable. And the level is above showing someone's adult partner a naked baby picture for fuck's sake.
  I'd ask you if there is any level of discomfort that is acceptable? Tickling causes a level of discomfort, but also pleasure. Should I not tickle a child? Punishing a child when they do something wrong causes them discomfort and sadness and anger. Should time outs be considered child abuse?
  
  Depends if you are talking legally or morally. I disagree with a lot of whats legal. Your examples are silly and easy to answer:
  If they want to be tickled than yes, if not than no. Punishing the child is for their own best interest, not to get them to learn to listen to the king of the house better. We make decisions for them because they aren't capable of making the best decisions for themselves.
  So how exactly does taking pictures of them naked when they are babies or children, help them in any way?
  Its a stupid tradition. Embarrassing people is always bad. Purposely hurting people is always bad. Regardless of the trauma it causes it would still at best make you an incredibly selfish person.

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