8mo ago

A conversation with my wife

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When is the body positivity movement going to acknowledge that men who have been circumcised are not broken? So much toxicity around this online. Every time this comes up, it's just a bunch of people shaming guys who have been circumcised.
- We arent shaming the guys but the parents. Being circuncised is not a condition that just happened. Its shitty parents mutilating their babies because they think it looks better.
  
  I strongly disagree. I did a not have shitty parents; they are wonderful.
  It was misinformation at the time. I HIGHLY DOUBT they were standing there looking at me thinking “his dick will look better without that extra piece of skin when he’s older”.
  Everyone has done something wrong due to misinformation with long lasting repercussions.
  
  It is, people can get circumcised for health issues
  
  it can be done for health reasons, this is usually done later, after the fact. But i'm going to hedge a bet that the rate of circumcisions vastly over blows the rate of medically needed circumcisions.
  
  not a condition that just happened. Its shitty parents mutilating their babies
  I was just adding caveat
  
  man i sure do love asking my parents to circumcize me at the age of 23 because my foreskin is too tight to be useful.
  
  A caveat without context, context that negates any reason to add said caveat.
  
  What do you mean no context?
  I replied directly to the context
  
  There's more intersex people, by magnitudes, than male children needing a circumcision for medical reasons. Least of all before puberty. Most of the time phymosis vanishes with mechanical stimulation alone, if it doesn't then in all but a vanishingly small number of cases some testosterone salve does the rest.
  You'd be much better advised advocating for masturbators (as in pocket pussy) over bare hands, they're mechanically superior not just when it comes to the foreskin but also when it comes to bad habits such as edging rope. I thought they had sex ed in Canada but apparently it's just as bad as in the US.
- when did we start shaming circumcised men? I'm sorry?
  
  You don't go to a bar and someone points at your dick disfigurement (or what we call a dickfigurirement) with, "Hey look at snippy dick"?
  
  sips my cocoa and says absolutely nothing
  
  Well yeah, i don't interact with people, so no i don't go to bars for what that's worth.
  
  There's constant slurs and jokes being thrown our waynat our expense. It's a daily aspect of our lives.
  "Cut that out"
  "are you getting snippy with me?"
  "I'm afraid we'll have to cut our time short"
  You probably don't notice it unless you've been circumcised yourself.
  
  I assume there's more context than just the statements. If someone randomly happens to use the word cut or snippy in a sentence, I don't think that means they are making fun of a circumcision.
  
  im pretty sure we're shitposting. I don't think we're actually being genuine here.
  
  Ruining my fun!
  
  That's what im here for!
  
  Would you say the same thing to a black person who just opened up about racism they've experienced?
  You're attempting to gaslight every circumcised male into believing it's all in our heads.
  
  Do people know you're circumcised based on your skin colour? Seems like a facetious comparison
  
  My dude, I'm circumcised.
  I don't get out much, is this a thing that happens a lot? I guess I don't openly declare I'm circumcised to my social group. So there's no way that they would know. But if they did would they make that a big deal? I have a hard time imagining that they would even care.
  Are you sure this is a societal problem and not a friend group problem?
  
  The other day I saw my grocery store advertising that they were 'slashing prices on sausages'. You're telling me that's not intentional?
  Just a coincidence I'm sure 😒
  
  I think it comes down to whether or not there is negative stigma with being circumcised.
  We all have to set our own bar on this one, from my perspective, I don't see that society really cares if a person is cut or uncut.
  I would say that if this is causing problems for your life, then you should consider seeking therapy. Even if it turns out that society is gunning for you, getting help can make it easier to live in that society.
  
  damn, my life has been ruined.
- Definitely don't want to shame you. I myself was circumcised but I believe it is a complex issue, but down to brass tacks it is actually male genital mutilation.

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