1y ago

Your friend loves your least favourite politician. What do you say?

This question's on my mind because my coworker today mentioned they would vote for Trump if they could (mind you this is 2023, in Canada). I don't generally have the talking points or the desire to fight about it, so I just deflected the conversation. But I often wish I was more strong-willed and could try to figure out why someone believes what they do and, if it's invalid, then convince them otherwise.

Thus, I'm curious what you all would say or what you've done in the past!

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My sister is a sweetheart who loves animals, nature, people, and has given so much of her time and money to take care of our mother.
She voted Trump and it seems like she would do it again. Why?
She's a fundamentalist evangelical Christian. You have to understand the Christian slant if you're setting out to understand Trump voters. It's not the only lens to see the MAGA phenomenon through, but it's a big one.
Why are those two tied together so tightly, even though it's glaringly obvious that Trump isn't a Christian himself and doesn't espouse their values? He gave them all the things they wanted. And he'll keep doing it.
You'll find plenty of other people backing Trump as well, and many will be total assholes and pond scum. The liberal tears crowd, the trolls. Probably the ones many commenting here are talking about. But I suspect these types are only the vocal minority and it's people like my sister who are a much more silent majority. They are beloved people in their communities, they are not the monsters you would make them out to be. It takes an open mind to understand their position. Make sure you're ready to explore and understand without judgement, or else you might as well just write them off and find something more productive to use your time with.
- People's whose politics are fueled by hatred of others having rights are not good people, they just wear their good deeds as a "good people" costume.
  We've listened, and yes they are monsters. Their entire purpose is to take away from others. That's not good people.
  
  Think about what you just said in response to my story. You're so ready to tar and feather that you're willing to tell me that somehow you know the true intent of my sister better than her own brother.
  In this cartoon of a world you live in, I hope someday you find room for nuance.
  
  There's no need for tar and feathers, but it's good to know that's how you see anyone who disagrees.
  The thought that we know someone better-especially someone we love- often clouds our judgement of them. We want them to be good people so we gloss over the terrible parts. That's ok, you keep defending your sister and the rest of us will keep knowing better, no tar and feathers necessary.
  There's no nuance when it comes to Trump though.
  
  You are simply wrong on all points here, with the exception of emotional clouding. There may be emotional clouding going on here, but it's not with me and my sister. It's with the left and Trump. It's causing people like you to speak with insane antisocial rhetoric, and it's what's driving people further apart.
  So you can play the part of the stuck-up removed, or you can open up to people and their complex lives and beliefs, and see that things aren't as simple as you are trying to make them out to be.
  While I'm not orthodox, I'm well into the left wing of politics, and even I can see that Trump isn't all bad. Few people that ever lived are all bad.
  
  I would argue that the problem is the blindness to the hatred. Just because someone did a good thing once doesn't mean they are a good person. People can be all bad and still do good things- like Trump. When the root of everything you try to accomplish is taking away from others then you are all bad,no matter how many good things you make your disguise out of.
  That's not stuck up- that's reality.
  Generally speaking people are a mix of bad and good- people who so wholeheartedly support Trump are not those people, sorry. You cannot base your beliefs on hatred and taking away rights and then use the same breath to say that you are also a good person, the grey area isn't that deep. You cannot vote for the suffering of people and then say that you are a good person too.
  
  But that's exactly it, from another person's perspective he's not taking away anything, he's giving. This is what I'm trying to highlight here and all I'm getting are squawks about Trump is bad, my sister is bad. To some people Trump is restoring a desecrated country. They grew up their whole lives with a certain world view of good and evil, it's not their fault religion twisted their minds, this is the nuance I'm pleading you to take notice but all you can give me are limp platitudes that most people are good and bad, but Trump and his supporters are bad bad. Not very enlightening, because it doesn't say much about the real life people we're discussing.
  Those people are not evil, though they may be doing evil. Just as you said, which means I expect you to acknowledge this point, "just because someone does good it does not make them good" works the other way around: just because someone does evil does not make them evil. This is why we need to find inroads with this group to create a space that can be shared peacefully by everyone. Calling them all bad and shutting down any effort to discuss only results in something even more horrifying, and frankly, evil: war.
- they are not the monsters you would make them out to be
  Ah, so a different variety of monster then, gotcha
  
  Exactly. Kind in the micro, monsters in the macro. If you're trying to raise money for the needy through the church but don't want the government to help them at scale you really just want glory for your god and safety just for your community over other communities. Helping people is just an accident in pursuit of those causes.
  
  What? Even if you engaged in charity solely to "glorify God", why would welfare prevent you from doing that? Do you think welfare programs steal glory from God? Do you think that religious people think this way? (Outside of the literally mentally ill, no they don't. They view charity as a moral obligation, not the only mechanism by which to "glorify God". Just like any normal effective altruist).
  "Just for your community over other communities"- Again, what? Improving the conditions of your community isn't harming other communities. People in other communities also have a responsibility to improve their community, and there is nothing preventing one community from helping another.
  "Helping people is just an accident in pursuit of those causes"-If it was just an accident, then surely it would be avoided? Let's not forget that these causes are "glorifying God", and either harming or ignoring other communities.
  It's okay to criticise trying to apply individualistic practices on a systemic scale, but you're just fabricating nonsense to try to justify how you already decided to feel.
  
  You can't possibly understand how dumb you look having said that about someone you don't know to someone who knows very well. Get a life you bum.
  
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- I'm sure your sister is a lovely person but how blind can she be after all that has happened? Is she voting for Trump or is she just brainlessly voting republican? And in either case, why? Where's her culpablity?
  
  She really is, and the others who want to tar and feather any and all Trump voters could learn something knowing her.
  But your hunch is likely correct. Christian fundamentalists do not vote Democrat. Democrats support choice, and in their frame of reference God already chose and we don't get a say. Abortion is a big one, despite there being nothing in the Bible to indicate a solid position on the matter.
  Aside from the religious dogma, I doubt she spends any time on the internet or listening to political punditry. With less information to go by, she probably sees the hate as a part of the left's own orthodoxy and something that can be dismissed. As much as the left has going for it, there is some fierce orthodoxy and tone deafness that fuels the right wing's disdain and drives their dismissal of us.
  Can you be culpable if you were not aware? I know that doesn't fly in matters of law but I think a person can be forgiven to an extent if they don't know the depths of a matter as well as others.
  
  I can tell you love and respect your sister, which can sometimes be hard when you're ideologically opposites.
  I do think you're excusing her a little too easily. Don't we all have a responsibility to be informed, especially about who we vote for?
  
  Ideally, yes. Practically? Not going to happen. We can't expect it, we can only hope that's what people are doing.
  This fact is why you hear some people say that not everyone should be allowed to vote. There is a staggering amount of ignorance in our society, that's just how it is.
  It's easy to excuse people when you have love in your heart. This may be what's missing in our society.
- loves animals, nature, people
  voted Trump
  If she did the latter, she isn't the former.
  
  Then you don't know people well and I dare say you should put down the phone and try harder.
  This low effort dunk just makes you look ignorant.
  
  There's no 'dunk'. She voted against people, animals, and nature. Your sister is not a good person.
  A friendly demeanor slapped over evil actions doesn't make the actions any less evil.
  Giving her the benefit of the doubt, best case scenario is she's just stupid and was tricked by evil people into being a tool. Worst case, she understands what she's doing and is just openly evil.
  In any case, you can't claim to love thy neighbor while actively advocating for burning their house down.
  
  Your sister is not a good person.
  You are categorically wrong, and I'm trying to use this opportunity to shine a light on this part of you that is unable to see beyond what is black or white.
  You cannot reduce a person down to good or evil based on how they voted. It's insane to think you can. It's insane to think you can tell me the truth about my sister.
  This insanity is what the right sees when people like you talk, and it's what is driving the wedge further and further in-between what would otherwise be cooperative groups who want the same basic things in life, with key differences that require rational compromises.
  
  Categorically speaking, as the saying goes: "If 9 people sit down at a table with 1 Nazi without protest, there are 10 Nazis at the table."
  You cannot reduce a person down to good or evil based on how they voted. It’s insane to think you can.
  It's insane to think you can't. If you support evil, that makes you evil. The exception being the best case scenario mentioned previously of just being stupid. If you turn a blind eye to evil behavior from someone just because they're in your family, that's a weakness on YOUR part. Feel free to fix that if you have any respect for yourself or your sister, but good luck with that - I've seen the Trump brand of koolaid seep into a couple members of my own family, and it's a potent drug.
  This insanity is what the right sees when people like you talk, and it’s what is driving the wedge further and further in-between what would otherwise be cooperative groups who want the same basic things in life, with key differences that require rational compromises.
  The right sees what they want to see. Hatred, superstition, and emotional contrarian nonsense are not worthy of compromise; take those away from the right wing and there's nothing left to compromise with. Saying that I'm driving a wedge between that vitriol and the rest of society is not the criticism you think it is.
  
  The way you talk to strangers you don't know you absolutely deserve the vitriol. Drink up and nevermind how desperately confused you are.
  
  you don’t know
  I can assess only what you've told me, and what you've told me is that you support evil, but it's cool because you like animals and you've wrapped your hatred with religion.
  If Christianity is actually important to you (or to your sister at least - you haven't indicated whether or not that's your cup of tea as well) and you want to understand it beyond blindly accepting what some asshole at an alter tells you, you might want to read up on the Pharisees - they did the same thing, and Jesus was appalled by them, just as he'd be appalled by you and your sister.
  Your showmanship doesn't mean squat.

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