I know what you mean. I've been struggling myself. On top of kind of being unable to relate, I'm not tech savvy and with a demanding toddler on me I just don't find the time or energy to figure out how to even search for the right communities. I'm trying, but at 2 am when I have 15 minutes for myself and this app asks me what instance I want to view something in and doesn't let me comment something somewhere and then I try to check whether Abrathatfits is already on lemmy I get a million (non bra related) search results - it's just echausting for I don't know what.
I miss the memes (I don't get 80% of the memes here since most are some jokes about tech or coding), and I miss the girly subs. I miss makeup addiction ffs and beyond the bump, and moldly interesting. I like politics in general but somehow the communities here don't have any news that I care about. The ukraine communities are also rather dead here, that was an important one since I have family on both sides of the border.
Maybe I should put more effort into it, more energy, more search les and adjustments, but it might just be that lemmy, while a great concept, is just not for me. Maybe there just aren't the communities I need. I also doubt I will go back to reddit but damn, I am lost. Maybe I should. Especially when it comes to Ukraine I am really debating whether supporting a futile protest of a social media website to make a point is really worth being less informed and connected.
Sorry for the long rant tho.