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  • Also, why would you bring up something that I’ve already “admitted” in your parlance and tell it to me?

    Because it's central to my own point, and context helps make things clear?

    What counterpoint did I raise to this argument when it was raised before?

    I saw nothing that I observed as a counter-point.

    I guess sharing a view with you is “admitting” something, since this needs to be an adversarial interaction and your point of view is presumed to be the “right” one that you’re trying to bring me around to

    No, as I said above, we are working on mutual communication, leading hopefully to us both learning more about the issue under discussion.

    Since "admitted" doesn't work for you, what other word would you have me use? I'm trying to convey you knowing something, and saying that something, but not framing it in a way that communicates to me that you are thinking about it the same way I am, but are instead treating it as a minor point, or once detached from the immediate point, while I find it to be critical to the immediate point.

    • What counterpoint did I raise to this argument when it was raised before?

      I saw nothing that I observed as a counter-point.

      Ah! We've reached the crux of the issue. You can search for the key word "blame" to observe, up above, you raising this exact point with a different analogy, and then me responding to it. See if that helps you find it. Let me know what you come up with.

      No, as I said above, we are working on mutual communication, leading hopefully to us both learning more about the issue under discussion.

      Honestly, I'm not trying to be rude about it, and I know I am a little bit, but it doesn't sound that way to me. It seems like I'm communicating, and you're repeating without paying much attention to what I'm saying except insofar as to try to detect things you can disagree with. That's not really mutual communication.

      Since “admitted” doesn’t work for you, what other word would you have me use?

      It's not actually the word choice. It's you taking some area where we agree, and treating it as an "admission" by me of something you're trying to prove to me, instead of, you know, just us seeing things the same way and then going forward from there.

      Stop repeating to me things I've already said to you as if they're going to be news to me. Stop treating it like when we agree, that's me "admitting" something, instead of just me believing it and agreeing with you. Stop treating this as a lecture where you're trying to get me to "admit" things. Just relax. Read what I wrote, try to understand it, and I'll do the same for your stuff.

      Go back and read what I already wrote, get some insight on what I think and why I think it. Once you can at least summarize back to me what my argument is, that's mutual communication. It seems like you're coming at this from a standpoint that I need to change my mind, you don't, and what I have to say about it is not "the critical point" and just repeating your critical points at me.

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