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Imo, the issue in your comment is not the fact that it might not be politcally correct - that's sounded kind of like a preemptive strawman.
It's that once more a body perceived as feminine is sexualized.
These people were protesting for their rights, not hoping to be ogled and commented upon by strangers on the internet.
Also, not everyone is attracted to the same traits in another person.
Yes I sexualize female bodies because I find them sexually attractive. Especially when I don’t know the person at all and it’s just a photo, so the only conclusion I can reach about them is: “Hot”.
I knew the comment was insensitive due to what it’s happening but I wanted to say it, so I said it. Downvote me, that’s why the mechanism is there.
No one needs to know your gooning preferences on a news comment section
hes one of the "nice" guys that people are talking about.
I knew the comment was insensitive due to what it’s happening but I wanted to say it
I'm a bit surprised you don't seem to see what's wrong with this.
Would you mind explaining why you find it ok to write offensive things that are only tangentially related to the topic?
Yes I sexualize female bodies because I find them sexually attractive
What happens in your mind belongs to you and I'm not judging that.
On the other hand, posting it in a public place - especially commenting a news article about a fight for their rights - just adds to the societal misogynistic habit that it's ok to sexualize fem bodies anytime, anywhere and to care less about their message than the way we see them.
Downvote me, that’s why the mechanism is there
I don't feel like it's an appropriate response, I'd rather engage in the discussion for two reasons:
I finally created an account just to say what a compassionate and well articulates response this is.
I feel so grateful when I get well articulates criticism because most people will not expense the energy to tell me why I'm wrong so when someone cares enough to do so its like a gift.
I was feeling like it was not a great thing to say either but wasn't sure how to articulate it.
I agree, it's not about policing what you think about these individuals it's about not perpetuating a kind of toxic pattern into the public sphere.
It's also true that most people will neither comment nor up/down vote and simply scan comments and form opinions. Thanks for taking the time to meaningfully reply.
Glad you had a laugh! It's inspired by my life, haha.
Thanks, have a great mornafternight!
Thanks for your kind words <3
one of those people that says "no offense" but just saying offensive things to peope.
You seem to imply that we have to maintain the same decorum in anonymous online spaces as we do in real life. When I’m online I can allow myself to be pure ego, because that’s the point of anonymity in the internet. I will continue to enjoy that as long as I can. Anything can be offensive to someone so I don’t worry too much about what is or isn’t offensive, especially so in anonymous online spaces.
To your second point. I think it is fine to sexualize all bodies, because we are sexual beings. I think women should embrace it and do it to men in return. The reason women don’t is often decorum or some idea of how a woman should properly think and act. We can acknowledge and respect the person for who they are after we know them, but before that I think it’s perfectly fine to let your first judgement be sexual. It’s wired into us and to act otherwise is denying human nature and even animal nature itself. By no means does that mean that I reduce people simply to their sex appeal, rather that without anything else to go on, that will be my first thought. I mean I can assume a lot of things about this lady from where she is, what she’s doing, other parts of her appearance etc. But I would only be assuming. Her being hot is the only objective (her attractiveness is a fact, fite me) assessment of her I can make.
So in a nutshell, I think humans better as monke and I allow myself to be monke online if I feel like it.
You seem to imply that we have to maintain the same decorum in anonymous online spaces as we do in real life.
I feel like here lies the root of our disagreement.
One one hand you are right, I do imply that there are similarities between anonymous online spaces and real life public spaces.
On of them is consequences: the people on the other side of the screen can be hurt by what we say as much as they would be if these things had been said to their face and this should make us be mindful of what we choose to write and what we keep for ourselves or only share with friends in private spaces.
On the other hand, you've been mentioning political correctness and decorum as reasons for which I would criticize your post. I don't feel like I'm big on either, be it online or IRL (as a vegan I've been politically incorrect and have lacked decorum in a online and IRL discussions and would do it again in the same circonstances). But to me, reinforcing the toxicity of a public space (online or IRL) for an oppressed category is never a good thing and I try to avoid it. As for why I believe your first post belongs in this catagory, I've explained it as clearly as I could in my previous answer and I don't think I can provide anything more.
When I’m online I can allow myself to be pure ego, because that’s the point of anonymity in the internet. I will continue to enjoy that as long as I can. Anything can be offensive to someone so I don’t worry too much about what is or isn’t offensive, especially so in anonymous online spaces.
Again, IMO focusing on the offensiveness is missing the point.
For example, were I to write FUCK YOU FOR MAKING LIFE HARDER FOR WOMEN IN AN ALREADY MISOGYNISTIC SOCIETY, that would be offensive to you. But I think it would still be ok because afaik we're both men talking about how to react to women's bodies and in this way neither of us belongs to a category that oppresses the other so I would not be reinforcing a toxic societal structure that makes your life and the one of people in your category harder.
To your second point. I think it is fine to sexualize all bodies, because we are sexual beings. [...] it’s perfectly fine to let your first judgement be sexual. It’s wired into us and to act otherwise is denying human nature and even animal nature itself
I don't fell like I can provide an educated enough answer to this, so what follows is just how I feel. I'm always very cautious when I read that stuff is part of human nature, or that it happens this way in nature... because of two reasons. First, lots of stuff has been said to be human nature for a time before being proven to be social conditioning. Second, it's an argument that is most of the time used to justify shitty behaviours, so...
I could offer the couter argument that in my opinion, the first judgement that happens in nature is "is this dangerous to me?" (source: none, but I also don't believe you can provide a better one for your point).
I think women should embrace it and do it to men in return. The reason women don’t is often decorum or some idea of how a woman should properly think and act
The reason is societal conditioning, which makes men behave as if women were mainly sexual objects and women behave as if their existence is conditioned by whether men find them attractive (based on criteria that change all the time). This is learned very soon in the childhood and reinforced by mainstream culture (think of the number of "romantic" comedies in which women that don't fit the current criteria for beauty are completely ignored by the man protagonist, of the number of movies that don't even pass the bechdel test...)
We can acknowledge and respect the person for who they are after we know them, but before that I think it’s perfectly fine to let your first judgement be sexual.
I'm again not trying to judge what happens in your mind, and your first judgement about someone you see or meet belongs to you alone. But I'm also saying that while we feel what we feel, we can still choose how we act. And we can take a bit of time to think about how our actions (and what we say or write) affects the individuals that receive them and in which societal dynamic they fit. And for me that's a better measure of respect than the vague impression that somewhere in our mind we respect the person. I usually respect the woman next to me in the street by not groping her ass or not making a loud comment about her cleavage, however attractive I might find them inside myself.
By no means does that mean that I reduce people simply to their sex appeal, rather that without anything else to go on, that will be my first thought. I mean I can assume a lot of things about this lady from where she is, what she’s doing, other parts of her appearance etc. But I would only be assuming. Her being hot is the only objective (her attractiveness is a fact, fite me) assessment of her I can make.
The problem here is that no one can know what happens in your mind. The only thing anyone can know objectively is how you act, and in this case what you write. And what you wrote was taking attention from an important fight to divert it to subjective bodily (not gonna fite you because that's not who I am, but I'm not gonna agree with you either) comments about perceived hotness.
So for all effects and purposes, independantly of what happens in your mind, you actually reduced this person to their sex appeal in a public space and I really don't think that is ok.
Thanks for taking part in this discussion in good faith. I'm going to stop here for two reasons. First, IMO we've both made our points and positions quite clear and I don't think we can provide further useful material. Second, I'm about to shout insults at you and I don't believe a productive discussion can happen after that.
So in a nutshell, I think humans better as monke and I allow myself to be monke online if I feel like it.
FUCK YOU FOR MAKING LIFE HARDER FOR WOMEN IN AN ALREADY MISOGYNISTIC SOCIETY AND IF YOU'RE SUCH A MONKEY GO EAT SOME FUCKING BANANAS IN A FUCKING TREE INSTEAD OF ACTING LIKE A SHITTY MAN THAT OBJECTIFIES WOMEN!!! (oops, looks like I'm lacking decorum)
Sexuality is not misogyny. I’m for the absolute sexual liberation of humans regardless of their gender. You seem more interested in keeping the same old social constructs but with different pretenses. So from my point of view the only one re-enforcing patriarchal notions and perpetuating the subjugation of women is you.
Think about it.
What a sociopathic ideology.
Your comment makes me think less of your intelligence, especially since all I know about you is from your comment. I thought this might be insulting, but I wanted to say it, so I said it.
I probably would think the same if you wrote a similar comment so can’t say you’re in the wrong here.
Some advice, you can see a hot woman in a picture online, wank and then not comment. You're not obligated to mention it
Beauty is not an objective fact, I have never found anyone covered in tattoos "hot as fuck"
She's not gonna fuck you bro
I know :(
When trying to be an ally goes wrong
Nah, just needed to say it. I knew it wasn’t going to be popular.
I mean, i agree she's hot. But if a woman thinks she's hot. That's gay. Technically.
That is an astute observation. You got me.
Face the nearest wall and start headbutting it.
For the sake of everyone.
If you surround a 3 with 1s they look like an 8. This is a well known phenomenon.
Low key savage my man. Phew.
Tis only but the truth