The Dissociation Machine

So, from skimming the article it kinda frames it like, you are either traumatized or not and you should "act" like it all the time.

I'm of the opinion, from various life experiences, that a traumatic event is kinda like a bullseye. The center is where those most immediately and severely impacted are at and every "ring" emanating from the center is a group of people who are impacted less and less directly and severely.

Things like 9/11/2001 in the USA only really had a small number of people at the "bullseye" and the rest of us were way out in the rings. Sure there were effects to my life but nothing really traumatic so there really isn't anything that needs to be dealt with. Me making fun of it, is less about dissociation and more about how the event doesn't deserve to be memorialized in the way to be a thought terminating cliche.

I remember being in high school and it seemed like, for a pretty small down, one high school aged kid a year at a minimum died. It was kinda sad, but unless you were a friend or family, there really wasn't anything to be traumatized about. All of the teachers were acting like we were all supposed to be terribly upset, some of the students acted like they were really upset, and it was kinda expected that you were to play along and be sullen and quiet.

My mom told me a story about when she had to tell her coworkers that she had cancer and then had to spend days consoling everybody else who was upset that she had cancer. She hated every minute of it. Then I had to deal with the same thing when my mom died of her cancer, I told my bosses at work (as warning that I might need to duck out of work at random times to deal with paperwork stuff), and then had to deal with some uncomfortably long situations where another employee was very very VERY upset.... for me. It was exhausting and time consuming and after dealing with dozens of people for various "executor of an estate" reasons I couldn't stop rolling my eyes at people who said "sorry for your loss".